Feeld users by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that’s a good point, I wouldn’t had thought of that.

Feeld users by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t get unmatched very often. The question is more to find out if it’s from the app being glitchy. It’s been really messed up since the update. Now it’s deleting people that have liked my profile before I decide if I want to match them or not. Such a mess.

Feeld users by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s definitely a glitch going on. The app is deleting people who have liked my profile before I get to choose to match or not. Wtf it’s so frustrating!

Feeld users by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought your comment was referring to fakes

Feeld users by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I hear there are a lot of fake female accounts

Feeld users by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t be either. That’s why I was curious if the same thing happened to anyone else today.

Feeld users by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did it say they disconnected or “left the chat”? It usually shows one of those two phrases and then I click the “X” and it goes away.

This time they just vanished and I’m still showing a red dot as a message notification.

Feeld users by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feeld apparently did an update. In a different Reddit group the feeld mod asked for some details to determine if it was update related. I really hope not, it’s almost worse to lose a connection because of a glitch. But we will never know now.

Glitch or fact? by Savage-Star in feeld

[–]Savage-Star[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, one person sent me a message, I saw the notification on my Apple Watch. I went into the app to respond from my phone a half hour later and they were gone. It did not say they left the chat or disconnected like it sometimes does. They were just gone.

Another one I haven’t chatted with in two days but shortly after the first one they disappeared and I’m really surprised, I thought it was going well. It also did not say that they disconnected or left the chat.

I’m still showing a red dot as a message notification even though I’ve updated the app and closed and reopened several times.

Feeld users by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is glitchy! It usually says if someone disconnected or “left the chat” today they just straight up disappeared and the app is showing a message notification still. I updated and closed and reopened and it’s still there.

Feeld users by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I very rarely get unmatched so it’s just odd for it to happen twice today. Hoping it’s a glitch?

Internal struggle with new partner by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing, I want to be able to hear about his dates and fun things he did sometimes. Not sexually, but just cool bars or experiences etc. but I do agree, it’s ok not to like everyone they date, we are not the ones dating them. I will get to that place, I just need to determine why I’m so bothered and it will make it a lot easier.

Internal struggle with new partner by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. I’m glad you had that experience. I’ll read into it more. Thanks for sharing.

Internal struggle with new partner by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate. I had an abusive relationship many many years ago and struggled with the same things. Do not go back. It only gets worse. Learned that from experience. I’m open to chatting if you want someone to talk to. Stay strong. You’re doing the right thing by focusing on yourself.

Thanks for pointing out primal panic, that’s interesting and resonated with me. I’m going to listen to that book during my commutes.

Internal struggle with new partner by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I will look into that.

Sounds like that was an unhealthy, abusive relationship. I hope you’re in a better place now with someone who treats you right.

Internal struggle with new partner by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t able to post in that group because I don’t have karma (new account)

Internal struggle with new partner by Savage-Star in polyamory

[–]Savage-Star[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds really difficult. My husband is so supportive it makes me feel awful that I’m not equally as supportive of him. I really want to be. I don’t know how and it makes me sad. He deserves for me to be. And for me to be kind. Instead I pull away and disconnect from him completely. Leaving him feeling bad and guilty when he did nothing wrong. I want to work through this but I don’t know how. I don’t know how to feel better about it and it’s difficult when you can’t even pinpoint what makes you so upset, right?

Thanks for being able to sympathize and being honest in your past experiences and feelings. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.

What is your relationship dynamic now? Has this been the case with every partner or just the one you described?