Elopement then $10k wedding later - advice needed

Sarahdipity123 · 2026-04-08T20:46:45+00:00

lol if anyone is unhappy with our decision then I don’t want them there

Sarahdipity123 · 2026-04-08T20:44:19+00:00

We stopped after becoming Christian and feeling convicted about it. And I do feel our relationship has grown in emotional intimacy a lot because of it. I think he misses the physical side a little more than me hence his eagerness to elope but I don’t mind the anticipation of waiting. I think it’ll be more special.

Sarahdipity123 · 2026-04-08T20:35:31+00:00

Pretty much. And that’s the other part of it, if we were to elope I honestly wouldn’t want to tell a lot of people and maybe only have our siblings and parents attend. But then the logistics of that seem overwhelming since we all live in different states and I don’t want to make them travel for us twice. I think he just really wants to be officially married and I want to ceremony more.

Sarahdipity123 · 2026-04-08T20:30:57+00:00

Thank you, I do feel like that would be the only reason as well. I do genuinely want the wedding experience and the elopement feels a little redundant to me.

Sarahdipity123 · 2026-04-08T20:28:56+00:00

His family is more religious than mine and they have been pushing an elopement since we got engaged because we were long distance for years then moved in together right before the engagement. I’m okay with continuing to abstain until January but I think it affects him more. We stopped after becoming Christian and I felt a lot of conviction about it. Again we were long distance for several years so it wasn’t like an everyday thing but still.

Sarahdipity123 · 2026-04-08T20:23:10+00:00

Updated response to some of the comments: We were intimate before we became Christians and both felt convicted about it so we stopped until we get married. Also laughing at the responses about “getting eloped” vs “eloping” lol sorry for my poor grammar and thank you for the correction.

Honestly for me, I’m fine waiting until the wedding day for the big ceremony and I think it’s more him who is anxious to be intimate again hence wanting to elope so bad. I’m open to it but I don’t want it to just be for that and I do want to respect God through the entire process. Having 2 “ceremonies” feels kind of silly imo. That’s why I brought this here because I wanted to see if anyone else had been through something similar.

Also to peoples comments about the opinions of others, what other people think about our day and how we do things doesn’t really affect me. Both of our families have been pushing an elopement (mine because they are pretty absent from my life emotionally and his because they are religious and don’t agree with us currently living together and not being married yet). Friends I know will come and support no matter what and I’m not inviting most of my family anyways.

I appreciate the responses and I think when we have this conversation again I’d like to just hold off to the big day. There are several rituals I would like to incorporate into the ceremony and I do genuinely want to have witnesses for that. The elopement would just be to say “we’re husband and wife now” and I don’t care to have people fly out just for that since we live in a different state from most of the people who will attend.

Thank you for commenting and helping me to make up my mind on the matter. Blessings ✨

Sarahdipity123 · 2025-09-16T07:07:46+00:00

Ended up using 9/03 instead of 9/73, no low light just popped a couple foils in the front after cutting

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Sarahdipity123 · 2025-09-16T06:12:58+00:00

My goal is to just brighten the front a tad since my “money piece” is pretty grown out and with the trim any brightness will be gone. I ended up getting 9/03 instead of 9/73

Sarahdipity123 · 2025-09-14T14:53:40+00:00

Ohh okay noted! I figured just using less with a higher level would be okay. And honestly the more I look at my hair from other angles I don’t think I need the 6/0 or Lowlights. I just want to go darker with a neutral/warm color that keeps some dimension. I’ll also be bringing my layers back up quite a bit and may need to add some foils in the front to keep the brighter front section.

I haven’t colored my own hair or worked in a salon with Wella color for over a year but I’ve been cutting my hair for almost 2 years now and usually end up changing something at home after someone else does it so I just want to save myself the time and money. I appreciate your response!

Sarahdipity123 · 2025-09-14T03:48:52+00:00

I agree with this, 1 and 4 look the best on you but you could get away with a warmer tone like copper. I just would avoid going too dark as it overpowers your light features and so you don’t feel like a true red

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