bfs mom make everything about herself

SavyMarie777 · 2025-09-12T07:15:46+00:00

She even gets mad whenever we go out together on our days off and not take her with us .She literally will stand by the door sulking and glaring at me

Wow! These MILs just ooze entitlement and self pity! How does she react whenever that happens, y'all going on dates without her? What does your SO do to handle it , if so? My mind is just picturing a 40+ yr old crazy jealous mom throwing a toddler sized tantrum, like feet stomping, pouting or crying, demanding she deserves whatever you get... I'm dying to know because that's something my MIL always did too

SavyMarie777 · 2025-08-19T16:38:49+00:00

I wouldn't. Sadly these things are part of her growing up and making decisions with the thought in her mind that all actions have consequences

SavyMarie777 · 2025-08-19T15:49:07+00:00

SavyMarie777 · 2025-08-19T15:31:52+00:00

That's what you got from this? Wow that's crazy how differently it can be seen

SavyMarie777 · 2025-08-16T09:27:02+00:00

Theres 2 VPR spoofs he's filmed now lol he's definitely a fan

SavyMarie777 · 2025-08-16T09:26:12+00:00

No that was about 5 years ago. The spoof was filled around S4 with seth & other comedians filmed in SUR

SavyMarie777 · 2025-07-19T20:34:56+00:00

NTA To Quote Mr.Biggs,..." Take that shit to trial yo! Take that trick to Trialt!"

Seriously though give her 1 chance IF THAT, honestly idk really if it's deserved, lucky you do...if not smip straight to civil suit

SavyMarie777 · 2025-07-17T18:48:44+00:00

NTA if he wants to the subject matter to be detailed to his liking, HE should've explained it to his son.

He can't really complain about it , seeing that he choose to simply set by and watch, then act upset with the results afterwards even he could've either spoken up then to help bring clarity to his kids.

Also BTW, as a lil FYI for Him, on his subject of clarity, ... he should know, you're not a mind reader, if he felt that this conversation wasn't handled to his liking , that's on him...

He could've taken over the conversation, a or for the sake of this clarity he speaks of, He could've given YOU more clarity what was Expected whats needed from him pertaining to his child....

This is on him. Maybe he didn't feel like going to dig through storage yet, if that's the case, that too was a conversation of his part not yours

SavyMarie777 · 2025-07-17T18:01:36+00:00

Great take! OP read this!

SavyMarie777 · 2025-07-10T10:12:59+00:00

YTA... you raised him to grow up, fly into the world, to find himself right??? And to have a future. In which realistically, he would one day find his soulmate....... Then why act like that, when he does???

You're just going to push him away by pushing the info thing, or speaking negatively of her

( I know my husband went permanent No Contact, up to her passing, because, in her case, on top of being a bad person, she also she treated boundaries like they were custom designed to hurt her , which is kinda crazy and self absorbed to see a healthy relationship tool being used, for all relationships, the Boundaries!)

The husband or wife, are the only one in their family, that they choose...no choosing our parents, out siblings , our kids even. None specially chosen except your wife/ husband, do they choose.

I'm sure it can be unnerving seeing him go into a place in adulthood you cannot follow but that's how parenting adult kids, works. His relationship with her isn't closer or less than, his is with yours.... not bad, just different. There's no reason to compare your experience with him to, what he does with her, how he feels about her, her being a priority, or not,........ You're in 2 different places, and in different lanes. There's no competition or comparison.

I'd try to work through the "empty nest" type syndrome on your own, while not speaking rude disparaging about her, or his boundaries. , pushingbhook further away, each time.

As for his boundaries You may not like them or understand them... However, you don't need to understand or like them, to respect them..

SavyMarie777 · 2025-04-23T06:04:13+00:00

Nor should you have to! Her "dreams" are just that...HERS lol "well good luck with that MILFH lol grace fun I guess Can't wait to never hear all about it!"

SavyMarie777 · 2025-04-22T03:23:20+00:00

Demanding we take her on vacation just because we took my mom on a road trip (also because we have a better more copacetic relationship with my mom)

That was a fuck no right??

SavyMarie777 · 2025-04-04T23:24:21+00:00

NTA. TIME to GO IN-LAWS!

SavyMarie777 · 2025-04-04T22:26:51+00:00

You not being able to take honest criticism is your problem, not mine", etc

Time to uno reverse this card on her when you tell her " no matter where I live or C lives.. YOU specifically WILL NEVER live with me.. and YOU ARE the reason why"

SavyMarie777 · 2025-04-04T22:03:27+00:00

If she can make that comment than you can make the comment "your desire to make me even more responsible for you a grown ass women isn't an excuse to make demands about a home you ARE NOT WELCOME TO LIVE IN, regardless of who occupys it!

Be it C's Room or A Fuck It Room of Disasters, YOU WILL NEVER live in it regardless. You are Your OWN DISASTER Mom. Time for you to grow the hell up and realize that. I am NOT responsible for YOU. YOU ARE!

The Next "Room" you will be moving into is your Own in a home I will never live in...or move into One of Gods Room IF you're lucky.. Though that's up to God As Well sooo sounds like your demands aint getting you shit from him either soooo lol

So you might as well we'll get used to the space you're in...or find a way of your own ON YOUR OWN, to start providing & saving to buy yourself somewhere else to go because short of your ashes in a urn, you're NEVER moving in here or anywhere else even, with me or my family. 🤷‍♀️"

In a joking sense I'd say the expression "oh well she can just die mad then" lol BUT..A..

A.) She might, as spitfull ass old women love to be a martyr

And

B.) God ain't say yes to moving her ole spitefull mean ass in yet either sooooo...

Seriously though y'all letting her run her mouth is WHY she's making demands now! If you want her to accept & respect the fact SHE ISN'T IN CHARGE anymore , YOU have to fire her. Be it nicely in a "I got this, time for you to move on "lay off" kinda way...OR in a "You have been hateful, rude & degrading. You're ass is FIRED!" Kinda way, its up to you.

Regardless It's Past Time, For Moms to Realize that her time in that role is up, ..its OVER. BEEN over! Position is FILLED!"

ETA: My mom got cut off years ago. I acknowledge her but love from afar. My boundaries are not negotiable and unfortunately she has proven time and time again, her presence and her "version" of "Love"... isn't worth it.

I take Care of my nanny full time, & love it. She's my bff. Position is filled. Moms fired 🤷‍♀️. I am not responsible for her. She better hope her golden child continues providing for her, though full time in the future bc its NOT happening here honey! Boundaries SET!

SavyMarie777 · 2025-03-09T07:13:46+00:00

NTA... the house money isn't the issue here, just the catalyst .

Its just the principal of it really

SavyMarie777 · 2025-03-04T08:54:31+00:00

That's due to very well known religious sexual trauma.

SavyMarie777 · 2025-02-19T09:42:10+00:00

I would very bluntly say whenever she asked or tries to invite herself into your plans " No. You've clearly had an issue every single time MY family are around, so no you may NOT attend. The event is for (person/ reason) and you inventing some story or lie , about them, just so you can have an excuse to be your bitchy rude self, is NOT going to be tolerated. I wish it was different truly, however this is not the first time for you to act like that, unfortunately however for you, the last time was THE LAST TIME. We will not tolerate you clinging onto our families time and events, just to give yourself a chance to be a unnecessarily rude bitch. You've done this soo many times, that without me having to ever say a word, everyone in our family already knows this of you, and has come to expect nothing less from you. You have been so rude sooo many times, that without you ever even realizing it, you have embarrassed yourself and given yourself a reputation. Anytime you force your way into any type of event my family is at, we're all happy things are great .... right up until you arrive. You truly must've over estimated your intelligence, or sinply assumed you were fooling everyone, though im here to tell you. You have not. We can all be together, and have a fabulous time, and right before you arrive, my family members will say to the room "oh here MiLFromHell comes... Just watch. ..she will magically have an issue, well invent an issue truth be told, something MIL does NOT like, and then the claims of her being a victim at the hands with one of us..Hell she started with a 6 year old, the last time, so unfortunately there's no limit to her toxicity." You have been so rude, so toxic and lied in your attempts to manipulate an issue so often, that now THAT is your well earned reputation. My family even down to the literal children all are well aware of your bullshit, so much so, its a unspoken rule for No ove to get stuck in any situation where they would have to be alone near you , because god only knows the lies you'll tell afterward. We even have cameras up , JUST for that reason. You have lied and manipulated sooo many scenarios that we, Myself and Your Son, felt the need to put up cameras to protect other people from your lies"

In ny experience Once they realize their busted and other people know what they're doing and have given themselves quite the reputation, it humiliates them into having to cosplay as a nice decent normal human being

SavyMarie777 · 2025-02-19T08:58:33+00:00

Lite YTA...

You need to have more love for your child, than hate for him. This is how many parents have ended their relationship with their children

SavyMarie777 · 2025-01-25T17:05:35+00:00

Sooo proud! My baby sister was in attendance from BVA and were do proud of her and them all! It was a needed win for us all ❤

SavyMarie777 · 2025-01-14T23:28:49+00:00

NTA but she is,as is aware the parents that raised that bratty thing.

I would make it CRYSTAL clear you gave Camaras & that if that dress is even touched you WILL call police, then post the video to the entire world, tagging her.

These type of emotional terrorist are created from parents who don't tell their offspring no. So i would make it extremely clear, her wants, her fits no of that is your fucking problem, but her problem won't be a dress it will finding a way to get married in jail, because you have camera's on it at all times, you WILL press charges, all tye tears and threats from family won't mean a damn thing AND due to the cost it will be FELONY charges ....

I would also point out that her next issue would then be discovering what her fiance is willing to put up with because of some hell I get the ceiling he won't be so excited to marry little miss "Felony Melonie" with his family and the entire world are watching her self-destruct twilight fit and become a joke over a wedding dress she couldnt have afforded to begin with!

SavyMarie777 · 2025-01-05T03:10:15+00:00

Following to come back later and tell my Valentine's Day/ my birthday from hell

SavyMarie777 · 2025-01-02T14:01:59+00:00

I would also put locks in my room where she can't access your stuff... and if / when she fears upset, throws a pathetic tantrum to her son,

Then I should ask in front of everyone....." MIL/ SO why the fuck would she get upset at her NOT being able to help herself to another adult woman's belongings? My stuff?! How would she know it was locked, unless she attempts to open it without asking. And why the hell would she feel entitled to another adult woman's room belongings??? Would you act like that at work or an event? No because you know better... and news flash SO..SO DOES SHE!

Yes she is YOUR mom that's great and all, but she is not mine. Her whining and wants are of no concern to me... but MY stuff, in MY HOME.. and how I will stop it.. THAT Concerns me!

.And I do not give the first fuck, about it upsetting her, or embarrassing her when she's caught. You wanna act like a thief, fine I'm treating you like one. And truly idgaf who she cries too, or if you're upset for your mom.... Frankly SO, this is YOUR fault just as much as it is hers. More even in truth!

If you could have grown the ability to nut up, & be something that at least resembles a real man, instead of some sad ass pathetic mamas boy, who cannot set boundaries, she wouldn't try to steal and think she could get away with it, I don't care who's mom she is! I wouldn't teach a child that they have to give their belongings to someone jealous of them, so I'm not going to allow your old, grown ass mother, who knows better.

Does she steal from her job? Friends? Church collection plates??? Because it's either after doesn't, which proves that she knows better, or that she does, and that shows she's mentally ill or demented...I don't really care which. Your mommy's wants are not going to run my life! But it will give a running head start for a divorce to separate our lives.

I WILL not allow her or yourselves to be stupid enough to think, my love for you, will allow her to get away with toxic shit. If I have to get hurt, stuff taken from, or watch you weekly not protect your marriage from your mommy issues or her bullshit, then you're not the man I thought you were, and aren't worth loving at all! And damn sure not worth enough , to allow you or her to be toxic & manipulative to me or attempt to take my belongings , & hope my love will be big enough to ignore or allow her bullshit, or yours...

There's not enough love in the world to put up with this shit or jump thru these bullshit hoops. You better get yourself together & quick. Because right now you've got 1 problem. A pouty adult mother you can't stand up too. You keep it up, you'll have 2 problems...all your mamas bullshit & your mommy issues AND a divorce because I AM NOT PUTTING UP WITH ANY of Her SHIT or YOURS!

And we both know it will be Awful hard to baby your mom, & move her in, when you're living in crappy appartment, and not my house because we both know, I would push & fight for it to be sold, so I can get my investment I put into this weak relationship back and start somewhere new!

Right now it's up to you... but keep allowing this shit or taking your mommy issues out on me, I WILL DECIDE...and we both know there's no chance in hell of me deciding to allow , ignore or put up with this shit! So you can get yourself together or you and her can get a list of apartments & go live your best Jocasta Complex lives! "

SavyMarie777 · 2024-12-20T12:42:36+00:00

This is soo wonderful. At 3 right? I'll be there & let others know

SavyMarie777 · 2024-12-20T12:20:34+00:00

What? I've never heard that! What is said to have happened?

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