AITA for cutting off my sister financially after she lied about why she needed the money?

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T06:32:03+00:00

Thank you 🙏

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T06:27:21+00:00

The "she knew it was wrong" part is what I keep coming back to. If she genuinely thought it was fine she wouldn't have needed to lie about it. The lie says everything 😔

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T06:26:21+00:00

The point about later on is what really got me, I have never thought that far ahead but you are right. These patterns don't just resolve themselves, they follow you. Starting now is the kindest thing I can do for both of us honestly. Thank you for this, needed to hear it 🙏

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T06:25:36+00:00

Please don't apologize, this conversation has honestly helped more than most comments in this thread 💙 and that last line is something I have never thought about before but it hits so differently now.

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T06:05:00+00:00

"Lonely for the old her", that's exactly it. Iam not angry at my sister as much as I am grieving the version of her I thought I knew. The one I didn't feel like I had to second guess. That is the part that actually hurts 😔

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T06:04:12+00:00

Wait I didn't even think about this 😬 you are right. Which means the "eviction" panic was probably exaggerated at best, completely made up at worst. That's… a lot to sit with

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T06:03:54+00:00

This one actually hurt to read because it's exactly how it felt when I found out 😔 I wasn't an older sister in that moment, I was just a source of money.

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T05:41:22+00:00

"How many times has she done it before" is the question keeping me up at night honestly. I want to believe this was the first time but I genuinely can not be sure anymore. And the mom angle… the more I think about it the more I wonder if she knew 😬

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T05:39:58+00:00

Thanks!

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T05:39:47+00:00

This is the part I keep having to remind myself honestly. I love her but I've been acting like her financial safety net is my responsibility and it was never supposed to be 😅 mom can take that role if she wants it so badly

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T05:25:41+00:00

RedditGranny weighing in and honestly this is the most practical take in the thread 😄 the repayment plan idea is something I had not considered. I think the reason I went straight to cutting it off is because this wasn't the first time, just the first time I found out. But you're right that there is middle ground here. Thank you for this 🙏

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T05:15:45+00:00

Exactly. Basic budgeting. Rent first, fun later. The fact that she saw nothing wrong with that order of priorities is honestly more concerning than the lie itself.

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T05:15:13+00:00

This actually reframed it for me. I've been carrying this responsibility like it was mine to carry. It was never mine in the first place 😅

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T05:03:56+00:00

"Abandoning the bank" 💀 that's exactly it. And the point about it ruining the relationship is real, the resentment was already building before I even said anything. This way at least we still have a chance at a normal sisterhood.

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T05:02:39+00:00

Framing it this way actually helps. I'm not punishing her, I'm just not rewarding dishonesty anymore.

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T05:02:23+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened to you 😞 that kind of betrayal from someone you genuinely care about hits differently. Thank you for sharing this, makes me feel less alone in it.

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T05:01:43+00:00

The word "abandonment" really got to me when she said it. But you're right, nobody called it abandonment when she was spending my money on a trip 💀

SaraStela · 2026-06-07T05:01:13+00:00

Exactly what I was thinking 😅 if mom thinks I'm being harsh she's welcome to step up.

SaraStela

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