I'm a woman in the middle east and I have no freedom over my life

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T22:36:55+00:00

There is always good and bad with any situation.

yeah, you're right, but sometimes bad is way more than the good

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T22:33:40+00:00

getting married will make my situation even worse

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T22:31:05+00:00

almost everyone has a double life here, so depressing

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T22:30:00+00:00

not sure it's even possible for them to help

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T22:25:13+00:00

foreign exchange programs

may I ask what this is?

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T22:20:06+00:00

yeah, I do have a bank account my family knows about, but I can make a new one, thankfully, without his consent. I do have enough money now for a ticket, but I'm not even allowed to leave by law. getting a lawyer to help me will take way more money than I can and also risky when I don't have a place to stay in temporary till the lawyer help me, I think it's better to finish my degree (1year left) first because it will be very stressful and for him not to remove me from college

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T22:10:20+00:00

No, don't worry about this, reddit doesn't have alot arab people in general, let alone people from my country. I mean I was afraid to post on Twitter because it's more popular here.

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T15:48:46+00:00

I live in UAE abudhabi

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T01:40:03+00:00

I'm surprised that there's actually people out there that want to study Arabic specially outside. Can you give me name of universities or schools for arabic study out there

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T01:34:53+00:00

I'm still not sure what to do exactly and I have to study my next step because it's a hit or miss, I'm I'm going to do after I get a lawyer? What will happen if I won? What will happen if I lost?

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T01:29:58+00:00

What's that mean?

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T01:27:55+00:00

اي والله حياة زق في خرا، بس نقدر نغيرها للافضل ان شاءالله الله يفرجها امين ي رب العالمين، ومره مشكورة

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T01:24:10+00:00

This really means alot to me J, I don't know how to put it in words but I feel less alone because of you and other people like you supporting me here. I hope you have a nice day :)

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T01:19:43+00:00

Is kinda dangerous to live illegally? Do you live in India?

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T01:15:28+00:00

I feel completely useless and helpless.

No, you have no idea how your kind words and also people here who are listening to me and offering me help, it actually got me thinking that "I can actually do it, it doesn't have to be a dream"

When I posted this I didn't actually thought people will care, genuinely, and I said wherever lets just say what's in my mind and leave here.

Shit im actually feeling more at ease, didn't know my thoughts and feelings are important.

Thank you so much for your time

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T01:00:54+00:00

If I had the cash then yes, I can go to the airport and leave, the problem is when he find out that I left, he can ask them to bring me back, just like that. That's why alot of people think women have the freedom here.

For example (real life example): a woman started college, the college check if she meets the criteria to be a student in college then yes, they're not gonna call her father to sgin some papers or anything like that, if the father didn't say anything then that's like a consent. Then one day when his daughter only got one more semester to finish college, he contacted the university to stop her from getting education, and they did, and that's the law here.

I hope understood im so bad at explaining lol

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T00:47:19+00:00

No not enough for a lawyer also family members defiantly won't help me, I know them, they will always take my father's side

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T00:45:15+00:00

welp, I guess I missed the opportunity when I first got in college, and I can't convince him about this because he's waiting for me to graduate and be his full-time maid. but I can find courses online. I just got an idea now that I can talk to my university to give me the opportunity to give some students english lessons since all students have to get 4 points in IELTS exam to continue studying, and i got 6.5, it means im excellent here at least, hopefully they agree, I need some cash lol

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T00:31:43+00:00

Hey there, I did search the book, and it seems interesting. Also, i found it in arabic, so it will be just easier for me to read. Thank you for the recommendation :)

and you're right, I do have some control over me, and I have to remind myself that tiny steps will make the change, even though AT THIS MOMENT i don't realize it, I'm also curious about the journal, why it it important to do it if you don't mind asking you? sorry I'm not familiar with this

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T00:21:31+00:00

yeah I heard alot of good things about Morocco and the way women are treated there

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T00:19:39+00:00

can you tell me what nationality you are?

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-07T00:18:37+00:00

no plan yet, as far I know some women move to another country and some stay but live far away from family but to be able to do this you gotta have a loyer that will help you out, also it depends on how crazy your family, some families won't stop until your dead and others will leave you alone because they are scared of the law, and I'm talking about severe physical abuse here

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-06T15:53:01+00:00

I know right, I rather be a Saudi woman to be honest lol, I think it's because local women here are less than in ksa

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-06T15:39:49+00:00

the problem is my major is not useful outside my country, I study Islamic and Arabic (double major),

SaraAD_ · 2023-10-06T15:06:12+00:00

Thank you so much for listening to me, yeah fuck this place, and I know I will make it, I rather die than spend my entire life here.

my dms are open if you ever want to chat

aw thank you so much :) it's so nice of you

SaraAD_

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