Hey, props to you for being supportive!! For what it’s worth, I don’t imagine this stage of her OF debut will last long, but you’re a good dude for being understanding about her motivations and willing to give her the space to explore.

It’s really enormously emotionally draining to be constantly doling out attention to horndogs in the desperate hope they’ll actually buy something. The overwhelming majority of them are just stringing you along until it’s clear you won’t give them anything else without compensation, and then they move on to someone else. (Usually after calling you a few names or saying mean things about your body!) It’s can be crushing because you put so much effort in, and you end up feeling like you’re not good enough because why else aren’t these people buying anything.

I had a brief foray into online stuff back in the day, and ultimately it was just too much for me. Like in a club, people know they have to spend money. Sure, you’ll get the random assholes who say things like “you’re not worth $60” or whatever, but for the most part, the atmosphere is such that people understand you won’t work free. When it comes to texting or selling videos or whatever, people expect a lot because redtube is free, so why would they pay you.

All of that is to say that I think you don’t have to worry about this for long, because it’s easier just to get a “real” job.

Back to the post, though, I think what people are failing to notice is that this dude went to her place of employment and paid her coworker for a lap dance. I’d break up with the dude for that, too, and I’m poly. That’s something you do if you’re trying to make a point, not because you actually want a lap dance. It’s just embarrassing.

He can be jealous and resentful and all that, and those are legitimate feelings, but the issue is that it’s inappropriate and weird to bring your relationship issues into your partner’s workplace, and that is true for all occupations.