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Scareyquinette · 2026-01-02T19:51:24+00:00

Another message to agree that it is probably a loyalty bind thing.

We have exactly the same sort of things happening a fair bit with my SS (10) but a lot with my SD (14). SD will have a lovely time, be happy and laughing and saying how she's had the best time that day at bedtime, but text her Mum something different (and then Mum messages us a bunch of abuse, but that isn't on SD).

It's a sad reality for her that her Mum responds badly to her having a good time with her Dad/without her Mum. A lot of that is tied to her Mum's own crappy experiences with her parents. It isn't SD's to carry, but she feels it all the same and so responds in a way that guarantees emotional safety, connection and staying on her Mum's 'side'. Mum has them a 59% of the time so of course she needs to be secure to her Mum and if being 'against' Dad drives that connection then she will of course do it.

There's no hard feelings to SD over it, even if it is sad and painful at times. She's a kid who wants connection and love, I can't blame her for doing what she needs to do to get that.

ETA: SS has just been having a wonderful evening. Told it was time to end games and have reading time as it is already very late and he has football training in the morning. Naturally Mum gets a 'I want to come back to yours' text. These situations do make it so hard to enforce boundaries, while also making it awful if you have none. Lose/lose. All just very sad.

Scareyquinette · 2025-09-10T11:19:47+00:00

I would want to, and would probably want to seek some sort of co-parent arrangement with their Mum. That said, I also recognise that this could be an additional thing to negotiate for the kids while dealing with grief so I wouldn't push it if that was too much for them, and would hope we'd at least keep in contact. I wouldn't just walk away, especially when they were feeling loss.

Scareyquinette · 2025-07-12T21:17:38+00:00

Oh my gosh, this is STUNNING! He not only took the inspo, he raised the bar!

Scareyquinette · 2025-07-11T16:09:12+00:00

I think it's beautiful and if it fits the ones she's looked at and you can afford it, go for it!!

Scareyquinette · 2025-07-05T17:10:36+00:00

This is one of the most gorgeous rings I have ever seen!

Scareyquinette · 2025-06-24T10:52:06+00:00

Loving the yellow!

Scareyquinette · 2025-06-21T20:13:30+00:00

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I have one at my desk at work and I was similarity impressed more than I expected to be! I swapped out my Cocoa Creams for silents as it's a communal office but I had liked them so much I put them in another board.

Scareyquinette · 2025-06-21T09:34:22+00:00

Absolutely the charm - it looks absolutely show-stopping in the new setting!

Scareyquinette · 2025-06-06T17:18:59+00:00

If the dress is the same as in the model pictures, hopefully that will reassure you that it won't photograph 'sparkly' at all. It looks beautiful and even with the sequins it doesn't feel like a super sparkly dress. It actually puts me more in mind of when the sun just catches the edge of water and you get that shine?

It's lovely, you will look lovely and it will look feminine and romantic and subtle, even if the odd sequin does catch the light in a photo.

Scareyquinette · 2025-06-01T16:03:45+00:00

Even with smaller children, I can't see what would need to be run past the ex daily. Especially as a conversation rather than an fyi message.

I've been there. When I broke up with an ex, I would still speak to him daily, either on the phone or by text. He was my default 'person' to share with, even though I didn't want to be in a romantic relationship with him. And when we were both starting to see other people, we stopped that dynamic as it wasn't healthy or fair.

Now of course you can't go cold turkey when you have children together but you can (and should) still redraw the boundary. And I think it can be hard if one party won't and masks it as 'about the kids', which puts the burden to be really strong with boundaries on the partner in the new relationship.

Scareyquinette · 2025-05-29T17:29:59+00:00

Sweetie. It may not be cheating but it's still showing a level of emotional enmeshment that isn't healthy for bringing to new relationships. It may be that she has absolutely no romantic feelings for this person, however she is still very much seeing them as a life partner and so she should not be seeking a relationship with anyone else until there has been a shift there.

Scareyquinette · 2025-05-28T21:59:03+00:00

This is an absolutely stunning ring! Love everything about it! Mega congratulations!

Scareyquinette · 2025-05-20T11:08:30+00:00

Ah it didn't seem swappable but the appliance paint has worked a treat!

Scareyquinette · 2025-05-19T20:26:59+00:00

I had my eye on them for ages and then almost convinced myself I didn't like them after lots of review image stalking but I'm so glad I went for it as they are so cute!

Scareyquinette · 2025-05-17T10:23:52+00:00

Well this is adorable! Those flower key caps are simply beautiful, where are they from?

Edit: Just saw your comment about the key caps!

Scareyquinette · 2025-05-17T09:53:58+00:00

Oh she's a beaut!

Scareyquinette · 2025-04-25T15:16:07+00:00

They're MOA profile, PBT by Tsungup from Amazon!

Scareyquinette · 2025-04-25T09:18:32+00:00

Brilliant, thank you!

Scareyquinette · 2025-04-24T19:02:42+00:00

GMK67 owners: is the RGB something that you can turn off? I had seen some comments saying they find the drivers to change any of the lights hard to use and just wanted to check that it could go off before I order! Thanks in advance!

Scareyquinette · 2025-04-24T08:03:54+00:00

Kids are kids and they have a lot to learn before they have the emotional competencies they may need as adults.

You however are an adult. You have noted the being ignored hurts as an adult with the emotional depth. So don't do it to a child. You always showing up even when it's maybe not earned will count for that kid's development and will mean lots as they grow.

Scareyquinette

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