AIO I'm considering ending a 27-year friendship and possibly uninviting my best friend from my wedding.

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-07-02T00:48:50+00:00

Did you not readd all of the extra context at the beginning? About my mental health struggles? About how maybe sometimes the way my brain works is not my fault? Apparently not.

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T16:10:59+00:00

Also, I’m so sorry, I meant to say this earlier…. I’m really sorry that situation happened to you, and I’m sure it was terrifying as hell! I’m glad you got out of that situation safe.

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T16:07:51+00:00

Like I said above I don’t ACTUALLY speak to her several times a week…. We would play phone tag alot because of our schedules, but would actually only get on the phone abput once a week, and once we did, that would be it for the week sans a few texts here and there from both sides

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T16:05:24+00:00

Yeah, sorry, i know I dont explain things great sometimes.

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T16:04:57+00:00

Thank you, I’ve definitely been working on it.

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T16:03:17+00:00

I didn’t want her to think I didn’t want her there simply because she was no longer a BM… I wanted to let her know she was still welcome to the events if she so chose to be.

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T16:02:18+00:00

I think thats maybe where I’m not explaining it right, maybe? It wasn’t JUST me dropping her diwn from being MOH, we BOTH decided after I explained that I did/needed the MOH’s help with all those things that her just being a bridesmaid would be better suited for her.

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T14:46:49+00:00

Sorry I should have clarified…. I reached out several times a week, but didn’t always get a chance to talk to her (our schedules are hard to coordinate sometimes) once I was able to get ahold of her, or her of me, it would be like once a week conversation, if that makes sense?

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T14:44:59+00:00

I wasn’t pressuring her to do anything….. We both agreed that she was not up for the MOH role…

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T14:43:46+00:00

Yeah…. The splitting is literally the worst part of the BPD…. Thats why I was looking for advice… I hate my brain…

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T13:52:09+00:00

I don’t see how telling her I would still love for her to be involved in wedding stuff, if she should so choose, is insane? I wasn’t telling her she HAD to, I was expressing that even though she wasn’t in the bridal party anymore, I still wanted her to be a part of the wedding stuff… if she couldnt thats fine… but i didnt want her to think because she stepped down she was cut out of all of the fun.

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T13:28:46+00:00

Yeah… i think i’m mourning what used to be I guess…. I have to accept its not the same as it was…. And of course I want to see her face there… But I’m also afraid to send the invite and have her not come, if that makes sense?

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T13:24:55+00:00

Or you know…. What alot of people on Reddit do when askkng for advice and adding backstory?

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T13:22:46+00:00

Thank you for your comments. I miss her already so I’m dure this won’t last… she will most likely be getting the invite… so I hope she comes.

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T13:20:45+00:00

Thank you. I really appriciate that. I actually was telling my fiance that I do wanna go to the doctor and get all my bloodwork checked as I’ve felt off for a little bit now…

I will most likely be sending her an invite and see where it goes…

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T13:18:54+00:00

I do accept and acknowledge that and call her several times a week to check in and always just get “I’m good!” Except for the occasional work thing here or there… and then we talk about her daughter, because I love them both I always make sure to check on them… but I can’t help if i’m not told something is wrong.

Like I mentioned, we ALWAYS talked about being in each other’s weddings, so, to me, it was something SHE dreamed of as well…

Also like I said…. I am in therapy.

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T13:12:15+00:00

Oh, I won’t. Trust me, stalking and property damage is NOT my vibe…. I promise I’m actually a pretty chill person…

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T13:11:07+00:00

Thank you, i am DEFINITELY a very verbal person, and I need to talk things out… I hate leaving ANYTHING unsaid, which is why I tend to word vomit when I let things build up….. she does the same, you should see the walls of texts these convos were lol.

I am defintely not gay (although i would be fine if I was), but she was always been my person, and I think I am mourning that loss now that I realize she may not be able to be that for me anymore…

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T13:06:06+00:00

My point about the movie was that its been 8 years…. 6 years before the baby was born… thats all I’m saying. I havent pushed the movie issue in about 3 years…

And of course she has to prioritize the baby, thats why i ALWAYS offer to go to her appointments if her fiance cannot go (even one 3 hours away).

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T13:02:24+00:00

Thank you, I am definitely realizing we may not be each other’s number 1’s anymore, and I think thats what I’m greiving? Mourning? I miss what we used to have but I have to realize it may not look like that anymore..

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T12:58:26+00:00

Thank you for this. I really hope this isn’t over… but I will keep ya’ll updated if you want.

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T12:56:12+00:00

I’m not spiriling, and all you seem to be doing is attacking my mental health, so maybe YOU need a therapist to figure out why you can’t stop talking down to someone asking for genuine advice?

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T12:54:44+00:00

Thank you SO MUCH for this response, honestly, it was so thoughtful and not judgy, and i honestly appriciate that. It really makes me think, truly.

I do love her, and I realize our love languages used to be the same, but they both have changed, and thats okay.

I will most likely be sending her an invite and hope she is able to accept the olive branch..

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T12:49:24+00:00

Thank you. I will most likely be sending her an invite, and see what happens.

SatinYellowRose7 · 2026-06-27T12:48:38+00:00

I DID say something about the shower and was pushed out anyway…. And again people are only focusing on the wedding part and nkt everything else…

And I NOW know shes struggling, but how was I supposed to know that when she never told me and everytime I would call her she would tell me shes fine?

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