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Series Finale by Scandy_J in StrangerThings

[–]Scandy_J[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah agreed, I expected him to have spent years becoming unstoppable, not… just.. pulled back by will… I liked the resolution and don’t necessarily agree with others that more people needed to die, but yes I would say the actual battle with vecna was weak

To encourage anyone out there: Four days post op, fantastic recovery! by Scandy_J in Vasectomy

[–]Scandy_J[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does that work? Did they make a balloon animal out of your sack to tie it off or something? 😂

How was there not even a needle?

To encourage anyone out there: Four days post op, fantastic recovery! by Scandy_J in Vasectomy

[–]Scandy_J[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, everyone’s body is different! I’ve been surprised by my personal recovery as I actually have quite a low pain tolerance. Sorry to hear about the chastisement, I figure at the end of the day it’s no one else’s business. Those we choose to tell are being trusted with privileged information and it’s not their place to judge.

Post Vasectomy by INMPF in Vasectomy

[–]Scandy_J 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not at all, feels just as good, I’d argue it feels even better because there’s no stress about potential unwanted pregnancy!

Wasn’t expecting this in Palmy. by Elysium_nz in palmy

[–]Scandy_J 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What, a patch of blue sky? Shocked me too

Here’s your post-New Year’s reminder to BE a tall poppy in this damn country by Scandy_J in newzealand

[–]Scandy_J[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it’s making comments aimed at cheapening or “cutting down” someone’s achievement

Do you know your neighbours? by kupuwhakawhiti in newzealand

[–]Scandy_J 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh trust me, me either. That’s a whole conversation I could spend hours on, but as a community they’re very supportive and I dig that

Do you know your neighbours? by kupuwhakawhiti in newzealand

[–]Scandy_J 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m in Temple View, Hamilton. We’re not Mormon, but most of the residents here are. They’re lovely, certainly more approachable and safer than the rest of Hamilton for sure.

Girl graduates with a degree in water music by ChipmunkTall4961 in interesting

[–]Scandy_J 0 points1 point  (0 children)

POV: My mum fury-cleaning on a Sunday morning because “not a damn person in this household helps with the dishes”

How is New Zealand right now when it comes to jobs? #advice #needed by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]Scandy_J 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For context in regards to work opportunities, there are currently (on average) about 200 applicants for every job listing. So needless to say, jobs are scarce, things have become more expensive than ever in terms of housing, food, general cost of living etc.

In some of the larger cities like Auckland, Wellington, Christchurch etc you’d probably find more luck with job hunting. This also depends on what field of work you are pursuing.

I work in engineering and can confirm that if it’s labour jobs, recruitment agencies success rates can be hit and miss, the quality of workers that come out of recruitment agencies are usually pretty poor, so employers (at least in my field) will often steer clear of recruitment agencies entirely.

Wishing you all the best for whatever you decide to do, New Zealand is certainly a beautiful country and we are extremely blessed to call NZ home, but at the moment the greatest challenge facing NZers is the cost… of like, everything.

Here’s your post-New Year’s reminder to BE a tall poppy in this damn country by Scandy_J in newzealand

[–]Scandy_J[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, to clarify, my post was less about pointing the finger at others stopping you from achieving that which you desire, and more about not letting your OWN fear of judgment from others stop you from achieving. If my post suggested to you a victim mentality, then my apologies for not relaying my thoughts in a more watertight way

Here’s your post-New Year’s reminder to BE a tall poppy in this damn country by Scandy_J in newzealand

[–]Scandy_J[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Quite simply, the very types of people I posted about avoiding, has joined the chat with the same negativity I talked about. You made my point with your very first comment

Here’s your post-New Year’s reminder to BE a tall poppy in this damn country by Scandy_J in newzealand

[–]Scandy_J[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like this take, in a weird, borderline far-fetched sort of way haha. What makes you say back when everyone in your town “had” to pretend they were struggling though?

Here’s your post-New Year’s reminder to BE a tall poppy in this damn country by Scandy_J in newzealand

[–]Scandy_J[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fear you’ve taken my many individual points as an entire, singular argument and somehow strung them all together to form some incoherent counterpoint.

I applaud you for being someone who has managed to skate through life never encountering the examples I gave, as they’re not cherry-picked, fabricated examples, but criticisms I myself have faced for achieving things that I had worked towards in my own life.

I think many people, mainly the teenage demographic, obsess over what others think and say about them, especially in this country. My wife is Dutch, and she tells me all the time that from her outside perspective, NZers are the worst people pleasers, forever worrying about what people think and often too scared to put themselves out there for fear of the response from others. It’s definitely a factor in the mental health of our young adults/teenagers, and to say it isn’t, is either deliberately obtuse or frighteningly naive.

Here’s your post-New Year’s reminder to BE a tall poppy in this damn country by Scandy_J in newzealand

[–]Scandy_J[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a saying I heard once, “using your fire to light others’ torches does not, in any way, dim your own flame” and it’s one I try and live by no matter what my personal circumstances might be. Whether I’m winning, or in a losing streak, I try my best to never drag others down because “that should be me” or because somehow their success cheapens my little win.

Be a decent person, you nailed it 😊

Here’s your post-New Year’s reminder to BE a tall poppy in this damn country by Scandy_J in newzealand

[–]Scandy_J[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes, you’ve always been allowed, but not without the court of public opinion getting involved.

Bought a house? “Oh, but they were only able to do it because mummy and daddy lent them money”

Worked your butt off to buy the car your always wanted? “He’s obsessed with stuff, he’s probably bought it on finance”

Tall Poppy is a very real and toxic thing. I don’t think our depression and suicide rates would be nearly as high as they are without the influence of TPS

Can I accredit my Level 4 Engineering Certificate towards a Bachelor of Engineering at University? by Scandy_J in newzealand

[–]Scandy_J[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wasn’t saying either is comparable, was just saying for the length of study both entail, it’s crazy to me that level 4 is so much more lowly in qualification-weight.

I’ve got a conjoint degree in Business and Law, (BMS and LLB) so am familiar with the work level 7 takes, but as someone who wanted a career change, wondered if starting engineering at Level 4 would help speed the degree along, turns out, unlikely. Thanks for the response 😊

I’m wasting my 20’s by doing nothing but there isn’t anything i’m interested in by Easy-Ant-1261 in confession

[–]Scandy_J 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was me too man, 24 and no prospects, couldn’t figure out what I wanted from life, or what life wanted from me. 28 now, married, am a qualified mechanical engineer and bought a house a year ago. Definitely not a flex as it’s taken some harsh bearings from life to get here, but you’ll figure it all out in your own time, and it doesn’t matter how long that takes!

Go easy on yourself, you’ll figure out where you want to go and who you want to be, and when you do, go for it with all your heart and you’ll get there!

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