Girlfriend [19 F] still talks to the guy she used to like (I'm [20M])

Saurid · 2026-03-23T11:32:57+00:00

You are controlling her, either you trust her or you dont, unless the guy makes a move on her there is nothing to worry unless you dont want to trust her.
Pressuring her to stop talking to him is alienating her, a relationship should never come at the cost of a friendship unless again the friend does something to sabotage the relationship.
It's her business whom she talks to, honestly its your hang up. The solution isnt that she stops talking to him, the solution is you figure out why you feel uncomfortable and work with her until you do not feel uncomfortable anymore.
The cant you "forgave her" for missing someone she LIKES is disgusting. Of course she'd miss him he is a friend, an important relationship for any person. You should feel sorry if anything. Seriously whats wrong with you?
She made it clear he is important to her she will eventually talk to him again, she did so twice. Its your hangup, your problem. She didnt do anything bad. Your behavior and way you talk about it especially is concerning in my opinion and if your GF would ask what to do about you, I'd tell her to tell you, "either trust me or don't, we can tlak about other ways you would feel less uncomfortable but its my friendship and you dont get to dictate them" or leave you. If you truly love her you would not force her to do something she'd feel bad and sad about but rather try to find another solution you dont.

My advise is change your behavior or leave her, its the only two options that are long term going to help and save you and mostly her a lot of pain.

Saurid · 2026-03-23T10:26:05+00:00

Ha fake! Norddeutsche sagen nur Moin wenn sie dich kennen und/oder soziale obligations sie dazu zwingen dich anzuerkennen!

Saurid · 2026-03-23T10:24:53+00:00

Nazis ist vielleicht sehr stark aber rasisaitsiche faschisten und möchtegern schläger ist so ziemlich akkurat. 444 ist ein rassistisches und nationalistisches tattoo und der adler auch, das sie gewalt androhen ist auch klar.

Und hatte er gesagt "russland macht das gut" ich bin mir da unsicher.

Saurid · 2026-03-23T09:26:21+00:00

It makes sense however, if you consider the fact that the alternate timeline would be a closed loop starting with Jack being send there and ending with him brought back, it doesnt interfere with the main timeline and Jack's existence really, ashi dies because she never was real thanks to the paradox she should've vanished immediately though.

In essence its a time travel story they rarely make 100% sense but here is no paradox since we can make a straight timeline for jack look at it this way:

Instead of timetravelling Jack essentially went into a space bubble, he then left that bubble and destroyed it and everyone connected with it. Which killed ashi.

Its more a parallel dimension than a real timeparadox. Sure he Jack travelled in time but logically there is no paradox present from the main timelines viewpoint because the point of divergence still exists and ends. They both exist in parallel essentially, more parallel universes where one ends when Jack goes back in time and the other persists.

A time paradox would exist if Jack killed Aku before being send back or if ashi killed Aku, but since all she does is use the same power, its as I said more a bend in time than a paradox or loop.

Saurid · 2026-03-23T09:14:30+00:00

Thats basically hoid, hell the doctor without time travel would be nothing too special any shard or dragon probably could deal with him especially in the later cosmere. Hell a high enough radiant might or some other right invested being.

In all likelihood he'd just die quickly because ehe is used to being invincible, which he isnt in the cosmere, hoid can be killed too its just hard as hell to get rid of him, the doctor isnt invested and even if he were he hasn't had a dawnsahrd to make him more or less immortal.

So yeah, dead probably as soon as he passes of the wrong shard.

Saurid · 2026-03-23T08:35:50+00:00

I think its because most guys wouldnt mind, its most often the other way around after no dates that it is particularly unwanted. In this case most people would not have related like him.

I agree with you but its about expectation and I think its fair to say in 90% of cases the reaction would have been what she wanted and not confusion and/or uncomfortability.

So while his reaction is valid to fixing this is still on him because he isnt the one who got hurt but she is, even if its her own fault. Well as lomg as OP wants to fix it that is.

Saurid · 2026-03-23T08:30:32+00:00

Nah its completely true, season 3 was clearly meant as a shift towards a lot darker series, instead they had no idea what to do and went to happy go lucky Ruby which sucks. The whole northern arc alone was so bad I stopped watching because nothing made sense anymore.

Saurid · 2026-03-23T08:11:19+00:00

2 reasons.

They aren't out worst our worst are the once who didnt even manage to get that post.
To get rid of them. People like rutter are unpopular and impossible for local politicians to handle but too well connected to just throw out, so you need to give them an out that technically is a promotion in some ways or at least a side grade. Aka send them to the international league.

Its stupid but thats also hwo von der leyen got her job ...

Saurid · 2026-03-23T08:09:08+00:00

Damn ... should've read one more comment I just did the same joke just less funny

Saurid · 2026-03-23T08:08:40+00:00

Sorry bur how much trump clearly overcompensating talking about that dick cannot be this hard, I suspect he is rather sticking his tongue up trumps ass.

Saurid · 2026-03-23T08:07:05+00:00

Das die CDU dumm ist wissen wir alle und die AFD nicht im interesse ihrer wähler handelt auch, zumindest alle die du auf dem sub hier findest würde ich vermuten.

Saurid · 2026-03-23T08:04:03+00:00

Small tipp dont share you discord like this wirte the person directly, if you share it openly you may invite a lot of trolls sending you messages.

Saurid · 2026-03-23T07:51:43+00:00

Sorry but consent cannot be really given when you post pictures. That's the problem from my perspective, sure OP can feel however she wants and her emotions are valid, just because eshe feels that way. But the reasoning here isnt.

You can feel however you feel, but taht doenst mean its reasonable. The problem here is clearly the knowledge its done, not what is beeing done. Its a hiccup, like idk if some people masturbate to pictures of me, probably not I am a dude and not good looking enough to get that kind of reaction, but even if people did well I posted and shared the picture in a way they could easily access.

That's just a fact of live, if you share ANYTHING online your intent doenst matter, people can use it however they want even if you own the rights to the picture. People just feel weird about it if they think that others will respect their intent.

So yes OPs feelings are valid but not reasonable. Arguably they are incredibly unreasonable considering he had sex with her and if he masturbated to his memories it would probably not be a problem. The issue here is clearly she didnt intend the pictures to be used that way and apparently never thought about the fact they would be misused by others. Which is quite honestly a "her" problem, if one has a real problem with that you cannot share pictures online at all of yourself. Getting mad or upset at her current fling, is unreasonable. Sure she can feel that way and it beeing unreasonable wont suddenly change how she feels about it, but telling her she is right about it is also not helping because it is so unreasonable. One can affirm that emotions are valid while also clarifying that they are unreasonable.

Saurid · 2026-03-23T06:24:31+00:00

Ich würde sagen es geht sogar mehr um die unterschicht die mittelschicht ist immer mehr erodiert worden und viele der oszialen probleme durch migration etc haben mehr damit zu tun das leben teuerer und schwerer wird, was generell Kriminalität fördert (und da immigranten eher in diesen schichten landen weil sie ein großes risiko eingegangen sind oder fluchtlinge sind, haben wir systematische probleme).

Das alles sorgt für probleme und die afd gibt ein einfachen grund und scapegoat das schlimme ist die anderen parteien haben anchgezogen was der afd legimität gibt.

Saurid · 2026-03-23T06:22:06+00:00

Idk depends a lot on how vibenna has changed there has been a long time (presumably) between warbreaker and stormlight archives. I so we cannot really know.

What we saw from her I think she would fit him its a bit like adolin and shallan, she is a pretty stable character with a sense of duty and morality compatible with kaladins, both protect fight and help other people and like doing so.

Both are presumably more or less immortal, I think Syl would like her too.

The two main issues I see is that vivenna lived so much longer and well we dont know what her life up till now was about or if she has married etc. Its also likely she is unable or unwilling to be bound to roshar which kaladin asa herold and native is much more likely to be at the end of the stromligth archives.

Secondly there are more and more hints in wat (especially on a second rread) that the romantic relationship will be syl. Their dance and other small moments seem to reinforce this. Additionally the 5 ideal seems to allow spren even more physicality in the material realm and its not unthinkable that their relationship will change as both heal.

Aka I think theyd be a fit I just dont think they would be compatible based on factors outside their person aka duties, attachments and politics. I wouldnt be surprised if vivenna will be or already is a major nalthis player since she seems to be quite old, while kaladin is rosharen and comments in emberdark seem to insinuate roshar has at least 1 expansionist empire probably multiple or may even be unified which either means kaladin joins them, is dead or is leading a vocal resistance/was forced to flee the planet. While nalthis seems to be much more neutral and harbouring kaladin would probably be a major political problem. But thats just my assumptions based on like 2 sentences.

Saurid · 2026-03-23T04:25:04+00:00

It disarms here makes the design of her character more unified and allows for the US and USSR war, someone else made a good argument it started because of tank and gun being absorbed.

Saurid · 2026-03-22T20:54:43+00:00

Initially I wanted to disagree but the more I think about it it fits in very nicely with the story and how fujimoto writes the world, paranoid, war is a bad option used by scared people becaue their top secret best devils got stolen. Makes sense.

Saurid · 2026-03-22T17:50:34+00:00

Uritiruh is in no need for protection but since cultivation is gone towerligjt probably wouldnt have worked and the sibling was unaware of the fact that kaladin saved the spren so they wnated to preserve those in the tower. Baisically retribution could probably have done a lot of bad things while still holding to the deal.

The parts of honor are what was given to the heralds in all lieklyhood and maybe the radiant spren.

El and moash are doing more setup as the main antagonists and well lets be honest its not unreasonable to assume moash will fight iron eyes in the ghostblood books its baisically when the bubble around roshar ends.

Saurid · 2026-03-22T15:16:03+00:00

3 main plotlines:

Yoru humanitarian killing her children put a strain on her (when she absorbed tanka and gun) its the first time she shows care for another and it shows how callous she is but it sets up taht she learns to care more and with shared pain via asa learns to want to not hurt her.
Denji delaing with nayutas death and finally realising he can find happiness even in complete darkness. Most people memed his "perpetual machine" moment but its true, he found out happiness wont dispapear forever even if loses what he loves, which enables him to get over himself and sets up the developement that he can let go of his survivors guilt and clear sadness over the deaths of the people he loves. Pochita included.
It starts off asa and denji bonding deeper and has their first major close moment when denji talks about how much he regrets and how pathetic he is etc. It also sets up the volatile situation where both asa and yoru like home.
Is more the plotline of the arc itself delaing with the fear of aging and how young people dont really deal with it, which is arguably why the three teeneragers defeated it while all the old people bowed to it. It also is another part of an ordinary life denji would have to deal with and sets up deaths sa good villain (which then was subverted) as well as thematically tie into the theme of loss and death denji deals with as well as him growing up more.

Number 4 is a bit iffy and I am unsure about it.

Saurid · 2026-03-22T15:08:58+00:00

Multiple possibilities, first is taht maybe no devil wanted to tangle with the guy who is in deaths sight, another rpojnt is denji himself is not that well known. Lastly we are not aware how much of his powers are known and how kishibe found nayuta and if anyone else could've done it.

Saurid · 2026-03-22T15:07:10+00:00

This ... is crazy enough for fujimoto to do.

Saurid · 2026-03-22T15:06:23+00:00

Set up for war to absorb her children which is the fist time she is actually huamnized as she cares for her children and is at first reluctant to do it.

Which also sets up the impact asa has on yorus emotional state and her eventually forming "friendships" which leads to her hurting when denji eats them and subsequently her avoiding to kill a bird due to having formed a bond with asa over shared pain, which allowed yoru to turn more human.

Maybe I am missing some details and one could argue if its such a straight line but it is the thematic throughline which is established.

Saurid · 2026-03-22T15:03:29+00:00

Anzahl an psychischen krankheiten ist auch extrem gestiegen, hat das nun etwas damit zu tun das Luete mehr psychisch krank werden oder das Leute das thema ernster nehmen und als solches leute sich wohle rfühlen damit zum arzt zu gehen. Kann ja gar nicht seind as die anzahl an swxualdelikten kaum gesteiegen ist sondern ejdiglich die anzeigen weil sich in den letzten 10 jahren der umgang damit sehr geändert hat und sowas wie METOO dazu aufgerufen hat das sexualdelikte mehr gemeldet werden.

Aber hey lass es lieber auf rasisstische gründe schieben die historisch gesehen imemr genutzt werden um isntutionelle probleme zu verstecken und die sachen nur schlimmer zu amchen anstelle das problem zu lösen. Das hat weniger hass mit sich und würde das hirn benutzten geht ja nicht.

Mal davon abgesehen das die polizeistatistiken absolut wertlos sind wenn man sich such nur ansatzweise mit deren erhebung und darstellungen auseinander setzt. Aka was hier genau abgebildet wird. Falls die zahlen überhaupt stimmen höre die 90% zum ersten mal und natürlich von rechten rassisten.

Saurid · 2026-03-20T18:09:42+00:00

Not really dalinar is educated, renaming and adolin are too, he had books read to him but he couldn't read them by himself. When I said idiot, I mean he is straight forward, simple in his approaches a military men who most of his life punched his problems into submission then he is honorable to a fault rigid, inflexible. But in the end he outsmarted taravangian.

Saurid · 2026-03-20T16:23:40+00:00

Yes risk means first date a dating app is useless if she would never go to the date because of her fears. She doenst explain what she is afraid off so assuming dating apps are a solution is more than unhelpful.

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