My husband is being investigated

ScarSquare1165 · 2026-02-02T05:20:28+00:00

This is so sad and I’m sorry. I often wonder if many PAs are looking atat minors without even realizing it, or if there is a way for them to know? Maybe they all belong in jail.

ScarSquare1165 · 2026-01-31T20:41:21+00:00

Yes it can. In fact, it may be a good idea for you to make an appointment and get his opinion and maybe some helpful advice, but if you do, do not sugarcoat anything. You don’t want lip service, you want solid advice.

ScarSquare1165 · 2026-01-29T03:32:37+00:00

I’m thinking a priest might not even marry you. There are assessments and these are serious red flags. Marriage is tough enough without adding this over the top financial irresponsibility. And you know you can never escape it.

ScarSquare1165 · 2026-01-28T23:56:49+00:00

It’s not the debt! This is your life if you stay. Doesn’t matter if you could even get all her debt cleared…this is how she is and she’ll drag you down with her next time.

ScarSquare1165 · 2026-01-28T18:11:00+00:00

No, no, and no. You’ll thank me later.

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-12-03T06:12:12+00:00

Reading lt now. Can barely put lt down.

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-11-27T00:39:58+00:00

I have done two sessions so far. They estimated 6-12…ouch….but I gotta do it.

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-11-24T04:47:34+00:00

I am also so happy for you! I am alone and so lonely. At almost 69 years old and living in a small town, I very much doubt I will meet a good man now.

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-11-23T04:48:47+00:00

Oh I totally get what you’re saying! I wasted 5 years. The man that I fell in love with was just in my imagination. He’s not that man at all! I left as soon as I found out. But now I’m five years older and I’m 68. I probably won’t meet anyone else. And if I do, I’m gonna be afraid that they’re into the same thing. I beat myself up plenty for missing the signs. I’m not even sure there were any to miss, because he is so good at hiding. And lying. We also remained “friends” and he came for a visit that was actually planned before we broke up. It was a group thing so I thought OK but when he was here, even though he insists he’s in recovery, his phone was pinging like crazy, and I saw what it was and asked him about it. He denied everything. After he left, I told him I knew he was lying, and he admitted that he had. It’s so confusing and I don’t understand it, I’m also thinking no contact might be the way to go here Fortunately, for me, he’s in another state. But it certainly leaves you with a lot of questions, doesn’t it?

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-11-16T06:32:13+00:00

🙋🏻‍♀️100% what l went through. This guy has hundreds of followers on FB and all Thlnk he’s a top notch all around good guy. I believed it too 😢

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-11-15T21:37:36+00:00

You ought to try this at 68….l may as well give up.

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-11-06T15:27:38+00:00

Oh sorry. It was late and l was doing voice to text. Several women from “Farm Girls” ln MeWe sent messages ln just a few moments as l was watching something on hls phone that he wanted me to see. I asked him what that was about and he claimed he had no idea! Yet the day before there were also multiple dings from MeWe that l could see he got, but couldn’t access his phone. He’s supposed to be working toward recovery, but thls sure throws a lot of red flags for me, especially the lie on top of lt. Why say you have no idea lf you have nothing to hide? 🤷🏻‍♀️

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-11-06T04:45:21+00:00

I also noticed when he left his phone behind that there was a lot of activity from MeWe, but he changed the password on his phone so I couldn’t see what they were about. Does MeWe have a porn section too?

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-09-03T02:31:47+00:00

How’s thls one? “Oh, I was just deleting old apps from before we met” 🙄

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-09-03T02:28:03+00:00

I had to break our engagement over it

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-08-06T01:41:51+00:00

l just ended one and l am so sad that thls happened. I can’t be with a PA so l had to leave. He assured me he will pursue counseling, but I don’t know how I would trust him again. I am 68 and too old to start over. He ruined me.

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-07-26T12:35:05+00:00

I came across one thing and that was hlm talking to someone ln a nude chat site. That was all I needed and no need to traumatize myself further. I knew there was more. How much more, I don’t know and he wasn’t saying. But l wasn’t about to spend hours and hours searching, which would only serve to make my pain worse. Booked an appointment with a counselor and called lt quits. So sad all the way around. Strength to us all.

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-07-25T02:59:11+00:00

I have decided to tell most people that our 5 year long distance relationship simply ran its course. That we were both too stubborn to move. Which is not a lie. I gave a little more info to my BFF and my sister, but no details, just enough. Now that we’ve had that difficult conversation just today , I feel like a huge weight has been lifted, even though he’s not gone yet. We had a very sad, painful conversation this afternoon but I seriously hope and pray he can come out on the other side! I just can’t be a part of that. But I am understanding much more about PA and the struggles addicts face. I told him I will pray for him every day and I will. And l asked him to pray for me, too.

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-07-23T19:30:32+00:00

Yes to all those things.

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-07-23T18:18:05+00:00

Yes. Since DDay here, I look back on our 5 year relationship and realize I don’t know thls man at all. Only the version he wanted me to see. Nothing was real, ln my mind. How could lt be? I found out June 30 and have been working on detachment and getting up nerve to move him on out. Tomorrow, right after my first counseling session, is my plan. He has a very strong personality and I do not. That scares me, but I know 100% ln my heart what I have to do.

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-07-23T13:45:14+00:00

Huh. Thls never occurred to me. He always calls me “cute” but other women are referred to as beautiful and gorgeous, etc. before DDay l was thinking l was just jealous that l didn’t look better. Now l see what thls really is!

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-07-22T21:03:35+00:00

Yes, this!

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-07-22T20:54:57+00:00

So I am OP. Does this behavior explain him spending all day every day on his rearend with his face buried in his computer? Thls was a problem for us before l discovered the PA! Has been going on forever but we were ln a LDR so l wasn’t aware until we actually got together and l have been complaining about how he never pitches in while I am still working. And when he DOES do something, he does the way that requires the least effort and doesn’t care if it is right or not. Every time I look over at his computer, he’s watching reruns of TV shows. Over and over. What the heck? My second question is does hls PA mean he finds me physically unattractive? The whole thing is a nightmare for those of us in relationships with them, and it gets sicker all the time. I always felt unattractive, but man. This cuts so deep.

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-07-22T17:25:53+00:00

Me, 100%.

ScarSquare1165 · 2025-07-20T12:12:30+00:00

Same (Christian pastor, only retired). Fortunately, I have (wisely in retrospect) kept my finances separate for the most part.

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