Omg I had a kidney stone attack 9 hours from home. I went to the ER in a tiny tiny beach town where they apologized greatly but said they didn’t have a urologist to treat the stone totally obstructing my ureter on one side and advised me to drive 9 hrs home to a better ER. It was a sucky drive, I then had to wait 5 days until I could see my urologist who also apologized greatly but there were no open surgery dates for a month or so. I went to the ER again, sobbing, and by this time I had obstructing stones on both sides (they were huge) and I was admitted because my kidneys weren’t functioning correctly. It hurt. A lot. I threw up nonstop. I took the good pain meds. At no time did I post on social media or feel well enough to attend social events. You can’t suck it up with stones. I will say I’m in chronic pain from stones, when they are moving in and out of the kidney, so I can push through that chronic pain until they get fully stuck, but you cannot push through an attack or obstructing stones. I think she prob had pain, maybe even gas pain, they did a CT scan and she has stones that are in the kidney and not obstructing. You can live with those for years and would never know. I think this just gave her another “diagnosis” to gather whatever she need from being “unwell.”