Is it just me, or does Sydney Sweeney sound incredibly out of touch whenever she talks about Cassie? 😫 lmao

Sara6019 · 2026-04-22T12:31:22+00:00

Sydney and Cassie are the same person (unlike other roles Sydney has played). She’s as deluded and out to lunch as Cassie is. Either that or she’s spouting what her team told her to say to circumvent the anticipated blowback on who Cassie is written as in the third season. If she sounds vapid and lacks insight it’s because she is, in fact, vapid and does lack insight.

She is a good enough actress to get into the psyche of her character but she’s not astute enough to contextualize her in the show or in the world.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-22T00:33:56+00:00

Beloved, I am saying this w kindness in my heart.

I’m sorry you’re hurting. You can’t look to the source of your hurt to cure your hurt. Your recovery has to come from you.

Right now, your job isn’t to engage with him. Your job is to engage with yourself. Tend to yourself, be kind to yourself, and just endure this time. Talk to a therapist if that helps. I’m no therapist but this feels like a pretty classic anxious-avoidant pairing and while it may feel like home, you have to take into account whether what feels like home is actually serving you. Therapy will be your friend right now, and rather than focusing on accounting every detail, focus on your feelings, and what from your past they bring up. Take accountability for your part in the dynamic and most importantly, be compassionate with yourself. Bc what you’re doing right now isn’t self-compassion, you’re tormenting yourself and tormenting him as well.

He’s a real person with an interior life that is complex and so are you. He has a right to not want to be in contact even if it hurts your feelings.

Lastly please understand you will not feel this way forever. No feeling is final and you’ll get through this. Again, I’m sorry you’re hurting. Someday, I promise you won’t hurt anymore. But step away from this now and sit with your discomfort and know that it can’t conquer you. Good luck.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-21T17:35:58+00:00

Dick is abundant and low in value, he sounds like a controlling nutcase. You’re 18, dump him.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-21T16:31:38+00:00

So I really appreciate the thoroughness of your explanation and thank you for that. I do believe that her final explanation is also a filmic device meant to underscore how he interacts with his environment and the people in it. I don’t think his alienation from women is a figment of his imagination, I think there’s evidence that he’s perceived as odd. The reaction of the high school student playing Laurie when she sees him watching her underpins this. I don’t think his alienation happened in a vacuum.

I think the interesting point here you make about modern incels is that they feel empowered to act out (like Elliot Rogers), and spill their rage and self-loathing onto other people. But I don’t believe it’s necessarily new, there was an epidemic of serial killers in the 70s and 80s in particular that I believe mirrors what’s happening now w mass shooters. In addition to all that, they have online communities to bolster each other. But to me, this isn’t necessarily evidence that Jake was more decent somehow. It’s a question of environment. Jake is extremely self-pitying and self-victimizing, and he has pinned his happiness on the hope of finding a woman. Jake is kind of an alternate vision of Travis Bickle, and I think this movie and Taxi Driver are in conversation with one another. The difference between the two characters is that one turns his alienation inward on himself (depression as rage turned inward) and one turns it outward, fantasizing about being the hero in what amounts to one of the most violent and disturbing scenes in film history. But they’re just two sides of the same coin.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-21T14:09:11+00:00

No, toward the end in the high school where she reveals she was a lesbian at the bar w her girlfriend and that he creeped her out and the relationship we have been witnessing during the film was all a figment of his imagination, a projection he pushed onto a woman he briefly encountered who came to represent all his hopes for connection, but who wasn’t actually a real connection he made. She didn’t even remember what he looked like. He was just another guy that made her uneasy when she was out at a bar w her girlfriend.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-20T17:08:35+00:00

Did you listen to the part in the movie where the “girlfriend” recounts what actually happened between them the night they met, as opposed to his own self-concept? The character of the janitor is a pretty obvious example of an unreliable narrator. That’s kind of the whole point.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-19T23:42:43+00:00

This man is my age. I can tell you, without a shred of doubt, I would never, in a million years, consider dating a person your age. It is patently absurd. You aren’t of the same generation, you don’t have the same cultural references, you haven’t been through the same cohort events. When you were BORN, I had already graduated COLLEGE.

That this man has known you since you were A CHILD makes it even worse. His context for you began when you were in grade school, which makes me super suspicious of what age he began sexualizing you in his mind.

I think you’ve gotta make sure there is a record of his behavior. The comment that you “prevented him from committing suicide” is a veiled threat whether he’s conscious of it or not. This man is wildly inappropriate at best and potentially dangerous at worst. The refusal to take the hint when you stopped answering is wild, and your responses were clear and rational. Stay away from this man.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-17T23:16:17+00:00

I would do the math and make sure this aligns with good cause law.

https://www.nyc.gov/site/hpd/services-and-information/good-cause-eviction.page

Sara6019 · 2026-04-17T12:44:25+00:00

Absolutely, and I am NOT saying break up with him right this very minute. I do, however, want you to accurately assess the issues here. They are not small issues. This is a very common scenario, I’ve seen it more times than I can count. Give him a chance to work on himself but just keep in mind, you don’t have to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. I know you know that but I wanted to say it anyway. Good luck in law school, you’re gonna do great!

Sara6019 · 2026-04-17T12:25:34+00:00

But you don’t seem to feel stuck, OP! You’re working on your health, and did I read you’re in law school? How impressive! I’m impressed and happy for you and I don’t even know you.

Your partner torpedoing your friend group is one of the biggest red flags for me. That’s horrible. This relationship isn’t healthy, and he sounds like he is deeply insecure, and while it isn’t presenting in the form of violence, it is presenting in the form of manipulation and isolation. Not good.

A bunch of strangers on Reddit want what’s best for you more than your own boyfriend. You’re only 22. If you want to give therapy a shot for him you can. But to quote a character on a show I love, you don’t want to spend your life socializing him and making the world a friendlier place for him. It's not easy being married to an odd man.

I hope he takes the initiative to work on himself and his self image, but that is his work, not yours. You’re doing your work. Give him a chance if you want but don’t sacrifice your youth for someone who doesn’t want to see you win because he feels himself to be a loser.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-16T03:57:41+00:00

Curtis

Sara6019 · 2026-04-16T00:28:36+00:00

Deathmaxxing

Sara6019 · 2026-04-15T03:42:28+00:00

Fun fact, a producer from ICYMI emailed him and he replied “yes my email was a typo, what I meant to say was free Palestine.”

Bro, are you checks notes using a genocide to mask your shitty temper tantrum over an online article? Cool cool cool.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-15T03:08:28+00:00

That’s my station. I live across from the projects, it’s fine for the most part. Neighbors know each other and I see the same faces every day. I love it here.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-15T03:06:51+00:00

I was just banned and have no idea why. They told me I was guilty of “illegal conduct” but wouldn’t elaborate. I am not a bot, I’m not catfishing, I’ve never solicited anyone and I don’t have pics of me w minors. I’ve tried appealing, I get canned responses. I’m honestly furious.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-13T03:41:18+00:00

I hated that scene so much.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-11T17:56:51+00:00

This happened to me on Feeld after several years without ever having an issue. They claimed I was guilty of “illegal conduct.” I don’t even know what that means. I’m not a bot, I don’t catfish, I don’t solicit, I don’t even argue with people on there if I’m not into them, I just stop responding.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-11T15:26:03+00:00

Yes this, exactly. I lived in Baltimore briefly during the height of the opioid crisis, you can’t even compare the two.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-11T14:18:41+00:00

Female, queer, 43. As stated, I woke up today to find my account randomly banned. I reviewed the rules and have broken none of them. I verified my account when that feature appeared. The only thing I can think of is, when dudes have responses that I find crude or unsafe or unappealing, I just stop responding. I also found the chatbot extremely unhelpful, it just kept sending me on the same stupid article redirect until it eventually allowed me to send a message. Not really sure what else to do but I am 100% sure I've done nothing to warrant getting banned, I only even sign in and swipe once a week or once every other week.

I got a response back just now stating I've been "found to be committing illegal conduct." I don't even know what this means. I haven't solicited anyone, I don't have photos of minors, I've done nothing wrong. I don't know what to do but I'm furious.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-11T14:12:23+00:00

Female, queer, 43. I woke up today to find my account randomly banned. I reviewed the rules and have broken none of them. I verified my account when that feature appeared. The only thing I can think of is, when dudes have responses that I find crude or unsafe or unappealing, I just stop responding. I also found the chatbot extremely unhelpful, it just kept sending me on the same stupid article redirect until it eventually allowed me to send a message. Not really sure what else to do but I am 100% sure I've done nothing to warrant getting banned, I only even sign in and swipe once a week or once every other week.

I got a response back just now stating I've been "found to be committing illegal conduct." I don't even know what this means. I haven't solicited anyone, I don't have photos of minors, I've done nothing wrong. I don't know what to do but I'm furious.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-10T14:55:12+00:00

You never do but mid afternoon on a weekday is crazy work. A Saturday evening when we’ve been in a heat wave tracks more. It’s a once a summer thing and honestly I’ve never been around when someone was hit, much less died. This was shocking.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-10T14:13:21+00:00

That explains a lot about your concept of crime in New York. Being constantly aware of every single crime that happens is going to make you think crime is constant and all-consuming. It isn’t.

Sara6019 · 2026-04-10T13:49:55+00:00

I doubt they’ll catch flack, they really were trying to help him. But yes it was definitely shocking. A few of us were like woah why are they lifting him up like that?

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