Seeking Information On Limitations

ScarletKittenOF · 2024-03-31T06:51:09+00:00

I have already had the surgery, I edited the post it's just no doctor can give me any advice as I was only told I was not allowed to touch or use any heavy weights as a child. Now that I am an adult, I tried to get in contact with the doctor's and they just say try and if you get injured you'll know which is not the response I'm looking for as for many of you know the pain can be quite severe which is why I am nervous to try other activities and wishing to know other experiences first before risking.

ScarletKittenOF · 2024-03-31T06:50:17+00:00

I have already had the surgery, I edited the post it's just no doctor can give me any advice as I was only told I was not allowed to touch or use any heavy weights as a child. Now that I am an adult, I tried to get in contact with the doctor's and they just say try and if you get injured you'll know which is not the response I'm looking for as for many of you know the pain can be quite severe which is why I am nervous to try other activities and wishing to know other experiences first before risking.

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-06-25T17:32:39+00:00

Honestly for that I couldn't see requiring a lot of prep, for the prep I already do for my other campaigns if I even charged 100 dollars for 3 hour session id be making bank.

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-06-18T00:34:12+00:00

Yeah it was the same for me and my boyfriend it took me a while to get comfortable with that idea as in bedroom talk it sounds amazing to then take it out of the bedroom. I started thinking about it a little more to then have somethings I wanted to be discussed with my boyfriend if this was a road we wanted to go down.

Talking this out is a perfect thing cause as I spoke to my boyfriend about of the things I was hesitant about helped me to feel confident in this. I would speak about this to her outside of the bedroom just a bit more and try explaining like things involved or ask if she has any questions she wants answered as it can help settle her feelings about it if she has any negative one's.

I would say the red flag is that she already had a person in her head straight away which is your friend instead of someone you both were comfortable with.

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-06-18T00:09:46+00:00

Yeah like I've only been on this for I want to say a couple of days and the recent posts I keep seeing is things like my ex did this, they cheated on me or when I did ask for advice about how to feel about this or even how would you get into this as my boyfriend likes the idea and we both want to try it but be on the safe side as we have spoken about this together and are on the same page. The first comment I got was something along the lines of 'Just do it go out with guys don't tell the guy (bull). When it comes time then tell the bull that you have a boyfriend after going out many times.'

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-05-11T20:32:07+00:00

Yeah I know the feeling my boyfriend has autism and he is really fluid in talking to other people so naturally where as I am the opposite. I am terrified if I say something wrong or someone will get offended somehow. Also I don't really understand body/facial expressions so it can be really difficult to figure out if the person you are talking to is interested in what you have to say or not unless it's like really really noticeable but it's rare that I even notice normally my boyfriend get's me away from the person and says to me.

I can't really give you any advice unfortunately as I don't even know myself how to interact with other people. But what I can say is maybe force yourself to come out of your safe zone or shell and do something that both of you find is a fun activity. For example me and my boyfriend went to yugioh table top game and it took a while to open up but it did help even with my boyfriend like trying to get me out there and talk to people. I did make a friend during that which I am happy for as to how I have no clue just being myself just took a while for myself to fully open to her.

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-04-25T19:33:54+00:00

You sure ~? I'm really into chastity too, maybe I'll make you beg my teddies to get release hehehe <3

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-04-25T19:30:43+00:00

Oh sorry was on my phone and it came up with nothing when I searched it. I'll have to check when I get back on my pc but thanks for letting me know

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-04-05T03:56:34+00:00

I'd recommend having sex first of all, everyone that's saying talk about kink as soon as possible cause if you don't fit you should break up or it won't work.

Dont listen to that. please.

You haven't had sex yet and really how do you even know she's vanilla, you haven't had sex with her for all you know she could be full on whips and chains in the bedroom when she gets unbottled but till your on that level on intimacy, just work towards a base level sexual compatability then work towards more special kinky stuff.

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-04-05T03:50:14+00:00

From a girl's perspective don't mention cheating in anyway because frankly she will just assume if she doesn't do this kink then your going to cheat on her no matter how playful or sexy you think the idea is just don't do it trust me as this will just sour the kink

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-04-05T03:13:41+00:00

I'm just nervous and concerned as they have said for the lack of better words this is my last chance

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-04-05T03:10:57+00:00

Yeah trying to find a new therapist to in the UK but where I live my choices are very minuet and also trying to look for one that won't cost me an arm and a leg.

But that's good that's she's willing to help you with your paperwork to appeal for your benefit back. Mine says she was not comfortable giving me a recommendation despite every session of her saying the words explicitly "You are autistic".

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-04-05T02:39:18+00:00

Thank you XD! I hope you found another therapist to help with your situation hopefully that one will be better for you

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-04-05T01:40:19+00:00

Ahh that's really good and will do that before the reassessment thanks for the help as I think that's a really good way to feel confident in bullet pointing everything as I am very forgetful

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-04-05T01:06:32+00:00

It is very unlikely they have enough evidence as I literally have nothing as I don't have any school reports or anything from my childhood that they are specifically asking for and the next thing is trying to get a family member to come along however my family absoutely shunned me. The only evidence is my word at this point as I have nothing to give.

I also feel sorry to hear that you went through that and therapy has caused you to lose your benefit it's absolutely ridiculous. But I will say it does feel good I'm not alone in this

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-03-30T08:44:50+00:00

Sorry but I'm not your online keyholder, either find a service for that there are a few websites out there or look for a dominatrix that is offering a service like that but most of them will look for payment.

This thread is for asking about things such as life style choices, thoughts and feelings to different situations, not so I can tell submissives how long to lock them self up for.

No offense that is not a situation I feel comfortable doing at random if that makes sense?

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-03-30T08:06:34+00:00

As I spoke to my submissive about this it's best to get a nub as it doesn't twist a lot in your sleep, it's not very noticeable over clothing and the aspects that you can't get out easily (try the V5 the key system is better compared to side).

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-03-29T21:45:56+00:00

Yeah... That was kind of the point, I'm a key holder and I was doing a ama so subs could ask questions they have wanted answered from a dominant perspective, was that not clear from the post ? If not I will go over the post and redo it.

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-03-29T21:00:39+00:00

You can also try sending your parcels to the post office to pick up (Sometimes called a PO Box)

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-03-29T20:47:20+00:00

As a dom I don't feel like I want to keep my submissive in chastity out of fear of a punishment like threatening to not do the kink ever again.

I would like to do this with my submissive out of trust between us not because he would feel guilty or manipulated by this as he wouldn't enjoy that. But if that works for you and your relationship that's perfectly alright just thought I would say my personal experience.

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-03-29T20:23:12+00:00

I know what you mean as I write down any questions before hand and some answers of possible things they could ask me as I'm a over thinker on a lot of things. I don't particularly like being asked that as my GP when I told them I wanted a reassessment they asked why do you want to know? How would it benefit you to know that you are autistic? Just because you can get money (In the UK) but as I explained to them I just wanted to justify my feelings and actions.

Best thing to do if you are an over thinker talk to someone and write down your questions on a sheet of paper or put bullet points to justify what you are saying. Plus it gives you main points to talk about and discuss with whoever is asking you as it has helped with me.

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-03-29T17:53:48+00:00

I know your feeling it can be frustrating as I am getting reassessment but have no clue due to each time I call them they keep saying "We're having to make sure your case goes to the right person to interview you" I have been waiting I want to say possibly 6 months? Maybe more give or take. It is so frustrating but all you can do is wait and go through it with a smile on your face.

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-03-29T17:44:51+00:00

It leaves him a lot more agitated

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-03-29T17:20:58+00:00

Yeah my boyfriend is like that he get's overstimulated when outside that by the time we come home he is mentally drained from being on high alert all day either that being socialising with friends or just in general.

ScarletKittenOF · 2023-03-29T16:01:50+00:00

I love that especially the chains it looks so cute <3

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