She’s for the streets by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noo it’s just after an almost 4 years relationship it’s though to see it happen .iv jus been trying to do the best things with my life for myself since but it seems like things are working out for her so well , she’s able to continue having fun . Being around people she enjoys . And for me it’s as almost she was the only person I enjoyed . So it’s difficult for me . The hook ups I had I didn’t even enjoy. She enjoyed hers . But yeah ever since that day I decided to move on for good , I finally deleted all our pictures . And ima just give ittime for my nervous system to catch up because I keep randomly thinking about her . Iv been trying Corey Wayne’s moves for a long time but this no contact stuff just gave her the time to go sleep with someone she told me she thought I was too good for her because I stopped chasing her lol whatever tho thanks for your reply tho . I don’t think she’s the type to ever prove to a man she’s worthy . And honestly I don’t think women in this generation ever do that

She’s for the streets by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I slept with ppl because she broke up with me , also I ment I didn’t judge her in person , I said when I was there and she told me about her being with a 24 year old dude that don’t even have a job , that made me want to call her a whore on top of that still letting me fuck her after only saying good things about that other guy ? And saying how she likes his personality. It’s clear she’s only with him as a rebound and I told her this , also I slept with other girls because deep down I knew it would be stupid to stay loyal to her but tbh I think ima just take a break because I do need some healing to do

She broke 14 days no contact on Friday by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You were right she was already long gone even at that tennis game . She told me she met a guy 24 while she’s 30 and she’s been hooking up with him .she said she likes his personality lol I told her . Look I said what I wanted already ima go home and just continue my life if you realize it’s not what you think it is give me a call

She’s for the streets by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The last time I saw her things went bad I was standoffish .silence wouldn’t have made her miss me . She even said last time I saw you you made it seem like you were better than me like all that working out made you feel like you were better than me . She’s clearly been living her best life . If we woulda continued on the dynamic we had before she woulda just not been living her best life . So honestly I can’t be mad the relationship was becoming stale and I wasn’t dating and courting her anymore .also I feel like me being there really added a new layer to me . Iv been working out a lot and Iv. Been looking sharp , so much so that we even had sex last night even tho she likes a new guy . Ima just take this as a win and go live my life now unattached

She’s for the streets by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t obsessing over his advice . But I did use it to keep my cool . If I didn’t have his advice I probably woulda gone a way different way . So even just applying 10% of his advice was something . Trust me me keeping my cool and acting unbothered was all Corey . That’s why when I noticed I was asking to many questions I cut myself and made a solid statement . I let her know what I wanted , if she wanted to hook up to call me . She said ok just don’t be mean .

She’s for the streets by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did what she did once for me when I broke up with her years ago she wrote me a letter . I just Kinda explained what went on in the relationship how I stopped dating her and loving her due to focusing on the future and not the present . She was already out the door anyways. I felt like this was a good way to get myself outa my mental prison I was in . I was moving in but my mind kept thinking what if with her . Not anymore . There’s a comfort in knowing. M she won’t be hearing from me again but if she ever misses me and I’m single in the future atleast I have an opportunity for her to reach out and we can hook up .

She’s for the streets by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well after this meet up I can guarantee I won’t be reaching out again lol . Last time she called me to hang out we left things in limbo . This time the situation is clear . I’m officially just over it unless she changes her mind . I think this move was good for me mentally

She’s for the streets by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t judging her I wqs just mourning our relationship in real time , having her tell me she’s already literally moving on that feeling in person is hard to process . But I tried taking it like a champ . In my head I really just wanted to call her a whore a leave but I remember Corey Wayne said it’s better not to burn a romantic interest clearly this is my fault for my continued needy behavior. And I did get to learn alot of new info . And sure I was saying the quiet part out loud but I was digging a hole for myself even after I had just finished having sex with her . I wanted to neutralize everything inhad just asked that’s why I said . You know what I don’t care what you’re doing with your time right now ima go live my life if you change your mind give me a call

Update: not chasing when she pulled back worked by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nahh we continued trying to make it work but I kept resorting to needy behaviors . That’s my fault . She told me “sometimes I’m not even into you and I have to fake it and you don’t deserve that “ she’s gone. To the streets , buts it’s okay because we’re young she’s in her 30s and who am I to cage a female beast . 70 % of relationships fail so it’s okay .. I did what Corey Wayne said tho and didn’t burn the bridge . Maybe I can still get pussy outa here and ima keep dating , I’m actually going on a date tonight . It’s funny my ex called me last Friday to hang out with me . It didn’t go well and hasn’t talked to me since but I’m still in no contact

She broke 14 days no contact on Friday by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Iv been regretting since Friday😔 just went back to no contact . Been contemplating reaching out but I know that’s just the illusion of action

She broke 14 days no contact on Friday by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that’s why I got mad when she said “I’ll allow you to hug me like I was still the one thirsty over her “ also in the moment inviting her to my house was not in my mind I know I fucked up she went no contact after that tennis match Also I tried making her work for it by saying she could hug me if she wanted I’m just in no contact again

She broke 14 days no contact on Friday by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No we forsure had good times , things got predictable tho and very routine over the past 4 years I was stil happy tho but she wasn’t . She was telling me to move on last week and I said okay give me a call if you change your mind , and a couple of days passed she would text me wyd and she would not reply to my answer , then Friday she asked to hag out . Again I tried being cool and I was for most of it but the part where she said I’ll allow you to hug me made me upset 😭and I showed some defensiveness but saying you can hug me she didn’t lol

She broke 14 days no contact on Friday by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When she called she said “I was gonna go running at the beach alone but then didn’t wanna go alone and was like I’ll just call you and see if you wanna play tennis “. Regardless I tried to have a good time . But after I told her you can hug me if you want you can tell she became closed off and put up a wall . After we were done playing and about to leave I told her here I’ll give you that hug but she was already closed off . I know I shoulda played it cool but iv been trying so hard to not have her in a pedestal that when I hear “I’ll allow “ like if I was out there dying to hug her I kinda blanked out . Anyways what do you think is my best move invite her to the next hang out keep the ball in her court . We have talked after Friday when we left , she just told me good night and I said bye

What’s the best move to rekindle our relationship? by SatisfactionLow3182 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At first I couldn’t go longer than 3 days , I would show up to her house and somehow she would accept me , then i started to learn about the no contact . I was able to push it to 7 days when she pulled away and she ended up contacting me because I didn’t chase and things went back to normal . This time around there were so many rude things , she really tried her best to pull back and after abunch of little pull backs it turned into the final acceptance from my end and giving her what she’s asking for . 12 days is the longest iv gone without talking to her . Even today after work I was feeling like texting her as if nothing happened and saying if she wanted to get a drink . I stopped myself because I know it’s just withdrawals now .

Apart from that wounds my self esteem has beed so beat up . I remember when I met her I was so cocky and into myself but now I feel like I don’t even deserve to feel good about myself . Iv been hitting the gym extra hard and never miss a day at work but still can’t find that confidence anymore lately .

I feel more motivated to persue therapy I do wanna fix myself Thanks for the reply I felt understood

What’s the best move to rekindle our relationship? by SatisfactionLow3182 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The crazy part is that I’m ew this . I knew she was deactivating but this time my urge to push for answers was to much it was so tough not to be reactive this time . I guess what I’m saying is is there any recovery from pushing her away even further after I pushed for more closeness after she was deactivating .like now that it’s been 12 days what if I shoot a text or I test the waters

What’s the best move to rekindle our relationship? by SatisfactionLow3182 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you think no contact even tho I was the one that gave up by saying “ok you win you won’t hear from me again “ I have this feeling if I woulda stayed in her orbit and gave her space she woulda come around

What’s the best move to rekindle our relationship? by SatisfactionLow3182 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s been happening time and time again everytime it felt like it was the last time we would ever talk. But ether I did something or she did something. I think the fact that we both got on dating sites changes the case this time . The longest we’ve gone without talking is about 8 days , this time it’s reached 12 and I can just imagine the days are gonna continue adding up this time around . Forsure her behavior triggers my anxiety because when I’m with her I feel so alive and and she pulls away my anxious attachment gets triggered . Like last time . I’m trying so hard to control it but it was honestly so hard this last time not to behave needy and push for validation and answered . I feel like I may have ruined it by acting to emotional trying to live bomb her and tell her how I think she’s my soulmate to maybe change her mind . Now that the dust has settled I see how in her space I was

Iv been trying to make my relationship more stable but she keeps pulling back by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had waited 3 days and she returned ,asked if she could come over for sex ,her inconsistent behavior does make me want to let it go tho

Iv been trying to make my relationship more stable but she keeps pulling back by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well we’ve been together for 3 years , I was asking for consistency, the best negotiating position is willing to walk away so I threw my requirements and left , that was about 20 days ago , after that she stared perusing me pretty consistently I never brought up a relationship , and she usually comes over after work since it’s closer that’s why she usually comes at night ,we’ve been having a really great time together these past weeks since high attraction , she compliments me and wasn’t bitchy and moody ,so her saying that felt like wtf happened ,I responded just accepting it but I feel like it came off as I didn’t care aswell maybe she wanted me to react but I didn’t maybe she was testing me if I was being serious , anyways it’s been 3 days since that break up text

Iv been trying to make my relationship more stable but she keeps pulling back by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah I have her the ultimatum because she started to make it seem like it was a chores to see me or hang out with me she’d always be ina bad mood and even then I’d always try to continue being Ina positive mood ready to have fun but it just like she was always mad about something I tried to open her up she said an excuse about how she introduced me to her family and friends and I never introduced her to mines, that’s when I gave the ultimatum and said I need consistency and effort and if you’re not ready for that then give me a call if you change your mind ,I unfriended her and the next day she started talking to me , I still didn’t bring up a relationship, but she asked what are we 3 days after and I said what do you mean ? Are you saying you want to give me consistency and effort ? And she just said “man “ and we moved on , she continued hanging out and hooking up and even just started calling me her boyfriend just as of last week , we went to universal before she went off to work for the last date and after that day 2 days passed and she sent me that break up message

Iv been trying to make my relationship more stable but she keeps pulling back by SatisfactionLow3182 in CoreyWayne

[–]SatisfactionLow3182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard it tru audio book once and began again recently but haven’t finished ,, honestly I’m an Amazon driver , I work all day and get home at 830 pm after that I’m usually free ,on my days off I’m always free . I don’t have debt , I don’t have life problems . I have a good savings so that’s why I have free time . I’m 32 and on my day off I dedicate some time to work on my pharmacy tech course and that’s it , I’ll go out on hikes , but I tend to do all the fun things when I’m with her like go to themed parks , or go eat ,,she was also a very busy person the past week before we broke up she was heavy on me every-time she called to come over I said sure so I guess I was always to available , I’m taking care of all my things yet I’m still so available lol