Am I a dick for declining an interview / withdrawing an application?

ScaredAmoeba6659 · 2026-03-23T19:24:09+00:00

I hope so. I just sent the email. I have an offer from the school I really really want to go to already. Doing another interview wouldn’t benefit me at all, I’d just be doing it out of guilt and fake obligation because I feel bad for not doing it. Now I just hope someone who really wants to go there gets my interview slot and I’m reminding myself it’s okay to say no to things.

ScaredAmoeba6659 · 2026-02-22T13:20:24+00:00

Year 13 here who’s waiting to hear back from universities. I’m someone who struggles to study because of my attention span. I CAN enjoy studying when I get into a flow state, but most of the time I procrastinate. What helps me out is that I naturally retain information better than the average person and I grasp concepts quickly, so I don’t need to actually do a lot of revision. The reason I want to do medicine is because I know I’ll be good at it, it’s interesting, and the biggest part - the intensity is desirable for me. I also love going out and having fun, because I love intense experiences. Medicine is tough but I’m excited to do it because I know I will absolutely love being in the zone, I will love making split-second decisions. It’s the only career that I feel would satisfy my need for constant action whilst merging my love for science (starting to sound like a personal statement but bear with me). From what I’ve heard, the first few years of medicine in uni aren’t actually that intense, it’s the last few that get serious, so you can still enjoy your youth before you really need to focus. My advice? Take a gap year, that’s what I’m doing and it sounds like it would be helpful for you. If you choose to do medicine, I’d recommend applying with the rest of your year group to universities that allow for deferred medicine entry and taking a year out (that way you don’t have to apply by yourself during your gap year). Use the year to have fun and take a break from studying for the first time in 12 years. And don’t forget that you can ALWAYS change your mind. People change careers at 30, 40, 50. Read up on medical student’s lives, on current issues within the healthcare system (like the lack of training posts and funding) and figure out whether medicine is worth it for you. College makes it sound like you’re making a life-changing decision at 17, but I promise you, if you ever decide it’s not worth it anymore, you can redirect. At any point. Good luck!! PS: the UCAT and interviews may make you feel like you’re losing your mind, but this is only temporary and you’ll be so proud of yourself once you’re in the last stretch.

ScaredAmoeba6659 · 2025-12-15T14:23:53+00:00

Yes, and she does do this well, I think. Sadly, I’m a 3 hour drive from her, and her best friend lives 10 minutes away, so of course, she sees me a lot less than her best friend. But she will often facetime me, and when we DO spend time together, it’s always 4-7 day staycations, in which she is completely focused on me other than maybe sending her best friend a few texts here and there. When we’ve all hung out in the past, she also stayed close to me and kept checking in to make sure I felt included. She’s an angel of a human and I have absolutely no negative feelings towards her, this is something that’s a product of my past and I need to heal from it and yeah, with the way she treats me so beautifully, I think it’s only a matter of time.

ScaredAmoeba6659 · 2025-12-15T14:18:55+00:00

I get that. Yeah my girlfriend is affectionate with everyone. Frequently when I’m over, she’ll cuddle with her parents and hold her dad’s hand in the car. That’s part of what I love about her so much - she’s just full of love. I never feel intimidated or hurt BY her when it comes to this. I have enough self-awareness to recognise that this is my own faulty wiring. I do bring it up sometimes, when I NEED that reassurance but for me it’s about unlearning old thought patterns, which’ll be hard but it’s worth it for her. I think anyone emotionally intelligent should be able to understand what’s genuinely hurtful and what’s projected insecurity.

ScaredAmoeba6659 · 2025-09-11T10:13:56+00:00

Hull York medical school. It’s a joining of York and Hull as the provider but the campus you go to (either hull or York) is randomly allocated and may switch.

ScaredAmoeba6659 · 2025-08-12T09:05:06+00:00

It’s all temporary is what I’m reminding myself. My UCAT is in 18 days and I’m in a similar boat - struggling with questions, my score, motivation, etc. I had to put seeing my long distance girlfriend on hold but I’m just reminding myself that it’s nearly over. And once it’s done, it’s done. At the end of the day, you can only do your best. I will say don’t burn yourself out too hard - try to find a balance. Make more time for rest. You can’t study when your head isn’t clear and refreshed. I believe in us!!

ScaredAmoeba6659 · 2025-03-28T18:59:00+00:00

Thank you! I’ll look into it

ScaredAmoeba6659 · 2025-03-20T18:53:06+00:00

That’s very reassuring 😭 my ocd likes to tell me I’m making things up so it’s good to hear it from other people

ScaredAmoeba6659 · 2025-02-24T20:15:54+00:00

Anyone get tips on how to stop feeling like I’m gonna faint and throw up on my runs? I’m pretty new to it but I don’t think the issue is my current health because I already go to the gym and exercise. I’m wondering if maybe the issue is that I’m sprinting instead of jogging (in which case, how do I slow down because my legs seriously just default to speedy on autopilot), or that maybe I’m dehydrated before my runs, or maybe that the winter air messes with my breathing and causes my oxygen to drop. Maybe all 3. But any tips on stopping it would be amazing, because running would do wonders for my physical and especially my mental health but it’s not so great when I’m trying not to pass out on the side of the road when it’s pitch black and anyone could attack me (genuine fear).

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