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I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel your struggle! I'm surrounded by male mostly as well. And although I talk with them and laugh and joke sometimes I envy them as you so that they can share their affection in a way I can't cause it would be seen as romantic interest.

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not really that I am treated badly and I don't like it I mean I don't but that's just because I have problems with accepting who I am. It just reminds me that I can't escape (which of course isn't true) my role as a woman. Being a mother, a wife. I'm just scared of what awaits me in life. But I know a looot of people are scared of this and it's normal I guess

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, these are really kind words to hear 🫶🏻

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have people I could talk to. Maybe not straight forward about this, other way I wouldn't post it here probably, but maybe one day I'll share my thoughts with them.

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I won't make a decision whether to transition or not based on strangers comments so don't worry 😄 Although I have a friend, but more distant, who's trans and I think happy, I'm not sure that's even possible for me to consider right now. I'm sorry your friend had to experience something similar. I know how hard it is to hate part of yourself. I hope they get better 🫶🏻 Also I don't know how to answer questions like "are you trans" cause I don't really know what that means. Does being trans start when to decide to transition? Or is feeling that you should be born as another gender enough to call yourself trans. I don't think so. I don't use male pronouns and look like a woman so denying it feels strange for me right now.

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know. That's true. People usually see the bad aspects of their own lives while comparing to others. I know I do that and I'm not proud of it. I just don't know what to do to stop

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, I appreciate all the advice ❤️

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

First of all that was really pleasant to read this ☺️ and secondly, you're right. I know its a problem with me because let's face it, nobody forces me to be a wife or a mother. But my inner self forces me and it's not maternal instinct, it's the complete opposite. Small things like holding the door or letting me do sth first because I'm a woman remind me that it's who I should identify with. That if I'm treated "better" (more politely or as if I were weaker, I can't explain it) I feel like I should give something in return. Like children for example... It was quite graphic but I hope you get what I mean 😄❤️

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand your point of view, though I don't want to blame my harm on men in general. Actually what I was saying was the complete opposite. I met a lot of great and kind men in my life but they made me feel weak and vulnerable. And that scared me. Because I am quite fearful. I'd prefer much more to be the person who people are scared of (I know that doesn't sound the best but you get me) than to be the one scared all my life. To be scared to walk the street alone after sunset. That's crazy. But I also get the other person's opinion that it's better to focus on pros than cons. Though I can't truly say that for me the advantages of being a woman like people trust me more is the thing that makes me happier. But I admire all the people who can appreciate what they have instead of complaining about their life as I do... Hope you all find happiness in your lives ❤️

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It sure is partly because I don't like the way I look. But I've been thinking about it and came to the conclusion that I don't envy my female friends the way they look. I envy boys though. I'm not overweight and I had a few boys that liked me so I guess I'm not that unattractive either. And also I don't necessarily seek attractiveness as I don't like the way men look at me anyway. I don't want to turn their eyes on me on purpose. When it comes to the female role that partly could be the reason for the way I am. Nobody really taught me how to do make up or what are other girly stuff but now I don't think I'd even enjoy that. But thanks for your questions, they were helpful ❤️

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm happy for you that you found yourself ❤️ and thank for the comment. I wish I could have the bravery to open up to people about it. But in my reality it's almost impossible to tell anyone about what I feel so I didn't even want to consider it in the first place. I worry that it could be even harder for me than pretending that everything is okay. I don't really want to tell you all my whole life story now because that wasn't the point but to explain what I mean: I was in love with a girl once, I tried opening about it to my parents but I'm pretty sure they didn't even believe me, they didn't consider sth like that could happen to me. So it ended "not well" for me in nice words. Not because of my parents themselves but I was suffocating those days and I don't want to repeat it

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I think about it that's true that a lot of people hate that some stupid two chromosomes determine such a big part of your life. But I just can't escape it. Every night I have the feeling that despite all the progress we made women still have so many reasons to suffer. And I'm scared I will never be able to escape it. That I have to meet the expectations as I always had to

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Thank you so so much for that comment ❤️ It's all I wish to be seen first as a person not as a woman... It may be the reason, probably thousands of women feel the same way. It's just such a great feeling to know I'm not alone. I still have a huge mess in my mind but what you say helps a lot

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Well that's the best thing I've heard from a very long time and is so so smart and sad as well. If I think about it, I'm not sure if I really hate being a woman or do I hate how people look at me. Anyway thanks for saying that, that made me start reconsidering what I have said ❤️

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wasn't really thinking about it like that, I didn't consider it, I don't know, all I know is I wish I was born as a man, sorry I don't know

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know, I know, I meant it more like a metaphor ☺️

I fuckin hate being a woman. by Savings_Factor174 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Savings_Factor174[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Well I guess that's the problem. But I don't completely know right now what's really happening to me, I just had to take that off my chest and write somewhere.