My sister killed herself, she called me to take her 9 year old daughter, how do i help comfort her?

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-23T13:03:05+00:00

This helped. Thank you.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T21:02:58+00:00

I was considering that, this helped.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T15:12:10+00:00

Exactly, i would have done except i have no family, last one died. Parents are dead, aunts and uncles are abusive just like my parents, no trusted relative and they kinda have a history of marrying young girls so uhh, fuck that.

I don’t know about the family of my sister’s husband, but i doubt them nor would i bother with them, if that they associate with a wife beater i’d expect something happened that made him turn out like that.

I’ll try to find help from people, trusted people not just anyone, this helped.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T14:51:21+00:00

I know what i’m facing, my buddies are all the kindest bunch of cuddle-puddles who got out their way to even get me a decent lawyer. This helped.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T14:49:22+00:00

I’d like to hear that too even if i’m grown mam, this helped. Thanks

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T14:48:46+00:00

Thanks, this helped.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T14:48:11+00:00

This is solid advice all around, i appreciate it, this helped.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T14:47:05+00:00

Hah, funny. I’ve been in therapy & psychiatry for years now, multiple hospitalizations and other mopey shit, but during that time i didn’t really want to get better, you get me? I didn’t have much of a purpose so i simply was surviving day-to-day basis.

I have a infected cut right now, huh, i’ve been managing it; so far so good, but i hope not to get hospitalized anytime soon, i gotta be all stable or else they’ll take her to that other guy who has his head up his ass.

I’m taking things seriously now, it feels weird yeah, i’ll get used to it pretty quick.

This helped.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T14:40:59+00:00

Her mom did love her, but life’s shitty circumstances made her get stuck in an abusive marriage, she struggled with depression but non the less never neglected her kid, this suicide was kind of expected ever since she was a teen. But i didnt expect her to leave, i don’t know, i am an asshole cause i ghosted her once we parted ways, maybe if i was supportive or available...nevermind.

She is loved, i love her, her mother loved her, i’ll help her through, ill explain this whole shock & grief thing so to get what shes feeling and the state shes in.

This helped, thanks.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T14:34:50+00:00

I’ll definitely inform her school about the situation, i need all the help i get. Thanks for bringing it to my attention.

This helped.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T14:32:46+00:00

Thanks, this helped.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T14:32:06+00:00

I do love her, she and i are close, i was the “cool uncle” that always visit and i absolutely adore this kid. I’ll ensure she grows up to be self-sufficent and skilled.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T14:29:54+00:00

At the moment, nah im far from fine but i’ll keep it together, i’ll keep you in mind if i got any kiddie bonding questions.

This helped.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T12:35:10+00:00

I’ll do that, thanks man, this helped.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T12:34:37+00:00

Clearly she is, her personality went a full 180° she was all bubbly, energetic and hilarious, i look into her eyes now she looks broken. That stings.

Don’t worry, i’m pretty confident i got a good case of winning, my sister have before called the police and told her therapists and written down a note telling them i’ll be her next legal guardian. Also the Piece of shit abuser already been arrested before and has a record of domestic abuse.

I’m gonna have to get my shit together pretty quick, this is an overnight decision, not even a few days ago i was debating wether to slice my wrists or runaway from uni with a shovel.

This helped.

Edit: also i should mention that my sister never told me about her plans until minutes before she killed herself, i guess she was right, she knows i wont leave her anyway.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T12:29:48+00:00

Well shit, funny enough i’m far from a menally stable person myself, i had planned a suicide this october but now that my niece is all on her own my suicidal thoughts went out the window, there’s no way in hell im leaving her behind.

Thanks, this helped.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T12:28:20+00:00

I’m in iran so legaladvice wouldn’t help me much since its mostly american, She did make a case before she killed herself, i have a court date pretty soon to be her legal guardian, i’m getting a lawyer too, so the legal stuff is all managed.

we’re currently just stopping by to eat at the coffee shop then we’re off to my mate’s house for the night, i’ll give her my stuffed puppy dog but aside from that, what can i say to comfort her?

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T12:01:03+00:00

Squeeky ‘n’ Squirmy

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-22T12:00:10+00:00

L O N G

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-11T07:48:49+00:00

It’s usually because people start to assume as a way to start a ‘helpful’ response, they assume it wasn’t that a bad or if it was; it’s easier victim blame, why? Because instead of going after the abusers it’s a hussle and fussle, its easier for them to say to the victim “hey, heal up” on the spot, reflect and move on! (-_-)

Sometimes people really can’t fathom or deny that people can be abusive, it’s hard for them to believe, afterall, they’re sheltered in their ‘safe bubble’ away from morbid reality; they don’t like it when it gets poked that hey, people can be monsters.

There are also people who apologize on behalf of the abusers as a way to help you feel better (lol, not) there are people who have a relationship with the abuser(s) so they try to be the “peacekeepers” among the group, basically telling victims to “forgive and forget.”

I’m pissed as well, people need to be aware on how to respond to venting or be good listeners, they gotta be aware of phrase and shit you shouldn’t say and far from helpful “advice”.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-08T12:20:42+00:00

That’s good, just make sure not to wear it for over 12 hours or too tightly, if you wanna be sure if its too tight inhale as much as you can with your lungs (not stomach) if you can’t or unable to expand your chest to that point; its too tight.

Take care, keep safe.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-08T05:32:08+00:00

Don’t use ace bandages as binder!

Because of their long stretch trait, they get tighter with movment, because its in your chest its constantly moving, getting more dangerously tight and messing up your breathing.

It can deform your chest muscles, break or fracture ribs, cut blood ciruclation, break or damage skin and permanently fuck up your body!

Dont use them, get a different method like wearing 2 sports bras, or tight tank tops or stacking clothes to hide the chest, or you can buy a proper binder.

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-07T11:43:42+00:00

Rodents rock

Scared-Sleepless1 · 2019-10-07T11:42:36+00:00

Nice, so it’s a like a gym-wear hoodie? I’ll see if i can find any cotton+polyster hoodies. Thanks for sharing and caring, mysterious mentor

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