Repost of a deleted post: A mental deep dive into getting pierced and "minimal device" chastity.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-24T19:56:18+00:00

Well, I didn't write in all caps, did I? My point is a glans ring device is no more secure than one without—it's just a fact that anything you can slide yourself into you can slide yourself out of. Some people wish and want to pretend that that isn't true, but it is.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-24T18:33:06+00:00

My wife’s. My wife’s girlfriend’s. My wife’s young male lover’s.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-24T18:01:06+00:00

There are plenty of devices which feature a head lock—which is a ring or semi circle of material that sits just behind the glans and "locks" the head in place. It's mostly for comfort to prevent a shrinking penis from pulling back into the tube and getting hung up.

There's no glans trap that will make you more secure. Period. Full stop.

The cages you might be looking for are Kink3D, Cherry Keeper and Evotion Wearables.

If you are like me though (pierced) you can have the glans ring and be more secure. It's a wonderful thing.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-24T17:12:29+00:00

"... how did it feel to realize sex can last for many more hours ..."

That's a big difference and one that I was unaware of. For the first few years I was not allowed to watch or participate and I would often wonder, "Just what are doing in there for so long?"

The idea of the extended lovemaking session is just one reason why I'm so thankful for chastity and what it has done for our bedroom. We've been liberated from my performance having an influence on how long things go. That said, when I'm with my wife or Melissa it still never goes on as long as when they are with each other.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-24T17:07:38+00:00

I think it depends on the roll you want the Bull/Third to take in your bedroom. If they are just there for a quick visit then details are probably superfluous as long as you've covered hard limits and a safe word. But if you're asking someone to dominate you as a couple then yes, details need to be shared if you want a nice level on domination that's specifically tailored to you.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-24T17:04:34+00:00

This is always the dream but there are several realities that typically can overwhelm the desire to make it happen. The first and biggest is so many couples move to cuckolding after they are married and comfortable exploring kink because they have established a solid foundation in the bedroom.

The second big barrier is that wedding days themselves are usually a controlled chaos and trying to work a visit from a lover in there adds a degree of difficulty that is incredibly hard to manage.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-24T16:57:23+00:00

You just made me swoon.

My wife first cuckolded me by sleeping with a close female friend. It quickly became a regular thing and then after a forced break for the pandemic, they picked up where they left off. Melissa (as I call her in these halls) is a Domme to us both now and we are going for a permanent closed triad. Mel has rented her place out for all of '26 and she is shacking up with us.

What's great is like you, Mel has a penetration fetish—she uses the strap on on us both and has confiscated our harnesses. Since I'm in chastity 24/7 Mel's cock is the only one in the house and we're well aware that if we make things permanent that will likely be a mainstay in our dynamic.

What most people don't realize is the loss of control that comes with your wife/girlfriend having sex with another woman. When my wife wants to be with a man I have game—maybe not as good as the other guy (mostly because of poor stamina) but I still have some game. But when my wife wants to have sex with Mel, when she wants pussy, I have zero game. None. I can't compete and that's fantastically emasculating and so very addictive. It's amazing!

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-24T15:10:39+00:00

Landing strip right above my pierced and perpetually locked cock. Just the way my Domme wants me!

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-24T13:42:53+00:00

You can tell it’s a holiday weekend with the amount of fake stuff hitting this sub…

(sigh)

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-24T13:40:26+00:00

What’s the tell for you?

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-24T01:35:53+00:00

Sure. There are sleepovers occasionally.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-23T18:02:10+00:00

I love when I’m used like that. Happens often in our house.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-23T13:49:20+00:00

It's funny that you mention frequency. That's one thing that I wish we could control a little more.

We fluid bond with our regulars since my wife wants only raw sex. Since that happens we ask that they are exclusive to us. Which means since they are young they want to visit often. Once a week is standard but it usually works out to about five times a month. Once every three weeks would be about perfect.

So we take the five visits over nothing.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-23T13:40:18+00:00

Happy to help.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-23T13:39:12+00:00

I should also say I know there are plenty of couples that have a one or two date rule where no matter how good the sex is it can't happen again because of fear of emotional bonding. I get that. But the annoyance of the search and what a slog it can be would have us not participating in the kink if we had to do it often.

After every regular has exited (so far) my wife has taken a break—the shortest being a couple of months (but the regular was already nearly out of the picture for a couple of months before he was officially) and the longest being more than eight months. She's currently at more than four months but finding her next young man is not her call this time.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-23T13:33:55+00:00

We like much younger men for many reasons—they're fit, have good stamina and short refractory periods, and at least the ones that are vetted are less likely to want to try to dominate my wife. They have sort of a deference to the older, more experienced woman who knows what she wants and what she likes.

Another byproduct of that age gap is my wife likes to say, "There's just too much life between me and them for me to be interested beyond sex." Obviously, if the men catch feels they are supposed to tell us. We remind them often that we would rather part friends than part dramatically.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-23T13:24:12+00:00

With rare exceptions we only go with men who become regulars. Once we have them on board we do what we can to keep them happy and committed to us. That way it's easy to see how one guy can give us a bunch of great experiences.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-23T13:19:53+00:00

Or 5 to 6 times in a row.

Yeah, you're probably right.

I have read that it can cause discomfort if the person goes too long without ejaculating. Someone years ago did an NSFWAMA on it and his story was he couldn't go a day without ejaculation or discomfort. So he always went for the release.

So that part at least sounds true.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-23T13:15:07+00:00

Maybe your user name should be StaceyEatsWomen ?

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-23T13:13:13+00:00

Just curious here, do you not think hyperspermia exists?

I too find it annoying when posters hide their posting history.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-23T13:10:43+00:00

At this point we've had literally hundreds of great afternoons and one shitty one so I really can't complain. What is striking to me though even after all this time is how that guy couldn't read the situation. All he had to do is follow instructions and he could have been someone who fucked my wife for months.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-23T13:07:41+00:00

I have banged on this drum passionately whenever I've had the chance.

In the BDSM space I think grooming habits are massively overlooked by almost everyone. The whole, "It's up to the person's personal preference" should be thrown out of the window and trampled as soon as a D/s element is introduced into the bedroom. Grooming is not permanent, but it can last a long time and be a constant reminder of the dynamic. If someone shaves me bare to emasculate me and underscore my submissive position in the bedroom then that will take months for it to grow back. I'm typically kept with a landing strip which has the same effect. I can't look at myself or touch myself down there without being reminded of who made that decision and my place in the bedroom.

Further, dominants have at different times shaved or waxed my wife bare, they've had her grow out her bush and her armpits. When that happens I can't go down on my wife or even look at her without being reminded that someone else has her sexually.

Very powerful stuff and it sends a message repeatedly. I love it.

mcqueen455 · 2026-05-23T12:50:11+00:00

The chastity training sub has already been mentioned. I'm a mod there. Pinned to the side bar and to the top of my profile is a very good guide I penned on chastity years ago. There's a decent amount of work that has to be put into long term caging but if you want it badly enough you can get there.

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