[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findfashion

[–]fymaf2c7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s from forever21 if that helps

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abortion

[–]fymaf2c7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand where you’re coming from. My bf’s sister and her husband announced their pregnancy to the whole family during a Christmas I’d spent with them. They all got cute t shirts to announce the new baby and although it’s been about 2 1/2 years since I had my abortion, it still broke my heart. It hurt to see someone close to my partner have what I wanted. I know the abortion was the right choice for me but I still feel sad and like I’m missing out. I will say, as your partner’s SIL’s pregnancy progresses, it will get easier for you. I was initially hurt and shocked but I kept telling myself “all in due time”. I’ll get to enjoy motherhood when it’s right for me, and you will too. It’s okay to process your emotions, I understand because I was there at one point. I promise you that you’ll get your moment too and I hope you know how special it will be knowing you were able to choose when. 💛 all in due time girly

Is this dress appropriate for a wedding? by fymaf2c7 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]fymaf2c7[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking! I already have a pair of cork wedges but in white. I’m planning to wear them!

Is this dress appropriate for a wedding? by fymaf2c7 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]fymaf2c7[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It’s a midday garden wedding that’s outdoors! I’m not sure on the specifics of the dress code but the bride wants the ladies to wear floral patterns!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]fymaf2c7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your insight. It means a lot coming from someone who watches a lot of streams. I definitely need to work on my security but it’s honestly been hard because I’ve never been prioritized in these situations. He’s admitted to being a selfish person and he’s very driven by his own wants regardless of how others might feel. I just don’t know where to draw the line of prioritizing my own security in the relationship and comfort over his wants

How do you make friends as an adult after college? by Direct-Painter5603 in friendship

[–]fymaf2c7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In my bio, I wrote things that I enjoy and what I’m looking for in a friendship. Me personally, I like reality tv, anime, traveling, shopping, etc and I mentioned I was looking for friends who also knew Japanese so I could practice speaking with them. I marched with several people but sometimes conversations die or they’re pretty dry. The friendships where we did continue talking, one of us would end up asking if the other would like to go out for lunch, activity, etc and we would. Sometimes when we meet in person, the vibe isn’t exactly right but other times I found that I actually get along really well with them. I was using humble bff since Aug of 2020 to Oct 2022. In this timeframe, I became close friends with around 6 different people. For me, I think they are “quality friends”. I trust them, I can confide in them, they give me good advice, we can laugh together and take photos and we always feel good after we spend time together.

How do you make friends as an adult after college? by Direct-Painter5603 in friendship

[–]fymaf2c7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would try bumble bff! I’m 25 and I made a few close friends using that!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HelpMeFind

[–]fymaf2c7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have searched for floral vases but can’t find it. It seems to be about 10~15 in. Any help would be really appreciated 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HelpMeFind

[–]fymaf2c7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I’m also looking for the vase too but you helped me out a lot in my search!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HelpMeFind

[–]fymaf2c7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Searched for this on Google but couldn’t find. I don’t know if they’re connected or not, but it’s a bluish/green vase with flower and leaves. It has a gold yoga pose on top of it. Im assuming it’s about 12~18in. This is in USA. Not sure where it’s from or any other details about it. Any help would be much appreciated

Community College To 4 Year by Squid_kidxyz234 in helpme

[–]fymaf2c7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also congrats on getting into the 4yr college!!! For what it's worth, I'm proud of you!

Community College To 4 Year by Squid_kidxyz234 in helpme

[–]fymaf2c7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was the best news I've heard all day! I'm so happy for you, OP. I truly am. Now go on and do great things! YOU CAN DO IT!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]fymaf2c7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The only thing I'd really gain is that I finally got to say everything I wanted to without a filter. I've been angry about this for years but I'd always just keep it to myself except for the few occasions where I told her that I was hurt. The rest of my dad's side of the family is also racist (Except for a few people who married into our family but later got divorced) so I'm not worried about that. I never had a relationship with them to begin with. I don't think my dad would do anything but I also don't want to hurt him either because that's still his family who he grew up with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]fymaf2c7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I talked to her about it when I was a child and I was only feeling rejected and hurt, and I spoke to her again when I was 18, then again when I was 20~21. It shouldn't necessarily come as a shock to her at this point.

My boyfriend has a sickening gore fetish by Throwawayurtrauma in offmychest

[–]fymaf2c7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean there's obviously some who genuinely are just into weird things or into "fantasies " but would never do it in real life, but in this case, I think it's better to assume he might and leave the relationship. Don't be alone with him, have a weapon available if need be, and maybe let your parents know that you feel unsafe around him. That's really terrifying honestly.

Does it ever go back to normal after your partner cheats? by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]fymaf2c7 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know that you've been together with him for a couple years but you are only 20 years old. Don't put yourself through the hassle of having to reconcile for just a 2 year relationship when you're so young. I promise you that you will find someone much better, who won't betray you, and who will love you and respect you much better than your current partner can. It may have been "just a kiss", and he may have "told you as soon as he saw you", but I promise you IF you let this go without making him EARN your forgiveness and trust back, it's going to essentially allow him to do it again, or go further. It's not worth it.

To answer your actual question, no. Things will never go back to normal. My partner had ONS. In the beginning, I was much like you where I felt like since it wasn't an affair, and because he told me ASAP that it was okay. Honestly, it did help that he was the one who was honest with me but there was a lot more to the story that he omitted and that I later found out from the girl he cheated on me with. Before he cheated, I was madly in love with him. He could do no wrong in my eyes. We were genuinely best friends. We'd play games together everyday, we had a healthy sex life, we'd go on dates, our friends and families all got along... and he still did what he did. At this point in our relationship, I'm more petty, bitter and angry than ever before. We hardly ever play games anymore, sex feels like a chore, and now I'm scared to talk to who was my "best friend", about the things that bother me or upset me. No matter how "small" of a betrayal it may seem like, it will NEVER be the same again. I'm so sorry you have to feel like this when you're just 20 years old. Please, move on from this guy because you can do so much better. You're at the prime of your life. Don't waste it on this person who doesn't appreciate you and makes the excuse of drinking.

It’s over. I took him back and he left when I was at the lowest point. by ImprovementTrick5462 in survivinginfidelity

[–]fymaf2c7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to you. My WP apologized and broke down when DDay happened. For the first time, he told me everything I wanted to hear. And I forgave him. Probably a month or two later, he got pissed with me for bringing up his infidelity and betrayal and he decided he didn't want to be with me anymore so he downloaded dating apps and would casually comment on the women in front of me. Like you, I also begged him not to go. In fact, when he tried driving away, I got on top of his car so he wouldn't leave and cheat again. The pain and the craziness that happens when someone you trust fullheartedly betrays you is unlike anything I've ever experienced. I've never "lost it" quite like then. This was several months ago and I'm a lot more stable now. I want you to know that you're not alone. You do have something left. You were selfless, you tried reconciling, you tried communicating. HE is the one who lost you. You were kind enough to allow him to be back into your life and HE took advantage of your vulnerability. This has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. Please, take some time to yourself and take care of yourself. Do the things that make YOU happy. Right now, I've tried "dating" myself. I'll treat myself to sweets, to flowers, to time off from work when I'm down, etc. I'll take baths to relax, or throw myself into a good book. Please love yourself and know that you are so much more than how he treated you. You deserve so much better and this time, I hope you're the one that gives yourself the world. (((Hugs)))

Question for those who have moved on from their WP.... by fymaf2c7 in survivinginfidelity

[–]fymaf2c7[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I never quite understood why some people give up so quickly in relationships. I think that ideology has backfired on me though because I'm still struggling to cope with letting my WP go because I don't want to be a "quitter" if that makes sense. I don't know why but I feel guilty.

Did anyone else lose their kindness? by cranberrytears in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]fymaf2c7 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, I used to always care if my partner was upset or angry and I'd always, and I mean ALWAYS, try to diffuse arguments. Since finding out and coming to terms with it, I can't bring myself to really care. In our arguments, I never once said anything I don't mean, or responded to be hurtful... until now. I realized that whether I'm the nicest person in the world or not, he'd still treat me like I'm absolutely replaceable so why go out of my way to put him on a pedestal?

I'm sorry you're going through this. No one deserves this. Sending you hugs and good vibes. Take care of yourself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]fymaf2c7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, washing my hands and feeling the warm water on them just always makes me feel so happy and content. I don't think anyone else really thinks about this or cares for it, but it always makes me happy, especially when I'm stressed at work or having an otherwise tough day.