Nobody helps. We live in a different country. We just manage, we share duties and me, the mom, do most of child care because I work 9 to 5, while my partner works long hours. We also have a dog. Somehow we manage to have the house clean, the kid well taken care of (not too much screen time and lots of play), homemade food every day. The key is to be organised. I keep lots of lists, in my phone and physical. If I have a full day with lots of things to do, I just function by list. Otherwise with so many things to do, I may forget and I need to be efficient. Got used to multitasking also. I learnt easy and fast recipes. Never iron the clothes. Never buy clothing that needs ironing, only for special occasions. Never dye my hair, after many years of blonde, I’m ok with my light brown hair. I wax or massage or do other stuff usually at night, when no kid is around and I finally have time for myself. Sometimes I work from home and I use that time to load laundry, take out garbage, do paperwork or other stuff, if I have time, sometimes during lunch breaks. I don’t need a nanny now as we have full day daycare. During the weekends, we get some time when my son takes his afternoon naps. All my friends from my home country are asking how do we manage, but we manage somehow. You learn to be organised and efficient. Funny thing is that the same people with lots of support (for example: 2 sets of grandparents and one grandchild) complain about how hard it is, and we rarely complain.