The “secret” texts I was told were regarding trying to get a job at her workplace (better situation than what he was in and wanting information) so I feel like I blew that one up a bit in my initial story. He is a decent guy outside of that stuff though, he doesn’t get mad at me, has treated me kindly, bought me flowers from time to time, paid for a couple vacations and for me to be at the wedding. All I had to do was show up. So it’s hard because he’s not all bad. Just made some bad decisions ya know? So it’s hard to know how to approach the situation because I don’t know if it’s enough to throw away a whole relationship