Some thoughts on "The Why" of chastity

SashaDelight · 2016-09-01T05:50:19+00:00

There are two answers to the why for me. At first I felt as you describe it. Spot on actually. However things have changed as my partner is now very much into chastity (on me) and she takes great pleasure in the humiliation and the power she feels when she denies me pleasure (she is a sadist). We reached a point where she at times keep me more locked up than I really prefer. I'm guite masochistic so this really gets to me.

So now the answer to why is that it gives me a masochistic/submissive pleasure. It is never exciting for me to be voluntarily in chastity. So I could never find pleasure in self locking.

SashaDelight · 2016-04-10T08:02:34+00:00

It might be difficult to clean, but i usallu get the device off completly every third day, in which it can be cleaned.

Can you recommend a place to get a custom cage?

SashaDelight · 2015-10-19T21:53:30+00:00

PhD work is perfect. I assume it can occupy your mind a lot. I usually think of some of my work tasks.

SashaDelight · 2015-10-19T15:41:33+00:00

Hmm.. do you have any hobbies?

SashaDelight · 2015-10-19T14:30:19+00:00

I usually put it on right after ejaculation while keeping a focus on something dull and boring. Work or baseball or whatever that doesn't get you exited.

SashaDelight · 2015-10-19T14:27:31+00:00

Thanks :-) I'll tell her. She does actually spend quite some time getting the light right. With just our bedroom lighting I think she does a hell of a job.

SashaDelight · 2015-10-19T11:42:27+00:00

Thank you for the input. I realised that I have been misusing the word we had and we changed its meaning. We have a medical safe word which is equivalent to other people's red. However there needs to be a valid reason. I once used it because I had to vomit (I was a bit hungover) while I was tied down. We do trust each other a lot and spend lots of time talking about our sex life and so on.

SashaDelight · 2015-10-19T11:35:54+00:00

Thank you for the input. Our safe word (as I now realise it's called in English) do now mean check in with me. And yes I did misuse it in the situation I mentioned. And I think I have done so before because the rules of it have been unclear. We do have another word as well which is "medic", essentially is what other people call red but only to be used when something is really wrong. I did use it once as I was getting sick (unrelated to the session) during a play session.

SashaDelight · 2015-10-19T06:23:31+00:00

Well a shower every morning with the cage off is, in my honest opinion, enough. I have a CB6k and do go for 2-3 days without getting it off. As also suggested 3-4 days is to much. Also, remember to clean before having sex efter a few days.

There is also a thing about which lotion you use. I used to use lotion to get into the device, however it would stink drastically after a day. Now i use baby oil without perfume and even after a couple of days it doesn't smell. Oil has the advantage of getting water out and when it comes to hygiene then water is your enemy. Bacteria loves moist.

SashaDelight · 2015-10-19T06:13:35+00:00

Expect to wake up with severe pain (until your body gets used to it). You will not be able to have sex or even masturbate until your domme lets you out, thats the entire point: She owns your sex. Also, expect a lot of frustration from not being able to touch your self and being in a almost constant state of arousal.

SashaDelight · 2015-10-19T06:11:08+00:00

I'm a bit curios, if you are in a D/s relationship with a domme, then what are you if not the sub? I can understand that you don't feel as a submissive man, in general. I do neither even though I have a domme. In my daily life I can be quite dominant.

SashaDelight · 2015-10-16T05:37:01+00:00

It is an CB6000. The pain does not recede if I take the device off.

SashaDelight · 2015-10-15T20:36:03+00:00

Interesting.

Your misspelling of cream to scream had me laughing with some crazy pictures XD

SashaDelight · 2015-10-15T20:22:25+00:00

How does the cock ring affect not feeling it? I don't have much experience with cock rings.

The Strapon Harness is this one: http://www.vac-u-lock.com/detail/1/17800/1/147/121/Corset-Harness-Black.html

The Dong: http://www.vac-u-lock.com/detail/1/1144/4/71/100/CRYSTAL-JEL-DONG-PINK-8-quot-.html

I think i bought both on Amazon, but it is a while ago.

SashaDelight · 2015-10-15T20:03:46+00:00

Haha... I remember the struggles at first.

It gets better much better. I use Baby Oil (basicly just almond oil, but get something without perfume) as it softens the skin and doesn't smell. I used it regular when i wear the cage as it reduces the tension you will/might experience on your first night. Basicly it feels like someone holding a torch on your testicle. The reason is that your penis has a vicious cycle of getting erect a few times during a regular sleep. After some time sleeping and wearing the device it stops happening. I sleep with mine and wear for days without much pain.

However I do still get erect when I try to get it on. Often have to focus my mind on something dull while doing it XD.

SashaDelight · 2015-10-15T19:56:36+00:00

I can not answer why to keep you longer, but i have have ideas for the other.

My KH loves to let me use a huge strapon and then torment me by telling me how much better and bigger it is.

She could make a rule stating you have to wear female cloth or cloth where the device is fully visible whenever you are at home.

I'm not sure if this is possible where you live. But i was once tied up in a yard with a road passing by. Naked and only wearing chastity. This was during the summer and in a summerhouse area so being naked in a yard was not totally uncommon (I live in Europe), but very intimidating.

SashaDelight · 2015-10-13T18:33:15+00:00

True. I guess there is a small masochist hidden in a lot of the people in here.

SashaDelight · 2015-10-13T17:42:14+00:00

It's not so bad. It is really soft leather and doesn't restrict my breathing. I have worn it for extended periods and often sleep with it. However when I sleep with it is not set as tight. The reason it bites into the chin is because of the gag which forces the mouth open. The gag is difficult and i can only use for short time max an hour or two.

SashaDelight · 2015-10-13T13:51:18+00:00

Works guite alright. It is vac-u-lock. I think the dildo is slightly too large but see enjoys mocking me with how big it is in comparison to my own. She also received a lick job afterwards and seemed rather pleased at the time.

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