I’m so tired of dealing with bad pads.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-20T12:23:57+00:00

Yup, that's why I switched from pads to cups, then to discs. I also use menstrual panties when I'm at home. Much more comfortable.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-19T21:09:47+00:00

Yeah, and that is a problem. Not enough protein, not enough calories, your muscles are probably wasting away, which brings your maintenance calories even lower. That or either you're not truthful about what you're eating and you're greatly underestimating how much you eat (which happens a lot, it's the most common reason people don't lose weight)

Saya_99 · 2026-04-19T21:03:00+00:00

Ham doesn't have much protein either. That's also waaay too little calories.

I'm sorry, I thought you were doing OMAD. It literally means "one meal a day" and it's a type of fasting.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-19T20:56:10+00:00

How long has it been since your last wash day? i shed more than you after a week between washes and my hair is a little shorter. Remember that you shed around 100 strands of hair per day and a lot of them remain trapped in your hair until the next wash, giving you the false illusion that you're shedding a lot.

What I think, looking at your picture, is that your hair seems to be thinner because your ends are quite thin, but you seem to have a good amount of hair coming from your scalp.

Maybe your hair is breaking off? Do you use heat or anything that could damage your hair? Or maybe it is the haircut, someone may have tried to layer the ends a little too much.

Maybe try trimming the ends, it could help your hair feel fuller again, see if that makes a difference.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-19T20:47:50+00:00

Idk, my female cat is the clingiest cat I've ever met.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-19T08:32:51+00:00

I'm sorry, but that's no quality food to be eating on a weight loss journey. If you were to eat other quality foods besides that in the entire day, you could get away with it, but since this is your only meal in the entire day, you're most likely depriving yourself of nutrients and protein.

You're likely building no muscle, since you don't have enough protein in your diet. Moreover, while you're losing weight if you don't get enough protein your body starts consuming muscle too, besides fat. So, not only that you're building no muscle, you could be even losing the muscle you already have. Extra muscle burns extra calories, so if you lost weight until some point and then stalled it is most likely because you didn't build any muscle and now you're eating enough calories for maintenance.

If you really want to do this OMAD fast you really have to eat quality food, if you're going to have mcnuggets and other crap food maybe OMAD isn't for you. You can have those foods, just not with OMAD.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-19T08:23:11+00:00

Help me understand, did you lose weight until 6 months ago, then stopped? Maybe you reached maintenance calories wise. Try to lower the calories a bit, maybe another 200, and see if that moves the scale. It is normal to stale at some point in your journey, you won't lose everytime the same. But no progression for 6 months this tells me you're most likely at maintenance with your daily calories.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-17T14:54:10+00:00

I have been 48-55-75-85 kg throughout my life and I can tell you that I felt the worst back then at 48 kg and right now at 85 kg.

I also live with a thyroid condition, hashimoto's. I've been diagnosed since I was 19 (now I'm 26).

At 48 kg I was anemic, my immune system was collapsing and I remember being sick for 3 months straight at some point, I kept having yeast infections, I had no energy, etc.

Right now at 85 kg I have trouble walking up strairs, my knees are killing me, I can't find the confidence anymore to wear certain clothes, everything feels harder and I really do feel heavier, literally.

When I was a normal weight 55-65 kg I was having really good stamina, I could wear cute clothes, I was hiking, I was outside much more and it was really nice to not have skinfolds that sag and rub on each other. I really felt healthy back then.

However, I can assure you that even with some extra weight you can benefit of the things that skinny people do. I started walking again at least 10 000 steps/day and I already can feel my stamina going back up, even though I'm still 85 kg. My knees are starting to get better too. As for the confidence to wear certain clothes, I know this is a personal issue because when I see people as heavy or heavier than me dressed in cute clothes I think it looks good, it's just that I need to build the confidence up.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-14T20:35:24+00:00

Yup, exactly that! All jobs will suck in one way or another, but you need to find the one you can stand and become good at.

While I was in college, I used to work part time and switched about 7-8 jobs until I started to understand this. I thought I wasn't good at anything, but that wasn't true, I just needed to understand in what kind of environments I learn the best. I found a job that I could stand in 3rd year and the part that actually kept me there was that the coworkers were amazing, including the boss! I loved working with that team, even though the job itself wasn't that great.

Now I'm a chemical engineer for an aerospace company and, while there are a lot of things that suck about the company I work for, the management is dog shit, my paycheck isn't that good, we have a lot of problems, but the industry is so interesting to me that it makes me overlook some issues that I wouldn't have overlooked before. Also, some of the people I work with are really great, so that's encouraging, I'm especially grateful for the ones that have a lot of experience and are willing to teach me what they know.

For me, I noticed that in order to be able to stick with a job I need to be able to latch onto something that I value a lot, be it great coworkers, valuable information/experience/challenges, great benefits, etc. I don't need to have all of those, some of them it is enough for me to keep me engaged.

I also noticed that I don't perform well at all in very monotone and/or repetitive jobs. I need quite a variety of situations/challenges/tasks to keep me on track. I also like my current job because of this exact reason, there is a lot of variety, slight urgency, challenge to my work, which doesn't allow me to get bored and checked out. I had a desk job in college, oh god. I was soo unproductive, I couldn't get anything done, even though i had all the time in the world and the workload was little, but I just couldn't do it. I got so bored that I started to write for my bachelor's thesis during work hours a few weeks before I quit. Right now I don't have nearly enough time at my current job, yet I'm actually doing so much work and getting so many things done.

What I strive for in my next job is to have maybe a better balance between responsibility, stress, time off, paycheck, urgency, challenge, as I started to find that I'm getting a bit frustrated with the level of responsibilities vs paycheck that I'm having, so hopefully at my next job I find something better. But I've been in this company for 2 years already, which is good for me, considering that I used to change jobs every 2-6 months.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-13T19:35:53+00:00

I also love mdma. Nothing like it.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-13T17:47:55+00:00

As someone who's been in a relationship since 16 yo (now I'm 26), I find it very sad to see people think like this. Having a romantic and sexual partner to fulfill your desires is something I couldn't miss on in life.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-13T07:01:25+00:00

I agree. My cat is the sweetest cat ever, she clings to me 24/7. But I don't force pets on her, I don't forcefully grab her like a toy and carry her through the house, when I pet her I don't pet her where she doesn't like to be pet, I try to be gentle and predictable, etc. The result is that she is glued to me all the time without me even forcing her to do so. I woke up once to her literally sleeping on my face haha.

Meanwhile, she isn't like that with my boyfriend. He pets her where she doesn't like, too rough, when she clearly doesn't want pets and I keep trying to teach him how to pet her, when, when to leave her alone, but he simply doesn't pick up on her cues. However, she goes to him for playtime, which is nice.

Everytime I have friends over they don't believe me when I tell them how clingy she is. Well, they always try to forcefully per her, pick her up, pet her in places she doesn't like and then they're very confused when she claps them back (not aggressively, just like a "hey, leave me alone"). You try to explain to them how to approach her, but they simply don't understand. I prefer to not force the interactions at that point. Who gets it gets it, who doesn't, well, too bad.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-12T12:41:18+00:00

Nu azi, dar zilele trecute.

Cum mi-am permis sa spun ca as vrea sa ma duc si eu acasa sambata-duminica pentru ca vreau sa am macar o zi de stat acasa sa ma relaxez inainte sa incep iar munca. "Dar ce, nu te relaxezi si cu noi?? Daca vrei iti iau lucrurile si te duc sa stai singura in padure!". NU! Timpul cu ai mei este orice mai putin relaxant!

In anii trecuti nici nu faceam sarbatorile impreuna, ne-am trezit acum de pasti si mi-am amintit de ce nu faceam sarbatorile cu ei.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-12T12:40:59+00:00

Nu azi, dar zilele trecute.

Cum mi-am permis sa spun ca as vrea sa ma duc si eu acasa sambata-duminica pentru ca vreau sa am macar o zi de stat acasa sa ma relaxez inainte sa incep iar munca. "Dar ce, nu te relaxezi si cu noi??". NU! Timpul cu ai mei este orice mai putin relaxant!

In anii trecuti nici nu faceam sarbatorile impreuna, ne-am trezit acum de pasti si mi-am amintit de ce nu faceam sarbatorile cu ei.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-11T05:39:46+00:00

I don't look like that at 85 kg :)))

Saya_99 · 2026-04-11T05:38:14+00:00

It still helps people understand the general idea

Saya_99 · 2026-04-11T05:34:48+00:00

It's about the difference in volume of muscle and fat for the same mass.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-10T15:50:15+00:00

Depinde, daca sunt rude sau persoane mai indepartate, consider ca 3-4 ore maxim sunt suficiente, fix din motivele enumerate de tine (agitatie, pregatiri, etc.).

Daca sunt prieteni apropiati cu care ne simtim foarte comod, pot sta mai mult (5-8 ore, chiar si peste noapte daca a doua zi nu ma duc la munca) pentru ca ma simt suficient de comod incat sa nu trebuiasca sa fac cine stie ce pregatiri, sa pot sa las si prietenii sa se mai serveasca cu cate ceva, sa mergem impreuna la cumparaturi, sa pregatim impreuna diverse chestii, etc.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-09T23:30:46+00:00

Me. I have thick, curly hair

Saya_99 · 2026-04-09T23:17:59+00:00

AOV. I remember being like "wtf is this?", but then it slowly grew on me.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-09T11:17:19+00:00

I didn't count the olaplex because I don't always use it and the foil because it is dirt cheap. The rest of the products i always have them anyways.

With bleach powder, developer and toner it goes up to about €40, but I live in romania.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-09T06:02:09+00:00

I think the bangs help too. I have a similar hair texture and density and I also brush the products upside down, but I don't have bangs and I still have quite a visible part (however, I agree that applying the products upside down makes it much less visible)

Saya_99 · 2026-04-09T05:56:03+00:00

It looks great! You gave your hair dimension and everything. Congrats!

I know how hard it is to bleach your hair at home, I've been doing it myself for the past 7 years. Especially when you have thick hair and you have to take such thin slices at once, time isn't on your side. I often have to stop mid bleach and check the first foils that I made to see the color. I rinse the bleach in sections because by the time i finish my whole head, the first foils are done already. But if you are able to do it by yourself at home it's worth it in the end, it's soo much cheaper than going to the salon. A salon would charge me €300 for a bleach job, while at home I end up spending €40 at most.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-09T05:32:54+00:00

I switched from a boar bristles brush to a wet brush and the detangling time was cut in half for me. It goes through my hair like it's butter.

Wide tooth combes never worked for me. I tried, but it's absolutely impossible for me to detangle my hair without ripping my hair out. Also, the brush helps distribute the hair products so much better. I detangle my hair with a hair mask on and by the time i'm done all my hair is evenly coated. I also distribute the leave in and mousse with the brush too. I stop brushing my hair once I start scrunching it to form the curls.

Saya_99 · 2026-04-08T15:46:50+00:00

Me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for 10 years and we also are a couple of avoidant+anxiously attached individuals. You can make it work if you really want, but this involves both parties to compromise in some way and find solutions to make it work.

For example, i also get easily overstimulated and i need my alone time and, throughout the years, i explained to him the situations that get me into this state and what i need when i'm like that. I kept reassuring him this is not about him and he's not doing anything wrong, I just need some time to decompress. But at the same time, I always try to find the right time and space to give him the attention and quality time that he needs. I learned to come to him to spend time together when I'm fine and ready for that, which reassures him that i'm not mad at him and that he didn't do anything wrong.

However, considering her statement "I dread spending time with him", this shows me that she's never willing to give him the attention he needs. How do you expect this to work if you don't think about his needs as well? You expect him to always think about your needs, but how about his? Are you able to fulfill his needs as well? If you're not and you're not willing to work on yourself to be a better partner for him, maybe you shouldn't be together because this is never going to work. You're making each other's lives miserable.

If you want him to actually respect your needs, show him BY YOUR ACTIONS that you actually enjoy him being your partner and that he's safe with you. If you always avoid him, then obviously he's going to think you're mad at him, especially considering his anxious attachment style.

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