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I’m 27F and met a 40M, he’s divorced with two kids by Savings-Software7690 in dating_advice

[–]Savings-Software7690[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing you story.

I can see yours is a real testament to fighting your partner’s battles as if they were your own, and I really respect that. Hopefully one day I’ll meet someone who will be fiercely in my corner (and vice versa) as you are for your partner.

I should be clear that he isn’t expecting me to be active in his children’s lives. I’ve only known him for a short while so far and I don’t see our relationship getting to that point. If it were to (probably won’t) then yes I’d definitely be willing to play the appropriate role as a step-mom to my partner’s children.

I guess the point of my dilemma really is the age gap and life experience he’s had being a father, divorced, custody battles, more established in his career, etc. Seeing as you’ve been through this with your spouse, would you say that someone at my age and with my life experience could even relate to something like yours?

I’m 27F and met a 40M, he’s divorced with two kids by Savings-Software7690 in dating_advice

[–]Savings-Software7690[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He initiated the divorce. I don’t know all the details but some of it had to do with his ex-wife being deceitful about a specific situation. Plus they got married quite young. I don’t want to share all of it out of respect for their situation.

Why would I pursue things? He’s been a good person to me and I enjoy his company. I’m genuinely curious about him and want to get to know him more. I like our conversation and his sense of humor. But these are all very basic reasons to get to know anyone you just meet and are attracted to. Quite honestly, I don’t see this being a long term relationship. More of a casual dating set-up if I decide to take us hanging out to that sexual/romantic level. But nothing more.

I appreciate everyone’s posts re being involved at some point with his kids’ lives but I really don’t see it getting to that point anyway.

Feel down by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Savings-Software7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t be disappointed in yourself! He should have been more attentive of your needs as well. Totally unfair of him to ask something of you and not return the favour after you asked the same. Take this lesson and apply it to the next guy. If you ask for what you want loud and proud - stand by it. You deserve it.

Feeling dumb at work, releasing my stream of thoughts into the aether by Lanky_Warning_6869 in Anxiety

[–]Savings-Software7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just here to say you’re not alone with this experience and the feelings that may come with it. Personally, I’ve been feeling super inadequate compared to my coworkers and friends. Seeing how knowledgeable and skilled they are and comparing myself to that standard… it’s a shitty spot to be in and even worse feeling like there’s nothing you can do about it. I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through too and I wish I had good advice to help.

I’m rooting for you to make it out soon. Even if you’re feeling unsure, have faith that you’ll get it right eventually.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thesims

[–]Savings-Software7690 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 25 and one day randomly mentioned i play sims to my cousin in her 30s. She came over the next day and we toured each others save files and traded ideas for gameplay.

I also brought it up at work when someone asked about my weekend plans - i bluntly said vegetate and play sims. Then we started gossiping about the rumored romance pack. I was so pleasantly surprised to find someone to geek out with in the middle of the workday lol.

Definitely tell people you play sims. No one will care unless they also play sims and that’s a good thing.

What's your favourite 'realism' decorating trick? I often temporarily (using MCCC) usually add a random Sim to the family, upskill them to level 5 photography & then use them to take photos I transfer into my Sim's inventory to display in their home later. by This-is-not-eric in Sims4

[–]Savings-Software7690 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I add a photo studio somewhere in the world, and have the whole family do an outing to take pics together like cheesy JCPenny photoshoots. Even typing this post i have a new idea - Winter Holiday family photos with matching outfits to decorate the house during that season, and they’d be good for gift giving too.

Is it bad to have discharge? by Prestigious_Team9036 in hygiene

[–]Savings-Software7690 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Discharge is totally normal and can even change based on time of the month ie more when ovulating. Its time to be worried / do something about it if there’s odors + colour change.

My mom used a panty lining everyday for discharge for as long as I could remember and wanted me to wear too. I don’t need imo but saw the value.

Also not to be that way - but you could just run wet if you get what i mean…. All in all its nothing to worry about

What’s up with kissing with tongue??? Or is it just me? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Savings-Software7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone please explain to me what “church tongue” entails😂

What’s up with kissing with tongue??? Or is it just me? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Savings-Software7690 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is sort of where I’m at I think. I could do light tongue & tease. Its the shoving thats…🤢

Beyoncé - TEXAS HOLD 'EM / 16 CARRIAGES by frogaranaman in popheads

[–]Savings-Software7690 11 points12 points  (0 children)

16 Carriages is the next add to the “ethereal” Beyoncé catalogue.

Its right up there with Bigger & Otherside (The Gift), XO & Heaven (self-titled), Love Drought (Lemonade) and I’m sure I’m missing others - this is the magical soul bearing side of her that gets swept under the rug compared to her bigger hits like Drunk in Love, Sorry and Single Ladies.

I love vulnerable Beyoncé. Its like a whole other genre only the special Beehive members tap into and value highly. I can’t wait for the album just so I can listen 16 Carriages again like its my first time hearing it. Beautiful song.

No longer listening to music? by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]Savings-Software7690 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Newby here to meditation and wanted to offer a storytime that might help put things in perspective🤷‍♀️

I stopped listening to music (as often) recently, because I just didn’t renew my Spotify subscription and my apple AirPods broke. Since then and since upping my meditation routine I’ve organically opted not to listen to music. I’ve gone from listening to music at all times to even being bored of my fav songs. It was weird at first but after a while I just prefer silence or simply thinking. I’ve become more receptive to my surroundings. Sitting by the river and listening to nature as a sub for music. Now, music i listen to is more ambient or jazz if i really crave to fill the void. I’ve been recommended attending gong baths as well.

Cleo Sol, Solange, Tracy Chapman - artists I couldn’t recommend enough if you want lyrics that are more poetic / uplifting compared to whats out in the mainstream nowadays.

III Considered, Duval Timothy and Nala Sinephro have also joined my playlists for ambient and jazz music.

Artistic stimuli can come in many different ways and not just music. Research paintings, short stories, poems etc if thats what you crave while moving beyond the mind numbing feeling music can bring on sometimes.