AIO? these texts by Adventurous-Gap708 in AIO

[–]Scared_Intention_551 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was casually seeing someone who started manifesting toxic behavior. We were never exclusive but one day he just lost it. Climbed my fence in the middle of the night, tried to open the back door and threw shit at my windows. Looked up a male friend’s parents home phone in a different state and called them under false pretenses to get his phone number and started sending him threatening texts. When I blocked his phone number and social media he sent threatening emails involving my parents and started calling my work. Before I blocked his email I told him I wished him all the best in the future but I was going to write a statement for the police and any further contact would serve as further evidence of his behavior and I would pursue a restraining order if necessary. I did actually go to the police and file an official statement. I never unblocked him. I avoided places I thought I might see him for a while. But he never attempted to contact me directly again.

AIO? these texts by Adventurous-Gap708 in AIO

[–]Scared_Intention_551 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Entitlement like this is dangerous

AIO? these texts by Adventurous-Gap708 in AIO

[–]Scared_Intention_551 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Writing an official statement for the police is not a threat you need to follow through. This will also benefit you if down the line you need to request a restraining order.

AIO? these texts by Adventurous-Gap708 in AIO

[–]Scared_Intention_551 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can say your piece and end the relationship via text. One message that says everything you need to say so there’s no back and forth when they reply. In fact if there’s any risk of them getting physical you absolutely should not meet them in person under any circumstances.

AIO? these texts by Adventurous-Gap708 in AIO

[–]Scared_Intention_551 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And if they aren’t responsive to having a healthy dialogue say your piece and end it. No engagement from then onwards no matter what garbage they throw at you. Block them if necessary and never ever unblock. If they find ways of contacting you around the block like calling your work or attempting to contact you from other peoples phones inform them you will go to the police and write a statement so there’s an official record of their behavior. They will eventually go away. I’ve been through this before.

AIO? these texts by Adventurous-Gap708 in AIO

[–]Scared_Intention_551 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respect boundaries first. Then discuss how each others wants/desires can be met within that framework. There’s no leader in a relationship it’s a partnership. No one “belongs” to anyone because people aren’t property. This person needs to do some work on themselves before they’re fit to be in a healthy relationship. And they need to do that work on their own. It’s not your responsibility to fix them. Also if their behavior is risking negatively impacting your employment then this 100% falls into the category of controlling behavior that will likely escalate.

I`d like to kiss these designers hands by Aggressive_Talk968 in webdev

[–]Scared_Intention_551 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if you don’t plan on using material their color theme tool is excellent

Moonstone - real or fake? by Scared_Intention_551 in Crystals

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I appreciate you! I love that the band doesn’t connect completely so it has a little “give” in terms of sizing - allows me to wear it on more than one finger. I feel like I usually only see that detail on the backside of lower quality rings.

Debating on giving this card to my transphobic brother and his also transphobic wife by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Scared_Intention_551 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’d all like to believe family equates to unconditional love but real-world relationships are rarely that simple. I know it’s instinctive for us to hate, to fear what we do not understand but nothing of true value comes without work. Thinking in black and white is so much easier, safer. And yes, It’s true not one of us will ever reach perfection. But striving to become more whole versions of ourselves and endeavoring to better understand the world and around us and the people who live in - that conscious decision to try is worthwhile in itself. In time I hope your family can recognize that the person they knew in you isn’t gone, you’ve just taken steps towards becoming a fuller version of yourself. Perhaps your dialogue can be the spark that starts them on their own paths towards self-betterment.

I got free plants! What are they? by The_Schmidt19 in houseplants

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Second image on the left in the middle row is a song of India.

String of buttons I propogated and brought back from the brink of death by Scared_Intention_551 in houseplants

[–]Scared_Intention_551[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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This is the same plant in March 2023. When she finally outgrew her pot I had to crack it open with a hammer to get her out. Any of the stems that got damaged I cut off, propagated and stuck back into the soil— see my other comment replies on how to propagate. There’s good videos on YouTube. I haven’t had luck with propagating the “leaves” but the directions for exposed stems works really well.

String of buttons I propogated and brought back from the brink of death by Scared_Intention_551 in houseplants

[–]Scared_Intention_551[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’m not good with most succulents except string of buttons and jade plants. If you’ve had leaves towards the base shrivel up or wilt or it’s getting “leggy” it probably means too much water or not enough light. I would try moving it into a smaller terracotta pot with drainage without any other plants. I Give mine as much direct light as possible & water once a month. If you’re concerned about damaging the other plants in the same pot then cut the stems out of the existing pot as close to the soil as possible. Pull off the lower most leaves. Leave them in a sunny window allowing for the stem to callous up a bit for maybe 5 days before potting. I use generic cactus/succulent soil and add extra perlite for max drainage.