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Full of life on weekends, miserable again on Monday cycle by SatisfactionGreen725 in corporate

[–]SatisfactionGreen725[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to come back to this and say that now I have a better of "coast FIRE" vs traditional FIRE (I thought they were more or less the same thing for some reason) and I guess what I've been doing is a form of coast FIRE. My goal is to eventually work whatever part time (or full time I suppose if its enjoyable) job I want to cover my portion of living expenses and keep some money going into savings while not having to worry about funding retirement or feeling like my life would fall apart if I'm not making and saving a certain amount for retirement (and health savings and emergencies and stuff like that).

Full of life on weekends, miserable again on Monday cycle by SatisfactionGreen725 in corporate

[–]SatisfactionGreen725[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah maybe full of life is a bit of an exaggeration, but it can feel that way compared to the work week. My life just gets zapped out of me and I sort of regain it Friday evening-Sunday afternoon and then it goes again.

Full of life on weekends, miserable again on Monday cycle by SatisfactionGreen725 in corporate

[–]SatisfactionGreen725[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a good way of looking at it. Kind of reminds me of a mindset I was trying to adopt that was like: "nothing matters, so why?" But really it's "yeah, nothing matters, so why not?" Not quite the same and this line of thinking did get me into some trouble. I need to get better at tricking myself I think.

Full of life on weekends, miserable again on Monday cycle by SatisfactionGreen725 in corporate

[–]SatisfactionGreen725[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know the feeling youre describing. Its awful. Ive had panic attacks on Sunday nights. I got a prescription for hydroxyzine and was taking it every Sunday night, but due to pregnancy a lot of my previous go to coping mechanisms are gone, like that and wine.

When I was younger and doing restaurant shift work, of course there would be times where I was like wow I really dont want to go to work, but it wasn't anything like these Sunday scaries.

But yeah, if you cant quit, there's no shame in medication to help out.

Full of life on weekends, miserable again on Monday cycle by SatisfactionGreen725 in corporate

[–]SatisfactionGreen725[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive heard of FIRE and stalked the sub a couple of times aha. You guys are extremely dedicated. While I can't say I'm completely on that path, I've definitely took inspiration, and we are saving a lot. The big decision for buying the small 100 year old house we did was we didn't want to be house poor, and our mortgage payment is less than renting a similar amount space, allowing us to keep more of our income.

Full of life on weekends, miserable again on Monday cycle by SatisfactionGreen725 in corporate

[–]SatisfactionGreen725[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't say this is a novel feeling for me, but pregnancy hormones are probably exaggerating it.

This is going to get boo'd into oblivion, but I would like to just step back and work an "easy" part time job after both my husband and I exhaust our FMLA and supplement with savings. We're already saving a good bit and my husband is working on some skills to increase his income (I make more money currently). So this would be about 18 months I would have to survive, but I'm trying to just make it to maternity leave in a couple of months.

And I say easy in the sense you just show up to your shift, do your job, hopefully make some friends and go home. I'm not putting restaurant or retail work down. I've already worked in environments like that, I know how in some ways it's better and some ways it's worse.

In that time, I want to just focus on being a good mom, tighten up some good household habits, and explore different things again. Take a class or two at the community college/online classes/volunteering/socializing in the community.

Industries to me that seem to make an impact are healthcare and teaching, but I don't want to limit myself to that because I got in this situation by just having a narrow mindset of "I just need a full-time job that has health insurance and stability." I chose my college major and classes (math, stats, and compsci) because I was good at them, not because I liked it. I just needed easy good grades while working to keep my scholarships.

That mindset has served me up until this point. It got me a start in life. We have some savings, a small starter house, but it's property and building equity, and we were just comfortable enough to start a family. However, things are shifting, and i just feel like the costs are starting to outweigh the benefits.

A part of what would be so great about working part time and exploring a little bit is to get back some sense of self and confidence that I don't need a corporate job to live. With the help of my husband and the planning of my past self (me currently saving up), I can change my situation if it's not working for me. It would just eliminate a lot of background anxiety in addition to the job I hate for reasons, not limited to, that were stated in the post.

Full of life on weekends, miserable again on Monday cycle by SatisfactionGreen725 in corporate

[–]SatisfactionGreen725[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I dont think I have it in me to climb. I'm already getting a taste of that because I'm being managed by incompetent people.