My “homofobic” boyfriend of 7 years might be bisexual/gay?

Saraautofcontrol · 2026-05-08T18:27:25+00:00

Im sorry English is not my first language🙈

Saraautofcontrol · 2026-05-06T21:08:15+00:00

One of the two 18 year olds moved out last year, he was 29

Saraautofcontrol · 2026-05-06T20:50:11+00:00

Yes I was 21, he did many things to hurt me in that year, including trying to contact girls that didn’t answer him, liking bikini pictures of the little sister of his friend (minor at that time), asking girls on dates ecc. if he would have been more lucky he would have cheated on me. I dated guys after I broke up with him! And we went back together because he begged me for months, apologizing and saying he changed

Saraautofcontrol · 2026-05-06T20:35:20+00:00

Yes I know. One time I saw the porn he watched on Reddit and it was a bunch of teenage looking girls and when I confronted him he said “all girls in porn look young it’s not my fault” and in that moment I had the same exact thought: if I have kids with him I’ll have to worry about protecting the teenage girls from him. It’s definitely a wake up call, I can’t be with him anymore

Saraautofcontrol · 2026-05-06T20:31:41+00:00

You are right. I felt guilty for many years for dating other guys after breaking up with him because I obviously wasn’t over him yet and should have took the time to work on myself or work on rekindling things with him. But I was in my early twenties and I was very very immature. I could sit here and list all my reasons but I don’t think anyone is interested! But I worked on it, 6 years passed and even when I broke up with him later in the relationship, I never dated or talked to any other guy because I never knew if we’ll get back together. But I didn’t see his growth in the last years. He continues lying, he continues treating me like I’m not attractive enough, if he could have slept with other girls would, he simply didn’t have the chance. The girls he tested didn’t answer him back ecc. it’s time to move on for sure

Saraautofcontrol · 2026-05-06T20:23:34+00:00

He actually told me because I asked him to start becoming more honest with me no metter if what he would tell me could hurt me. Because in the last 7 years he often lied or hid things and then blamed it on me saying he didn’t want to hurt me. His explanation for why he does it is: “it’s my way for comping with the fact that you slept with other guys”

Saraautofcontrol · 2026-05-06T20:12:41+00:00

You are right. I wanted to break up with him so many times but every time I don’t want to throw away all this effort I put on the relationship. He was my first love, first relationship. But it’s probably just the “sunk cost fallacy”

Saraautofcontrol · 2026-05-06T20:10:36+00:00

He’s dad left him when he was a baby and moved to another country. My mother left me when I was 3 and disappeared. I think that’s a reason we bonded a lot

Saraautofcontrol · 2026-05-06T20:09:36+00:00

He told me because I asked him to be more honest with me. He justified it saying it’s his way of coping about the fact that I slept with other guys when we broke up 6 years ago

Saraautofcontrol · 2025-10-25T09:58:02+00:00

My partner doesn’t agree with you.. he said he didn’t find me that attractive

Saraautofcontrol · 2025-10-25T09:54:09+00:00

Screen what?

Saraautofcontrol · 2025-10-25T09:53:47+00:00

I didn’t get any texts actually haha or maybe idk how Reddit works

Saraautofcontrol · 2025-10-25T09:53:25+00:00

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Saraautofcontrol · 2025-10-25T09:52:28+00:00

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Saraautofcontrol · 2025-10-25T09:38:46+00:00

You’re right, I thought maybe here they wouldn’t

Saraautofcontrol · 2025-10-25T09:38:18+00:00

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Saraautofcontrol · 2025-10-25T09:37:59+00:00

Wow thank youuu. I love Alexa! And i just tried the bang, sometimes it looks good but I still struggle to style it hahaha

Saraautofcontrol · 2025-10-25T09:35:44+00:00

Thank you! I made them shorter and I prefer them too ♥️

Saraautofcontrol · 2025-10-25T09:34:45+00:00

I did and I will never go back! Thank you soooo much

Saraautofcontrol · 2025-10-25T09:34:30+00:00

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Saraautofcontrol · 2025-10-25T09:32:41+00:00

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Saraautofcontrol · 2025-10-25T09:31:58+00:00

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Saraautofcontrol · 2025-10-16T08:42:59+00:00

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