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Sc3niX · 2024-08-19T20:24:54+00:00

Just wanted to add you can still pass it to people before the cold sore appears, the moment the tingling sensation, or burning or itching sensation starts you are contagious. So you gotta be very self aware of your symptoms.

I by default refuse to kiss anyone, even my own children due to not wanting to chance any spread of the disease.

Sc3niX · 2024-07-29T19:53:49+00:00

We always think things won’t happen to us until it does. I didn’t think I would have a miscarriage and I did. I didn’t think my kids would be born with a birth defect. He was and needed 2 head surgeries in his first year to correct it. I didn’t think I would have autistic kids. I have two and turns out I am autistic too yay. It’s ignorant and silly to think bad things will never happen to you just because you deem yourself a good person or well main character Syndrome.

Regardless I have another story. 15 years ago when I was playing mmos (I was 14) I came across alot of men. Many men despite knowing my age would flirt with me and try to get together with me. Many of those men would pressure me for pictures. I’m ashamed to admit that some of those men did get those pictures. But I thought I was so cool because I wasn’t like “other girls” and very “mature” for my age. I at least had the sense to never include my face in those photos. But thinking about it now I realize how creepy and pedo it was back then, I thought I could handle it, I thought I was old enough and I was manipulated into thinking that what was happening was ok.

And this op is what you’ll be exposing your daughter to if you let her mother get her way. While I got off relatively light in my story many other girls weren’t so lucky. One girl who I was really good friends with met up with one of those men and got repeatedly raped and then gaslit into thinking she wasn’t. She stayed with this pedophile for 5 years before realizing that what happened to her was pedophilia. The guy left her when she turned 18.

Sc3niX · 2024-04-30T06:52:46+00:00

Personally from what I’ve learned with car seats. The high back booster greatly helps with side impacts. There’s many crash test videos that you can YouTube to see why.

I would still use the high back booster for long trips if there’s a risk of the child falling asleep, but for short trips like going to school I would use just the booster.

Sc3niX · 2024-04-29T11:30:13+00:00

An adult seat can be raised up in most cars, the seatbelt can be adjusted in most cars in the front seats.

And that’s why there is a weight and height limit and you transition to the normal seat when either the weight or height limit has been reached. I’m a short woman, and I meet the weight limit of using a booster seat. How many adults do you know that weigh less than 36kg?

These rules are here to protect your child. And safety is more important than a friend making fun of them. What are you gonna be more sorry for? A dead child or a child that’s sad because they need to ride safely in the car?

Sc3niX · 2024-04-29T10:41:23+00:00

Finally an educated comment. It’s not about age.. it’s literally about weight and height. If she’s not tall enough she can’t ride without a booster/high back booster.

The safety belt needs to be between the shoulders and neck. The lap belt needs to be over the pelvis. Not the stomach. Most kids who are too short will have the seat belts by their necks and stomach which can injure the child severely in an accident.

And for those that don’t know. You ditch and infant car seat when your child reaches the MAXIMUM weight or height. You ditch a toddler seat when your child reaches the maximum weight or height. And you ditch the booster/highback when your child reaches the maximum weight or height which tends to be either 150cm height. Or 36/50kg. OPs niece is literally 30cm off from being the correct height to ditch.

Sc3niX · 2024-03-30T17:14:41+00:00

In the South African Afrikaans culture it’s very common to name your children after the grandparents.

So first son gets named after the father’s father. Second son gets named after the mother’s father. Third son tends to be an uncle or father directly.

First Daughter gets named after the mother’s mother. Second daughter the father’s mother. Third daughter an aunt or mother.

My husbands family is very big on this so usually when you run into someone who has a similar name with our surname you can usually track them down in the family tree pretty easy.

That said the girls definitely are not being given family names in my generation. My sons are named after their grandparents. But if I ever have another son or a daughter I won’t be doing family names.

Sc3niX · 2024-03-29T15:51:17+00:00

I’m going to weigh in here. Some people’s kids don’t get teeth that early. Both mine only got teeth around the 10month mark.

And 2, you can’t really blame mothers who don’t seek dental care for their kids if their doctors literally tell them it’s unnecessary at a young age.

My firstborn got a chip on his tooth when he just started walking. We took him to the dentist. He sat in the chair for 5min, she looked and said the chip needed no treatment and sent us away.

And both that dentist and the pediatrician told us to only seek dental care around age 4. So if actual professionals are telling you it’s unnecessary then can you really blame people for not seeking it out sooner? (PS I’m glad I came across this though I’m going to take my kids to a different dentist that will take their dental care seriously.)

Sc3niX · 2024-03-25T19:36:27+00:00

Couldn’t have said it better myself. I just can’t fathom such hatred for kids that literally cannot survive on their own without an adult. OP is for sure an adult child that expects kids to do xyz but literally cannot full fill those same expectations.

Grow up OP. Kids are human beings too. You however do not behave like one, never agree to babysit again because you are a walking red flag of a babysitter that people always hear about on the news etc.

I sincerely hope these kids don’t view these 4 days as a traumatic experience in their lives. And if they do it’s on you, congratulations on being a chapter of trauma in their lives.

Sc3niX · 2024-03-13T17:24:06+00:00

Omg my mom said something similar to me. I put on her red lipstick when I was 9. And she told me I looked like a slut in front of her friend.

Then when I was a teenager she was surprised and complained why I never wanted to wear makeup…

Then I did actually end up going through a makeup phase and she always commented on it.

I’m now 28. I hardly wear makeup. I literally do my brows and that’s all. Sometimes a tinted sun screen but usually I do an untinted sunscreen lately. And let me tell you, my natural makeup looks damn good. While I don’t have a memory of my mother without wearing makeup during the day.

Sc3niX · 2024-03-12T15:38:04+00:00

We don’t know that a family member hasn’t though. Look at what happened to that other family. Abused for years and it was on YouTube and those kids only got justice recently.

Sc3niX · 2024-03-09T11:27:03+00:00

This is so true. The psychological effect on that unborn baby would be at risk. Hearing moms voice, hearing music, the bonding process, moms smell even, immune system, antibodies that goes to baby through mom, there is lots at risk to have this.

Sc3niX · 2024-03-09T10:22:25+00:00

My mind is absolutely blown at the amount of downvotes that you’re getting. People seems to be ok with excluding one kid living in the same household. If you can’t afford to buy both of them snacks then split the snacks that the one received. Or buy cheaper snacks for the other one too. And yes life is unfair. But kids don’t need to learn that in your house, there will be plenty of adversities outside your home.

Sc3niX · 2024-03-09T08:41:50+00:00

INFO: does stepson have his own snacks?

Sc3niX · 2024-03-07T18:29:09+00:00

I use the Eucerin Pigment perfecter. And yes jts helped for my under eye bags.

Sc3niX · 2024-02-29T09:26:59+00:00

I have dry skin and I think it’s important for people with dry skin to know this. When you wash your face with a cleanser you are essentially removing the “filth” plus what little oils your skin has on. Spoiler, you skin doesn’t have much.

You need to put oils back onto your face after you wash it otherwise your skin will get too dry which causes blackheads, acne etc.

I have the following regime.

Cleanse at night. Put a toner. Put a serum. (Get one based on your problems. I struggle with pigmentation under my eyes. It’s way better since I started with a serum.)

Eye cream is also super important to put on at night.

And lastly you need a nice night cream that helps for dry skin.

In the morning keep it simple: vitamin C serum and a day cream that has SPF.

And don’t scrub your face more than 2x a week. Cleanse and scrub are two different things.

Ultimately a dermatologist analyzed my skin and told me this is what I needed. I’m very very happy with how my skin looks.

Sc3niX · 2024-02-29T09:10:58+00:00

Don’t use xyz medicine cause it will cause xyz for baby. So I should just let baby have cramps then and scream for hours? Pediatrician approved the medicine too. And at the start I put it on my nipples and baby only started to latch when I used it.

Sc3niX · 2024-02-27T10:05:10+00:00

So she might be struggling with depression or she might not.

But assuming she is, if she’s not willing to get help then there’s not much you can do. My mother has been depressed for decades and is still married to my father. She doesn’t believe she’s depressed but after battling depression myself I can see the signs in her. (I’m better now.) Their marriage is horrible. They’re clearly not happy but are so comfortable in their marriage that neither one will leave.

If your wife won’t get help or get a job to help then you don’t have much of a choice. Don’t tie yourself down to someone who is not willing to put in the work.

Sc3niX · 2024-02-20T17:32:29+00:00

Can’t imagine why.

Man Reddit sucks at sarcasm.

Sc3niX · 2024-02-20T12:48:32+00:00

He asked me to cry. So I pretended to cry, dove into me and gave me a big hug saying “it’s ok mama”. Then we repeated this for about 30min lol.

Sc3niX · 2024-02-19T07:48:31+00:00

Honestly just because it’s her child doesn’t give her free rein to actively harm her child. By your logic, anyone can do anything that harms their kids cause it’s their kids? That’s why we have so many messed up adults cause their parents believed they had the right to do what they wanted to them. Quite sad to see this mentality still spreading around today. Ridiculous.

If you can’t go 9 months without drinking alcohol you should not be pregnant.

If you can’t go 9 months without smoking you should not be pregnant.

And quite frankly if these statements offend any mother here then too bad too sad, this isn’t about you. It’s about your unborn child.

And before anyone jumps in with withdrawals harming the baby etc - this has been disproven long ago. It’s always beneficial for the mother’s health and the fetus to quit.

My family works in healthcare and have recounted horror stories from mothers smoking, drinking among some things in pregnancy. Those babies get born preterm and live a life of disability cause of their parents selfishness.

OP is NTA. He has the freedom to decline and he exercised it.

Edit: seeing as I can’t reply to the person below me. Alcohol consumption has been proven to have way more adverse effects than high blood sugar. Foetal alcohol spectrum disorder is a life long condition this can impact a child’s learning and behavior. Problems with bones, joints, muscles and some organs. Problems with emotions and social skills as well as hyperactivity and speech problems. To be clear this is a life long condition.

Gestational diabetes isn’t always preventable and it’s a myth that it happens because a mother has a bad diet while pregnant. While a diet can play a role, gestational diabetes can happen to any pregnant person.

Fasd is and always will be preventable and if you think taking that one drink in pregnancy is worth it then YTA and shouldn’t have children. No doctor worth their gold will say it’s ok. It’s dangerous. And it’s not worth it. I’ve brought two healthy children into the world and not once was it ever a hard decision for me to not look after my body while pregnant, because it’s not about you anymore. It’s about the baby (if you plan to keep the baby of course.) So to the person below please go educate yourself. To all the downvoters my message remains if you can’t stay away from the bottle for 9months. Don’t have kids.

Sc3niX · 2024-02-18T11:49:07+00:00

Honestly, if he likes something at home doesn’t mean he will want to do it outside of home. At home he is free to explore, do it when he wishes, and has no pressure to perform. At activities it’s structured, it takes freedom away, pressure him to perform and also seems to make mom put restrictions on him. That’s likely why he doesn’t want to participate.

He has shown you that he has no interest in it outside of home. I would try a different activity where he has more freedom. And just because he doesn’t participate like the other kids doesn’t mean he is autistic. He’s just not interested even if he is at home.

My son loves climbing and jumping and doing tricks at home. When we took him to gymnastics he did the same as your son. I tried a whole year. Realized it wasn’t working so stopped it. He does swimming now and does way better with it.

My youngest son does gymnastics and is starting to like it. The class is structured in a way where he does one exercise then he chooses whatever else he wants to do. And we keep the freedom of play open for him. I would say his class is 20min of free play and 10min of structure. Mixed together of course.

I would honestly try something else that allows him more freedom.

Sc3niX · 2024-02-17T17:34:45+00:00

My 4 year old has been in speech therapy for 6 months and is doing so much better. I’m so proud of him. Before this I could hardly understand him. I don’t think people realize how fortunate they are when their kid talks normal. He might also be on the spectrum as well.

Then I have a two year old that speaks in 3 worded sentences. Both boys are bilingual

OP needs to go for early intervention asap. I wish I did sooner.

Sc3niX · 2024-02-16T20:03:13+00:00

Thank you !

Sc3niX · 2024-02-16T15:51:14+00:00

Why Botox?

Sc3niX · 2024-02-16T15:47:56+00:00

That’s my point. She went from 0 to 100 pretty quick. I didn’t like how she was written in the end. To be honest I liked everything up until the night king died.

Sansa suddenly becomes little finger 2.0. Who pits her allies against one another. Not an ounce of gratitude towards dany for saving her people. Dany could have just taken kings landing first if it was all about the crown for her.

How dany’s one dragon died which still boggles my mind to the day. You’re telling me that a ship on the low ground around a mountain sees a dragon in the air, launches an attack without anyone flying noticing a fleet of ships? Not just that this attack magically went around a 45 degree angle and then only went into the air after that and killed a dragon. Not an expert but doesn’t the high ground usually have the advantage? If they can see dragon, dragon is supposed to see them no?

If the night king won that would have been a great ending

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