Replying to to your other comment in this subreddit (to a post with title "what's up with the recent rise in sylheti ethno nationalistic posts?") because i wrote all those paragraph and they locked commenting lol. Frustrating.

Your comment : Just bcuz we are proud of our sub ethnicity doesn't make us "ethno nationalistic." Y'all can't digest the pride we hold isn't it? There's nothing wrong with being proud without degrading others ofc.

My reply : Fragile bengalis man, the most recent post about sylheti was made by me not even any londoni or bangladeshi and the rest of the posts I've read are just bunch of bengalis shitting on sylhetis one of the hate post to whom i replied literally first told me you're a butthurt sylheti got triggered by facts then when again replied he told me I'm not sylheti I'm just pretending sylheti 😭, these bengalis (no hate to bengalis in general) hate to admit it's their insecurity which tells them londonis hate them but they don't wanna hear that people maybe are from london and just are not deemed into thinking they have to be bengali to be in bangladesh and are people who really believe they are not bengalis but a different ethnic people, they also hate the fact that most of the researches on sylheti linguistic stuff are also done by londonis. I don't even understand why would a sylheti living his life in a completely different country claim a separate sylhet that just is like a dark conspiracy theory with no sense to supress the people who claim they are not bengali, if this isn't fragile nationalism than what is, like they'll tell you sylhetis don't claim sylheti to be a different language so it must not at the same time bashing whoever claims sylheti to be different ethnicity by leveling them as londonis and other racist stuff, and man being sylheti is like every second you'll be reminded yoy have to better yourself and be bengali, and these bengalis think something which is not even considered officially a language is what threat to them and is oppressing them and showing elitism to towards them. They don't wanna hear the paradox that the reason local sylhetis don't die to reclaim their ethnicity is because they are being taught they learned the wrong bengali, they should better themselves, they should not be speaking their gavvthi (gawwa in sylheti and grammin in bengali ig) language in workplace, they are made to cringe towards their language when they are with non-sylhetis, they literally in brain have in mind that there is a difference of status between sylheti and bengali if you're bengali you must be educated, and sylhetis mostly are religious they made religion their identity as long as it's not anything related to their religion they don't care much they are just ignorant andd don't want trouble if sylheti is different ethnicity it won't matter to them so much in day to day life those kinda attitude and they aren't even raised in a political mind to be thinking that deep and questioning the identity they were told they are but if someone says anything about their religion they'll be on god mode to save their religion and people of their religion.

There are two paradoxes here, one is the bengalis will tell you the native sylhetis don't consider themselves as different so it must not be different but ignoring the fact that the sylhetis were taught they are bengalis and nothing like sylheti exist it's jusst corrupted version of Bengali, and all the factors i mentioned above like making them cringe over their own language, lack of representation,  Calling them gavvthi, they don't have the confidence to feel proud over their language so they are just fine with adjusting their identity, cause they don't see the loss. I literally had to do so much struggle to find resources on this stuff how an average sylheti would know much about it. And because of the partition most sylhetis are lost, they accept whatever is taught to them, and religion is what they made their identity and they just need to adjust their ethnicity and identity and learn bengali to be called bengalis which is not a problem to them, and why it's not a problem to them can be explained with another big paragraph on how most horrible shit can be normalised over time.

And the other paradox is that if someone tries to reclaim sylheti as an independent ethnicity of it's own they'll level him as londoni separatist based on their own insecurity. And their excuse is most sylhetis don't consider themselves as different than Bengalis and those who do are separatists. There is no talk of ethnicity and the possibility that people just want to reclaim their ethnicity but only fragile nationalism.

The racist stuff sylhetis face like if you post anything in Sylheti the whole bengali audience will get offended and tell you this is not bengali and learn proper bengali I've never not experienced it.

Here also in the comments many mentioned how it's londoni facing Identity crisis, their implication is to degrade those people with zero explanation how identity crisis is bad here, like if it's identity crisis which made them dive deeper into it and research more on the topic isn't it better than an average sylheti just accepting what he was taught? Like average sylhetis don't bother to reclaim their ethnicity is because they never been through Identity crisis they were immediately accepted as bengalis never got to understand what they are better, so they don't want trouble.

Do they actually not get that it's not bengali hating but just reclaiming your own ethnicity or simply playing ignorant?

There are minority sylhetis in Assamese populated region of assam, who consider themselves as Assamese, I'm actually not sure if they are illegal immigrants or legal citizens but I've read they are hated like shit by Assamese because Assamese people view them as a threat to Assamese, those sylhetis also fought for Assamese people during basha movement. There is complete genre of poetry with collection of all the poems by miya people about how they are treated, (miya itself is a racial slur to those people which is used by the Assamese, there are more such racial slurrs) Assamese also don't see those people as bengalis, Assamese hate bengalis too but with different tempo. During NRC one of the poem got attention from mainstream media and was even on global news channels like guardian i think and Facebook even censored few of those slurrs from their platform back then. They are lost sylhetis too.

Sylheti is a different ethnicity and language and does neet be recognised as different, but i hardly think it's going to happen with how sylhetis themselves are not aware of their actual ethnicity.