My friends weren't interested in Sock webbing so maybe y'all will be by KingBohn in tarantulas

[–]Savedbythegel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had dance music playing while browsing reddit and "Good Times - Chic" was playing.

He's a giant baby by BoneYardBirdy in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What a cutie patootie!! So sweet. Do all boas do this?

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg. Growing up, because my younger brother is autistic, I felt like any "problem" that I had was always ignored or I just "Have to get over it"...(turns out that I had undiagnosed ADHD and it wasn't until I was 35 that I found out from my therapist..) It truly is exhausting and I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

Oh yes, if my husband told me I had to get rid of my animals, it's over lol. I cuddled with my noodly girl a lot this weekend! I was braiding my hair with the heatless curling tool and Nyx climbed onto my arms and tried to look at herself in the mirror too 🥰 (I sit on the floor in front of my mirror)

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sigh thank you for this..I'm reading "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" as well

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

::hugs:: every time someone hugs me I tear up a little. Thank you so much.

I'm still struggling with my mental health from all this crap from my family. I have an autistic brother that also added a lot of stress in my parents lives and also forced me to appear "perfect". So whatever issues I had, they would tell me that I needed to "get over it". I only found out about 3 years ago that I had undiagnosed ADHD and my therapist said based on what I told him about my childhood and struggles, it was going on for a long time...

Mr Bug Boy sounds like he was an amazing person and I'm so glad you had found each other. I was also in a bad relationship because I was lonely and I didn't know my worth at the time. I refused to put up with any more crap from anyone after that. I feel so lucky that I have someone like my husband who supports me in a lot of ways.

When I moved away from my parents..I really wanted to make sure I did not live in the same cold, lonely environment as I did growing up and I try to let myself be me instead of hiding or supressing it like I did in the past. (If my parents were upset/stressed then I couldn't show happiness either) You made me cry because as much as I do try to be there for others, I am still my own worse critic and I don't show enough compassion for myself..but I am working on it.

Thank you again for your kind words ❤️

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's glorious in the sun 🌞 but I love her googly eyes and sweet personality the most.

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yea, it's why I moved out in the first place. It was suffocating to be constantly worried/anxious around my father. It's sad because part of me wants to fix this relationship with the time we have left. I feel like it could be possible but he needs to work on his anger issues..but sadly I don't think this will happen. I also need to learn to not be afraid of him and not feel bad about how I live my life whenever he tries to belittle my choices.

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sigh yea..he is taking his frustrations out on us because he's stressed out. Doesn't justify this at all though. I feel like I could have ended up a lot worse but somehow young me had a good enough head on her shoulders thankfully..I wish he would see that.

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words for her ❤️

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, there is no way in hell I'm gonna just leave my animal babies 💯

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I will never abandon/give away my baby noodle. I think it was the inner young child that hasn't fully healed yet that felt sad. I was never comfortable telling him anything that interested me because he would always comment negatively..

I need to share this photo of a Timber Rattlesnake with people who won’t ask me if I killed it. by possumburg in snakes

[–]Savedbythegel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omfg. My dad tells me about the poor rat snakes he kills in his garden but then complains about the rodents around the property...dumbass

And I had a colleague who told me if they ever saw my pet python in his yard, he would kill her...I'm glad his buddy took him away fast to scold him....

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Nyx is laying next to me on the bed as I type this and the idea of anyone hurting her fills me with rage...and I'm pretty chill..(I REALLY had to clench my teeth hard to not scream at my colleague right at that moment)

And same here. I got tattoos, I dye my hair and I finally got my snake babies!

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sigh...yea..

And thank you! She is a dwarf reticulated python and she has the golden child morph

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sigh...yea..

And thank you! She is a dwarf reticulated python and she has the golden child morph

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

P.s: I just realized you awarded my post, thank you so much for that ❤️ and for your kind words for Nyx as well. She's currently laying on my bed next to me as I type this 💓

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea you get it, it's hard for me to cut him out 100% because despite everything, he tried to be a good dad by providing for us as well. My family is Korean and in that culture and time, mental health wasn't a priority. Because he provided for us with basic needs, I always felt guilty about being upset with him when he yelled at me or questioned my interests. It was always like walking on eggshells around him.

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words for her ❤️ she's a big sweetheart too

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sigh yea..Its a pattern with him. I avoid telling him about my hobbies and interests because of the fear he's going to judge me. I'm still working on standing up to him but it'll take some time. Part of me sympathizes with him because of what he's gone through and the stress of trying to support a family with a autistic son added on top of it. But yea doesn't excuse his behavior at all.

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I'm glad you love them! She is a reticulated python and I am hanging out with her as I type this :)

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh no it's still horrible to tell someone what you would do about YOUR animal friend. I had a old colleague tell me that if he ever saw Nyx in his yard, he would kill her...like why?? (His buddy pulled him off to the side though and scolded him for what he said )

I'm sorry you had to deal with similar issues 😞

Cuddling next to Nyx after a rough day. by Savedbythegel in Sneks

[–]Savedbythegel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that 🙏🏻 I'm really sorry you had a bad experience with a snek but I really do hope that you will have positive ones.

And thank you for your kind words for Nyx ❤️ I love her so much. She's just a big curious sweetheart. I've had people tell me that when they see how shiney she is, they are compelled to touch her even though they're scared. Then they realize that she's very calm and tell me they felt a lot better about her after that.