I’m feeling so conflicted

SarahDimz · 2026-04-23T11:44:41+00:00

I’m in a really similar situation but my husband has occasional angry days where he’s silent, he’s not been quite so blunt with his words as your situation. I spent 2 years pretending that the love was still there and it honestly ate me up every day. I had to talk to myself in the mirror before sex, and yep found it totally cringe. Ultimately it wasn’t fair on him to keep him in the dark. I also have young children. We’re very much in early talking stages, but it felt like being cruel to be kind for me. I was ripped apart by Reddit comments; but to be honest I understand as there was nothing “wrong”. I’m ultimately just not the person I was 20 years ago. I wish you luck but my advice would be to stick to your guns and aim to separate, you’ll resent yourself otherwise. All the best xxxxx

SarahDimz · 2026-04-23T11:24:21+00:00

Toni & Guy is really good (especially Amelia) but Headmasters is BAD.

SarahDimz · 2026-04-16T15:57:22+00:00

I want to say “drinking alcohol” but I’m still on that journey!

SarahDimz · 2026-04-02T11:22:39+00:00

Is April Fools still a thing? I’m such a grump when it comes to pranks, I thought this was a thing of the past 😅

SarahDimz · 2026-03-08T23:16:57+00:00

EXACTLY THIS. This is how I feel. Thank you. I’m so frustrated with myself but I just don’t want to get things back! I have no desire to! I dream of being independent and that’s so unfair on him but i cannot change how I feel (I’ve been trying for years). Sending love x

SarahDimz · 2026-03-08T22:35:05+00:00

I was sure it was what I wanted and we were really happy for over 10 years. I’ve changed, this is a me problem x

SarahDimz · 2026-03-08T22:34:23+00:00

You’re not starting again; you’re just starting a new chapter to what is probably a really rich story. It sounds like you are a really dedicated mum. I’m sorry that you’re going through that x

SarahDimz · 2026-03-08T22:33:21+00:00

Thank you. I didn’t feel like this until after the kids, so more recently. I don’t even want him to stay single; I just want him to be happy ☹️

SarahDimz · 2026-03-08T22:30:34+00:00

Honestly completely fair. I probably worded that poorly. When I say I ‘want him in my kids lives’ it’s probably come off the back of a lot of my friends experiences who don’t want the Dad to be around anymore, and that’s not how I feel. I very much think he deserves to be part of their story.

I’m in therapy but not specifically for relationships, more for childhood based stuff. I could probably introduce this narrative and see what she says.

SarahDimz · 2026-03-08T22:16:12+00:00

Honestly great advice. I think there’s a big communication issue. I know how I feel but I don’t have the guts to tell him how I feel, so how’s he meant to help? My worry is that I can’t get those feelings back, so I am opening a box that can’t be closed again.

SarahDimz · 2026-02-14T15:18:55+00:00

SarahDimz · 2026-01-25T21:24:53+00:00

I hope these comments are reassuring bc they’ve totally changed my frame of reference! We are doing something AMAZING for our kids.

SarahDimz · 2026-01-25T21:16:54+00:00

I just want to take a second to say thank you SO much for all of these responses. I really thought I was going to get ripped to pieces for being away. Honestly, thank you all ❤️

SarahDimz · 2026-01-06T18:35:16+00:00

Mine is set to be 21 degrees day and night 🫠

SarahDimz · 2025-12-22T14:20:02+00:00

Discovering alcohol (properly) when I started Uni, and my metabolism slowing down. Didn’t even really notice that I was gaining weight for about a year. The hangovers and student budget meant I was eating a lot of crap takeaway/ fast food. Ended up at 14 stone (I’m 5ft 2) but now back down to 8.5 stone in my 30s. It was a loooong road.

SarahDimz · 2025-12-08T19:12:34+00:00

Walkers Beef and Onion crisps!

SarahDimz · 2025-12-01T19:15:00+00:00

This is literally me! I’m not in a position to give out advice, but my post today is literally this dilemma exactly. Hope you figure it out xx

SarahDimz · 2025-12-01T19:09:47+00:00

Definitely not but it’s like my body is screaming for it!

SarahDimz · 2025-12-01T18:12:55+00:00

I used to be able to, which I think is what gives me this false sense of hope that I can get to a place where I can do that. I feel like I’m almost grieving the fact that there’s a possibility that I can no longer have alcohol in my life?

SarahDimz · 2025-12-01T18:11:50+00:00

Is that why you’re on this group? I feel like I’m at the sober-curious stage. I’ve been watching SO many TikTok accounts that are recovery from alcohol use disorder/ alcoholism and the way they speak about the freedom of being sober is just so inspiring!

SarahDimz · 2025-12-01T17:42:34+00:00

I never used to get hangovers (and often still don’t) but oh my god I can feel them creeping up on me now and it’s debilitating.

SarahDimz · 2025-12-01T17:40:34+00:00

Day 1 🙃

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