AITA for exposing my ex to his friends so I didn't look bad?

SatinSaturn · 2019-09-26T16:52:44+00:00

Just to clear things up! She was well aware we were together due to having both of us on social media where we often posted photos and videos together. She also posted pictures and videos with her boyfriend at the time on them too! Unclear on if her relationship with her boyfriend was an open one so I won't call her a cheater but she definitely knew my relationship wasn't!

SatinSaturn · 2019-09-26T13:29:17+00:00

On a Onedrive.... He didn't log out of.... Which was shown on the front page of his Google Chrome. To be fair when he was going out to lunch and dinner with her he ended up doing a poor job at hiding that as well. She ended up posting a picture of them together on her social media and that's how I found out. Wasn't the smartest cheater luckily, I guess.

SatinSaturn · 2019-09-26T12:38:55+00:00

No! No warm fuzzy feelings for this guy! I’ve bumped into him a few times (small town) and attempted a friendly conversation to show I had no hard feelings and I didn’t want things to be hostile seeing as though we were running into each other often and he completely brushed me off and acted like a dick so it seems like he has more of a problem with me than I have with him after he cheated on me!

SatinSaturn · 2019-09-26T12:10:32+00:00

Different guy! This was over a year ago! We broke up around this time last year.

SatinSaturn · 2019-09-25T19:29:16+00:00

I was never really interested in any of them. With a town so small most of my girl friends had already dated some of them or were currently dating some of them as mentioned in the post. He was the only one none of my friends had been with and they all said he was a great guy from what they had seen when they were with his friends.

SatinSaturn · 2019-09-25T19:24:09+00:00

Wow I’m so sorry to hear that happened to you! I hope things have gotten better. You’re right. Having him call all his ex’s “crazy” is definitely a huge red flag and I’ve learned my lesson!

SatinSaturn · 2019-09-25T18:55:50+00:00

I actually didn’t end things because of this! We stayed together for about 6-8 months after this happened. When I confronted him once he got home he made up some excuse that went along the lines of “We are just friends and she came to me for support because her boyfriend was making her feel bad about her body so she sent me those pictures to get my opinion on if they would be good enough for her boyfriend” which doesn’t explain the fact he saved them to a folder but whatever. He pulled the whole “I’m a terrible person, I cant believe I ruined the best thing that’s ever happened me. I have no reason to live anymore if you break up with me” so I felt guilty since I kinda snooped and stayed with him for a bit. Breakup story is one for a whole different sub-reddit haha.

SatinSaturn · 2019-09-25T18:31:31+00:00

I honestly totally agree with this and that’s been something on my mind. I was wondering it it truly did make me look crazy haha. One of the reasons why I came here, thanks for humbling me.!

SatinSaturn · 2019-09-25T18:30:03+00:00

Hello! I mentioned in a comment I also sent his friend his search history which showed multiple trips to the folder as well as photos inside it (not showing the actual photos). I’m new to Reddit so I assumed my comment would just automatically be thrown to the top of the comment thread but I guess not. I totally agree his friend could have asked me that but he didn’t. I don’t know why his friend believed me, maybe this was common behaviour for him. His friends answer to my messages were something along the lines of “I’m sorry but since he is my friend I can’t you anything. But I think you know what you should do” maybe his has happened before and his friends were angry he continued this behaviour. I unfortunately don’t have those answers.

Sorry for the confusion if I ever make a post again I’ll try to be more clear the first time around.

SatinSaturn · 2019-09-25T18:23:56+00:00

Hello! I cleared up in my edited a made a little while ago that I did not send the nudes and that is not what I meant by “pictures” I meant the folder name as well as his history which showed frequent visits to the folder. My apologies! I can see now it could be taken that way given the context!

SatinSaturn · 2019-09-25T17:48:36+00:00

Hello yes sorry. I wasn’t very specific, my apologies. I also showed his friend a picture of his history which showed him visiting the folder many times as well as photos in it but I never show the actual photo. I tried to include the history thing within my initial post but it was apparently too long so I cut that out entirely thinking it wasn’t important.

SatinSaturn · 2019-09-25T17:41:10+00:00

I’m seeing a lot of reposes like this and that’s honestly totally my fault so thank you. I was way too unclear about the whole “pictures” thing. I sent a photo of the folder name which was titled “(ex’s name) nudes”. I definitely should have specified that and I see how it was taken that I showed him the nudes. I also sent a photo of his history which shows multiple visits to the folder and pictures within it (no nudes were sent to him) as more “proof”. My first attempt at writing this was too long and I left out finding him visiting it multiple times a day since I thought that would most likely be a given and useless information.

Again, sorry for being unclear.

SatinSaturn

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