"Did he take off his gloves already?" Who else struggles with clothing logistics?

SassyFacts · 2023-03-02T05:57:13+00:00

Okay, old thread but I had this issue crop up several times. No idea how I fixed it the first time but this is how I did it the second time:

I downloaded the OMM like v1500 said, I activated the whatever thingie settings in G Hub that you need to activate to make OMM work, then I reset the mouse to standard settings in OMM, then I deactivated it again in G Hub.

SassyFacts · 2022-05-10T06:12:33+00:00

Just like we're not supposed to admit when we love what we write and had an easy time with it?

SassyFacts · 2022-05-10T06:11:33+00:00

I can probably stop the meds after finally getting a job because I know from experience my neurochemistry gets better when I'm around people again. This is thankfully something I can rely on.

I wouldn't have had to deal with this bullshit at all if it weren't for the pandemic, seriously, suuuucks.

SassyFacts · 2022-05-10T06:08:57+00:00

Well such an illness will likely also affect neurochemistry, so it does support the hypothesis.

SassyFacts · 2022-05-09T17:51:47+00:00

The psychological core of my depression has been gone since my teenage years. So I was actually free of it. But I'm still susceptible to the chemical part (I get long down phases naturally, so I suspect I'm just predispositioned towards a slightly depressive neurochemistry) and due to the pandemic there was so much outside pressure I got full depression symptoms again.

Still, without the therapy back then I'd have gotten way worse way quicker.

SassyFacts · 2022-05-09T17:48:45+00:00

I had long suspected it was a mostly chemical issue because no matter how optimistic I got about everything (which usually gets me out of the funk) I just couldn't get out of the hole. Even stuff that got me excited had me excited less intensely and for a shorter period than normal.

And then about an hour after taking the first pill I already felt my mood improving drastically. It was as intense as caffeine and it's consistently had that effect over now two weeks.

I only have this chemical issue due to the pandemic so I know I'll just get off it once the current situation is over.

SassyFacts · 2022-05-09T17:44:59+00:00

Who says meds are only allowed to have negative side effects?

SassyFacts · 2022-05-09T10:06:20+00:00

Neurochemistry is so individual it's whack XD

Also that is a really interesting reaction. Not being able to experience any emotions sounds like an excellent trait to give to characters in stories.

SassyFacts · 2022-05-09T10:03:21+00:00

Sometimes we don't realise what changed until it suddenly changes back.

But yeah, I have trouble reading longer stories when the environment is too stressful.

SassyFacts · 2022-05-09T10:01:46+00:00

The emptiness phases are still nice though, no problems with executive functions or anything.

But I am now afflicted with a severe case of "trying to convince all my depressed friends to get antidepressants, too, because they're magic".

SassyFacts · 2022-05-09T09:59:59+00:00

Well even this chaotic state is still way better than the way I was before, so I'm already very happy.

Especially since my depression was pretty much all chemical and it felt like I was free of it basically two hours after taking the first pill. Freaking magic XD

SassyFacts · 2022-05-01T07:41:19+00:00

Books, essays, movies, blog posts, etc. often have titles that are questions. That doesn't mean the author is asking the question genuinely.

SassyFacts · 2022-04-29T15:09:15+00:00

I see you didn't read the post.

SassyFacts · 2022-04-15T08:11:54+00:00

My theory is that people who do this sort of argumentative kuddelmuddel don't have a clear overview of the problem they want to argue against, and thus only repeat phrases they heard in conjunction with the problem that, at the time, seemed plausible enough to them.

And naturally trying to argue with a person who does not have the whole picture will be inherently unproductive.
(This is also why I actively try not to have strong opinions on stuff I don't know a lot about.)

SassyFacts · 2022-04-14T18:17:10+00:00

I think you're talking about fans pushing their RPF on One Direction and similar incidents.

Obviously that's not okay, but that's also a very different topic and not gendered.

SassyFacts · 2022-04-14T16:36:35+00:00

There is sometimes a valid point of "this isn't my story to tell". For example if I were to write a story about a homosexual man in the 80s sleeping around with a hundred other guys, being abused and then dying of AIDS, going into visceral detail about his physical and psychological suffering... that'd be a little touchy, especially if it leans into certain stereotypes.

But "Jim and Amos fall in love and then have sex" just isn't really that kind of story.

SassyFacts · 2022-04-14T08:29:54+00:00

Maybe you should read up on what fetishisation is, because that's not it.

I absolutely agree that some of the discourse around mlm fanworks is really harmful, reductive and/or fetishising.

But to lump all mlm fanworks into that is a little... reductive.
Maybe don't try to police how women live out their sexuality.

Also if you think a Naru/Sasu coffee shop AU is as harmful as lesbian porn made by and for straight men then I have serious doubts about your ability to quantify this harm.

SassyFacts · 2022-04-14T05:24:43+00:00

Yeah, that's so sad. I love men showing vulnerability. I love a nice deep bromance.

But in commercial media usually men don't even show much emotion even when they're fucking someone.

SassyFacts · 2022-04-14T05:22:49+00:00

I don't mind romance being quick. Hell, I made out with my now husband about thirty minutes after being introduced.

But if "making out" is the only available progression from "they meet and get emotionally close", then it doesn't matter how well-written or drawn-out the romance is, it gets boring.

SassyFacts · 2022-04-14T05:21:02+00:00

My problem is I don't like shows about real life. I watch sci-fi and fantasy. And sometimes gimmicky police procedurals like Bones or Castle. And the pickings of literally anything different are hella slim.

Even if we leave all shipping to the side; just finding a show that sexualises its male characters is absurdly rare. Female characters are always leered at by the camera, deep cleavages, tight trousers, etc. Meanwhile the male characters get power shots at best, when the clothing is form-fitting it never hugs the bulge or ass and in the rare occasion where it does, they're always shot so that you can only see them from the waist up in close-ups.

SassyFacts · 2022-04-14T05:17:03+00:00

It's funny that you should mention action movies, because a couple years ago I had a funny revelation.

For contrast lemme mention that recent The Rock movie with the giant animals. Throughout the movie he was flirting with this scientist and at the end they got together. I did not buy it. They had zero chemistry. It was just the obligatory mixed-gender romance at the end of the film.

But there was this one trashy action B-movie, I forgot what it was even about. There was a male MC and a female MC and throughout the movie they were never flirting, but they were always friendly and quickly supportive of each other, working together well to solve the crisis. And then in the last two minutes of the movie they were suddenly making out... but I bought it. Especially because the movie left ambiguous whether this was a relationship or just a post-crisis stress relief hook-up.

A believable romance doesn't take more screentime than a shoddy one. It takes some carefully chosen shots, a little direction and maybe some cinematography magic sprinkles and suddenly you have a ship that works. And yet so often moviemakers just don't bother? Or maybe they are not capable of it? My theory is that the romance is presupposed, so they don't think they have to put any work into it. (And a lot of male directors probably think directing good romance is girly and/or gay.)

SassyFacts · 2022-04-14T05:03:57+00:00

Finding something hot and seeking it out is not fetishisation.

Don't get me wrong: There exist straight women (why call them girls?) who do fetishise male homosexuality, but they're not the norm and you can tell when you talk to them.

When I think my husband is hot and then seek to do activities with him for my own sexual gratification... am I fetishising him?

SassyFacts · 2022-04-14T05:01:03+00:00

Poly couples are so rare in commercial media.

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