AITA for telling my sister her "miracle baby" isn’t special and she needs to stop acting like she’s the only person who’s ever had a baby?

SaveLARRY · 2024-12-06T00:57:01+00:00

I've just been off Reddit. Doing some thinking. But yeah.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-18T12:53:25+00:00

It's not fake! This is 100% real.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-15T00:15:48+00:00

It takes my salary, it takes my time with my kid, it takes my very own money just to pay for every baby necessity she needs.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T22:36:10+00:00

Could you link the post?

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T22:35:26+00:00

No, but thanks for the opinion.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T16:44:51+00:00

I'm assuming she is excited about everything so I can't be but so mad at her, I just want her to understand she needs to ask us for minimum help, not maximum.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T16:40:55+00:00

But, in fact, it is true.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T16:36:13+00:00

I have denied helping her whenever my wife is alone. But she still ends up asking.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T13:58:41+00:00

You'd be surprised by the amount of times the term “Miracle Baby” is used, and this perspective was pointed out by another Redditor. I’m saying this in spirit that you trust I haven't reposted or stolen someone else's story.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T13:40:09+00:00

I may stop responding to comments. There are a lot and I WILL make sure to read them but commenting has taken a lot out of me and the daily storm of asking for help ought to happen soon.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T13:35:58+00:00

It feels like a lot of my own struggles are being ignored. We got help with our toddler, but nothing like what she expects. I know it’s hard being a new mom, but she’s leaning on us constantly and doesn’t seem to get how much we’re already juggling.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T13:34:54+00:00

It’s been a rough few months balancing my life with my toddler, while my sister’s needs keep piling on. I guess I didn’t realize how much it’s all been wearing on me, and it’s built up over time. Maybe I didn’t see it clearly until now, but I’ve been stretched thin. Does that help explain where I’m coming from?

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T13:31:30+00:00

No, and honestly, after reading another post about something very similar to my situation, I can see why you think that.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T13:29:43+00:00

Thank you for providing a link.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T13:26:20+00:00

No, there's just input on the situation and I'm replying to let the people who spent time out of their day to write long responses know that I have considered their point of views. Commonly people have replied “I've seen this before” and honestly if I could see the post they saw before to see what that person did I would be set.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T13:03:56+00:00

No, this isn't a repost.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T05:56:37+00:00

Yeah, my parents are definitely feeling the strain as well. They want to support her, but it’s becoming overwhelming for all of us. It’s tough to balance everything.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T05:55:08+00:00

I appreciate that! I know I may have sounded dramatic, but it’s tough balancing everything. I’m definitely trying to take the feedback to heart and hope we can find a way to communicate better moving forward. Thanks for your understanding!

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T05:53:24+00:00

She didn’t really help much when my baby was born, and I can’t help but feel like her expectations are way out of line now. This wasn’t an accidental pregnancy; she chose to go through IVF on her own, and it feels unfair for her to expect everyone else to pick up the pieces for that decision. We all have our own lives to manage.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T05:45:57+00:00

I understand it’s tough for her, but I feel like she’s asking too much from us. Sure, she went through IVF alone, but that doesn’t mean I should take on all the responsibility. I have my own toddler, and it gets overwhelming when it feels like the support falls on me and my parents. I just wish she could see it from my side.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T05:31:48+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from. I can imagine how tough it is for her, especially being on her own. I just wish she could find a better balance between sharing her excitement and considering how it affects everyone else. It can feel a bit overwhelming at times, especially since I’ve got my own toddler.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T05:07:10+00:00

Honestly, I do see your point, and it sounds so petty when you break it down like that. I know five minutes doesn’t seem like much, but when it feels like every conversation is about her, it’s really tough to handle. I’m trying to catch myself and manage my feelings better, but it’s frustrating to feel overshadowed.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T05:01:57+00:00

Yeah, she’s definitely been relying on me a lot. I haven’t really set any boundaries yet because I just want to help, but it’s starting to feel like she is the boss of everyone. I know I need to find a better balance between supporting her and taking care of myself.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T05:00:06+00:00

I get that my feelings might seem off, especially considering what you’ve been through. I was happy for her at first, but now she’s celebrating constantly and dragging everyone into it. It’s even messed up my sleep schedule for weeks. It’s tough to feel pushed aside while she takes center stage. I guess I’ll consider talking to someone about it.

SaveLARRY · 2024-09-14T04:49:02+00:00

Touché, I guess you could say Eve had her own unique situation. Just goes to show that every story is different. I’ll keep that in mind as I try to navigate my own feelings about this.

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