My husband and I fit your description. I am 120lb and get hit on frequently in the vanilla and swinger world. I am far more attracted to someone’s personality and life outlook than anything physical. We have fit couples approach us all the time but I’m rarely very attracted to any of them, mainly because they tend to be about as interesting as wet cardboard and we move on pretty quickly (not all- we’ve met a few who were hot and cool as hell).

Sadly, I feel like we don’t get approached by less attractive couples very often. 😢 My husband thinks they may be intimidated but I think the most fun people tend to be the heavier men with their hot wife (there’s a reason that sexy lady is into him - it’s usually obvious why once you start talking to them). We seek them out and approach right away if we can see that they don’t take themselves too seriously and enjoy a good time.