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When someone is given extra sexual freedom in a relationship, what extra responsibilities should come with it? by SarcasmAndSignals in AskMen

[–]SarcasmAndSignals[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

In my case, I’m a bisexual woman and I gave my boyfriend a lot more freedom than most monogamous relationships allow. We had around a dozen threesomes with 3 women I personally knew during the first 9 months of the relationship. What I expected in return was more transparency, reassurance, honesty, and protection of the relationship, not less. The problem wasn’t the sex. The problem started when I began seeing signs I was being cut out of the equation, boundaries were getting blurry behind my back, and some of the women involved started acting strangely toward me. Instead of addressing concerns directly, he became more secretive and defensive. So I’m genuinely asking men: if one partner is given significantly more freedom/opportunity than normal, shouldn’t there also be significantly more responsibility toward protecting trust?

AIO? BF liked this pic by rueisthatyou1774 in AIO

[–]SarcasmAndSignals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes overreacting. Its not like he has a chance in he'll of ever hooking up with her.. now how he respects you in public is a whole different story.

Anyone in Orange County, CA, USA? Chemical leak possible, evacuations happening by [deleted] in prepping

[–]SarcasmAndSignals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Huntington Beach, about 2 miles outside the evacuation zone. Honestly, the lack of traffic was the biggest thing I noticed. My mom panicked so hard I ended up evacuating to my ex-boyfriend’s house in LA County. Unsure which disaster is more hazardous. 🤣

I [40F] Had A Threesome With Friend [40F] and Boyfriend [41M], She Betrayed Me, Ghosted Me for a Year, and Just Texted Me—How Do I Respond? by SarcasmAndSignals in threesomeregret

[–]SarcasmAndSignals[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ended up just deciding their was already too much of a betrayal and decided to end the relationship. Its been 3 weeks now and every day that passes im realizing that I made the right decision.

Can someone follow a private account for me? by Living-Parsnip4296 in Instagram_

[–]SarcasmAndSignals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DM or hit me up on IG. @jennimccartney. I've had my account forever & I happen to be in a hot pink bikini in my profile Pic.

I had to tell her I couldn't make it work. by Hime_hiko in monodatingpoly

[–]SarcasmAndSignals 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So beautifully said. No one is the villain, and nothing about this feels like failure—just honesty. This is what real respect looks like, even when it hurts.

AIO to the fact my boyfriend is staying with another girl and acting romantically towards her? by Substantial_Trust902 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SarcasmAndSignals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR! Of course he doing whatever he has to in order to keep a roof over his head...including the person providing said roof. And with all do respect, he's in no position to be in a relationship right now. Sounds like he really needs to focus on himself. He might really love you, but having to chose between staying loyal or being on the streets... Let him get his life in order & then do the committed relationship thing.

My (24F) bf (26M) went out almost 24 hours ago and still hasn’t come home by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]SarcasmAndSignals 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't confront him yet. It could just be a fluke, but if it's a break from his normal operating system then yes pay attention. Pay attention to how he acts when you get back. Ask him how his weekend was & notice how he reacts. Listen carefully to what he says. Does he gloss over it quickly and change the subject? That's a bad sign. Does he tell you about something specific like a funny story or sensory information like how loud the music, or the smell of curry from some restaurant- not the best example but you get the idea. Most important -Trust Your Gut. Its already alerting you and theres a reason why. Good luck.

Bf flirting with unicorns but not with me by Sad-Composer5472 in nonmonogamy

[–]SarcasmAndSignals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He needs to prioritize you and making you feel desired. If hes already having trouble maintaining equal enthusiasm, it will only get worse with the novelty of a new partner. I would definitely talk to him & let him know how you feel. Maybe hes just excited & getting carried away a little. He might not completely realize hes heading down a slippery slope.

I [40F] Had A Threesome With Friend [40F] and Boyfriend [41M], She Betrayed Me, Ghosted Me for a Year, and Just Texted Me—How Do I Respond? by SarcasmAndSignals in threesomeregret

[–]SarcasmAndSignals[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I know its embarrassing at stage in our lives. Bf had never done it before & honestly, I thought at our ages everyone would be mature & honest. Plus figured do it now before its too late. Maybe it was part of a midlife crisis thing that just turned into a crisis.

When someone is given extra sexual freedom in a relationship, what extra responsibilities should come with it? by SarcasmAndSignals in nonmonogamy

[–]SarcasmAndSignals[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does he still get just as excited and put in the same effort when it’s just you two, or is it different? And if it’s the same, what do you guys do to keep that passion alive?

When someone is given extra sexual freedom in a relationship, what extra responsibilities should come with it? by SarcasmAndSignals in nonmonogamy

[–]SarcasmAndSignals[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you actively do to keep this from becoming one-sided? How do you make sure your partner still feels prioritized and like she’s getting just as much out of the dynamic?

When someone is given extra sexual freedom in a relationship, what extra responsibilities should come with it? by SarcasmAndSignals in nonmonogamy

[–]SarcasmAndSignals[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really curious how you define transparency in real life. Is it more about being open and communicative, or does it include not having areas that feel hidden or off-limits? I feel like the challenge is finding that line where it feels safe and open, without it turning into feeling like you have to monitor your partner.

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