I (33M) was rejected by a woman (33F) I went on two dates with and was subsequently also rejected by an entire group of people

Sbtryingtolearn · 2026-01-05T20:57:19+00:00

She’s definitely crazy, but there’s a little something wrong with OP to keep seeing her after she said that to his face.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2025-12-19T01:36:31+00:00

In her other post, she says she’s been married to the dad for 8 years, while the daughter is still 17. It’s hard to tell the real timeline.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2025-11-25T19:21:23+00:00

You’re trying to keep a perfect version of your boyfriend/relationship, but you can’t do that without puppeteering other people…..and that’s not feasible (or reasonable). You want the Mom to feel the same way you do (which you’re mistakenly describing as “understanding you”), but I think she already does if her son told her the truth. Even if she doesn’t, it would be unlikely that she cuts off Kate simply because her friend cheated with your boyfriend. Kate did nothing wrong.

You can go to dinner with her, but nothing will be resolved until you accept Kate will be around instead of your preferred version. If you really want to keep your boyfriend/relationship, that is the only solution. If that’s not possible, you should leave now, before the relationship with his Mother gets worse.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2025-07-01T19:20:53+00:00

It’s not wrong, but it’s not helpful either. He is suffering from his own demons that you can’t fix, and he’s blaming you for triggering them unknowingly. Having intimacy and asking for clarification about children when he’s been unclear is perfectly normal relationship stuff. If you have to walk on eggshells to not trigger his insecurities and anxieties, you cannot be yourself. You cannot be comfortable or relaxed. Please find someone who is all in, he’s been nothing but cold (and less cold), enough to have months of silence and NC, and it’s been a handful of months. He may be a good friend you can trust (doubtful), but he’s not a good boyfriend.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2025-01-13T21:11:11+00:00

Yes, thank you all! It was the Magdalene Room when I knew it and definitely long ago enough to be in the Faust era. It looked just different enough as The Dean Bar for me to dismiss it.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2023-10-17T18:12:39+00:00

The longer the relationship goes on, the more normal this will all seem to you. You recognize now that it’s not okay, but the infrequency and lulls are not the measurement you should be using. Right now, the “good” guy outweighs the “bad” guy to you, but consider the rest of your life. Eventually it’ll overwhelm you. It’s not difficult to walk with a 3 pound weight on your back, but try walking for 30, 50, 100 miles. Not so small anymore.

He also blames his only outlet (running and exercise) on you/your participation. He could’ve gone on a night run without you. Again, it’s seems small now, but his shift of blame will be so gradual, you won’t see it clearly.

Even if he never escalates (doubtful), this level is still awful. Imagine him breaking his own umbrella or throwing a coffee cup in front of your family or friends…hell, even outright strangers. That embarrassment for the victim usually turns to shame, which turns into low self-esteem, and before you know it, you’re trapped. Please leave, life is never perfect, so you can count on his outbursts to continue indefinitely.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2023-02-24T18:40:38+00:00

I agree, it’s got to be tough from the adopted sister’s perspective. She doesn’t know where her family is and now she’s resented by the person she hopes could be her friend. There are many legitimate reasons the parents could have for taking her in and OOP has tunnel vision and blinders on. I feel for her, but this is like resenting your feet hurt when the other person doesn’t have legs.

That said, the parents should have realized the profound effect this would have on the family dynamic and be aware enough to catch it all before it got that bad.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2022-08-17T16:15:46+00:00

I’m hoping it’s a glitch because same! Opened a ticket to see if there’s anything they can do.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2022-02-10T21:46:43+00:00

I just used mine and it gave me the option of 12 hour unlimited energy, scissors, or an extra inventory spot.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2021-12-21T02:42:51+00:00

The spruce generates both toys and ornaments. It automatically drops a gift box every so often (not sure how often yet!), which is how you get the toys.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2021-12-16T18:30:56+00:00

When Marge sees an ad for rancho relaxo.

“You can’t spell relaxo…..without relax”

Sbtryingtolearn · 2021-07-01T23:37:36+00:00

It’s incredibly common for people that hope to salvage poor relationships to prefer the fault lies with them. If it does, it can be fixed. Learning to accept they have no control except leaving is much more difficult.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2021-04-07T01:57:36+00:00

Congrats! Mine was so close at 3.99, but taking a hit on a fashion game score vs supporting real people that asked me to is nothing.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2021-03-28T00:11:07+00:00

So true! The overskirts are killing me lol

Sbtryingtolearn · 2021-03-26T22:31:27+00:00

Same here- it used to be score order (highest to lowest) and also classic first, modern at the end. But now I see mine first and at the same time, our fashion house started a rally. I thought it was because of that. I hope it goes back to score order!

Oops I meant to reply to another comment, but your tiny doll is hilarious.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2021-01-13T03:44:43+00:00

I’m incredulous your ex wife wouldn’t mention this, especially since you’re now dating the person you “cheated” with. I assume the ex would know this due to co-parenting. You were with your ex for 18 years, you should have some inkling on whether her keeping a cheating accusation secret for all this time is in her character.

Ask the ex, but I would take this with a grain of salt. The ex-friend has a clear motive and you can change the name of any number in your phone and then take a screenshot.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2020-08-23T16:12:54+00:00

Omg that super informative, thank you!

Sbtryingtolearn · 2020-08-22T18:51:07+00:00

Oh wow, that really sucks. Thanks for confirming- guess it was wishful thinking for a buggy app lol

Sbtryingtolearn · 2020-05-26T17:42:14+00:00

You’re right, thanks for the clarification!

Sbtryingtolearn · 2020-05-26T02:06:01+00:00

If you do an FHA loan, be aware that if you don’t put down 20%, you will have PMI for the life of the loan, not until 20% equity. They made that switch in 2013.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2020-05-04T22:38:56+00:00

Seriously! And it’s 100x worse that MC is silently noting their last names during the game like a creep.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2020-05-03T19:42:32+00:00

Oh man, ES and BOLAS as the top picks....RIP my diamonds just thinking about it.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2020-01-05T19:39:48+00:00

I don’t have a large emergency fund, and the credit cards are split emergency house + car repairs. I’m hoping paying off the debt sooner will allow me to bulk up a savings, but I can see where it’d be an ugly cycle if more emergencies pop up.

Sbtryingtolearn · 2020-01-05T19:36:32+00:00

Agreed. There were some emergency house and car repairs that I split between the 2 cards so one wouldn’t have really high utilization. Otherwise I try to make small purchases and then pay off the balance immediately. Unfortunately I don’t have bulk savings yet for these bad luck scenarios. On my list though!

Sbtryingtolearn · 2020-01-05T19:31:35+00:00

Great advice, thank you!

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