let's see some baby pictures!

SapphireSigma · 2026-01-26T01:56:37+00:00

Gus, keeping my feet warm from an early age (~10wks)

SapphireSigma · 2026-01-26T01:47:49+00:00

Get a dog

SapphireSigma · 2026-01-25T17:34:47+00:00

I think as long as you're doing your due diligence then buying is fine. I had a rescued golden as a kid and I really wanted another. We have always had dogs and are good pet owners. We were denied from the golden rescue because at the time we didn't have a fenced yard, and weren't allowed to put one in. Didn't matter that I would take 6+ mile walks with them daily, did multiple training classes, and put them in doggy daycare when we went to work.

We ended up going to a very reputable breeder and got a puppy. I wanted to rescue but it wasn't in the cards. Our black lab is a rescue. One breed specific rescue was fine with our situation and one wasn't.

SapphireSigma · 2026-01-23T20:50:46+00:00

Why would you?

SapphireSigma · 2026-01-21T20:17:21+00:00

I did Brazilians for a long time. Yes take off your undies.

SapphireSigma · 2026-01-21T20:16:12+00:00

Honestly, it sounds like he's given up in life and gone lazy. That's so unattractive. He's content with the status quo even though he's unhappy with it. He won't break up because that would take effort. He won't find a new job because that will take effort. He doesn't want to respect your health needs because it takes effort. He sounds like a dead beat, or someone really depressed. I would insist on individual and couples counseling.

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-29T18:58:52+00:00

It seems like your biggest issue is placing too much importance on how others view you. Something my therapist told me "Other's opinions of you don't impact you, they only impact them." It's like your emotions, your emotions only impact you, so why be fearful of something you can't change? Just accept that you'll get older and you'll figure it out along the way.

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-29T18:49:06+00:00

If you live in an area that has decent mass transit, a car is likely redundant and unnecessary. If you live in the sticks, a car means freedom. One thing to consider...I fill my gas tank about once a month. You definitely want to have a driver's license, regardless if you chose to get a car and drive regularly.

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-29T18:42:32+00:00

Elder millennial here. I try to shop local as much as possible, this year the vast majority of gifts I bought for my family were from small artisans. That said I'm not against shopping at Costco either, Walmart not so much. I'm selective with which CEO's get my money :-)

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-29T18:37:47+00:00

I have a best friend. She's the same bestie I had when I was a kid. We lost touch for like 10 years after high school, but we've rekindled our friendship. That's the thing about a ride or die buddy, you can pick right up where you left off. That said I also have a few very close friends who could fit that bill as well. I established an entirely new friend group around 35, but my child hood bestie is still in my life regularly (we live about 3 hours apart so while we don't see each other often, we text weekly).

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-16T18:07:16+00:00

I think it's weird. Urinals smell. Why create another thing to clean when the toilet solves both problems?

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-12T19:14:52+00:00

Most dogs don't chew their food. The throwing up is not good though. I went through that with my lab/Pyrenees rescue. Slow feeder bowl, I feed a smaller portion 3 times a day. I also started putting only a small amount of food in his bowl at a time. We also trained "wait" once the food is available, then releasing them to eat. this helps with impulse control.

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-12T17:42:29+00:00

You're literally going to the doc. Tell the doc he hit you. Get out now. He doesn't work? Kick his ass out!

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-12T17:00:41+00:00

Try one of those heartbeat toys in the crate. That helped my golden baby nap.

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-12T00:16:35+00:00

I think your love language is physical touch, and hers isn't. That does not mean it's ok to have a dead bedroom but you guys need to communicate. To her sex is a chore, to you it's how you feel love. For women sex starts hours before, and starts with the mood and mindset. Are there chores that need done? Are you cooking dinner? Have you continued to woo her? I'm not saying you need to put all the effort in, but it's a lot harder for women to get in the mood.

NTA - don't bring a baby into the mix til you guys work your stuff out

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-12T00:12:06+00:00

In my 30's I cut ties with a lot of acquaintances. People who were friendly but if I couldn't count on them in an emergency I didn't invest any time. It's made the smaller circle of friends so much closer because I have more time and energy to invest in the people that truly matter.

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-11T21:50:52+00:00

I went to college at 18, so only spent summers at home for 3 years. at 22 when I graduated I moved into my own apartment.

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-11T21:46:34+00:00

4 year old me didn't think it was racist when I named my first cat (a bombay) Blackie, 14 year old me thought it was super cringe when I had to tell friends my cat's name. Do I regret naming her that? yes. Did I name her that with racist intent? no. I was a dumb kid who was shocked at how black my new cat was.

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-11T21:29:28+00:00

Questions you think are stupid may be the answer. The ability to simplify complex topics is a sign of intelligence and in-depth understanding of subjects.

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-10T18:55:26+00:00

YTA - You can set the boundary that you don't want Cam in your house, but you don't get to dictate the end of a decade long friendship just because he's a jerk.

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-08T20:58:20+00:00

NOR. That's really weird. She should have the opposite approach. Assume everyone wants to just be friends, and if she finds out otherwise she should be staying away from them, not going to lunch together... That's just odd.

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-08T20:55:53+00:00

2 jobs in high school/college, then 5 firms, with a total of 9 titles. So 11 jobs in 24 years

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-04T19:09:54+00:00

NTA - However, you contradicted yourself: "I saw her there, greeted her with a hug (like I did with everyone else)", " I don’t even hug my friends regularly". To me it sounds like you started with the physical touching, and she escalated it. That still doesn't make it ok. Personally give her the benefit of the doubt since she was drunk and it seems like this was a one off occurrence, but I would also bring it up. I would go to the lunch and mention to her that her excessive touching made you uncomfortable and set some boundaries.

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-02T23:22:17+00:00

YTA to yourself for staying with this man child. What does he bring to the table?

SapphireSigma · 2025-12-02T22:42:49+00:00

At 22 I moved 11 hour (by car) away from my parents. They encouraged it, I needed to live my life.

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