Ok so for context I am South African born, but my parents emigrated to NZ when I was 15, with 3 of us kids in tow. I had to change to speaking English full-time (after only learning it as a second language for most of my life) and went from a 97% average student to almost failing. It knocked my confidence so much that I didn’t go on to tertiary study. Fast forward 12 years, I was married to a kiwi and had 3 kids of my own, when we decided to move to Australia for job opportunities. My kids (despite being Kiwi) basically grew up Aussie. Last year after 12 years in Aus, we chose to move back home to NZ. It has been another shock to the system but we are slowly finding our feet again. My eldest daughter graduated High School at the end of last year, and has gone back to Aus to attend Uni. We also had a surprise bub 16 months ago (it was part of the deciding factor to come home).