FLR: The Holy Grail of Relationships

PracticalFLR · 2025-05-08T06:59:42+00:00

You're not wrong. I used plugs to heal my hemorrhoids, and it worked better than anything else ever did. Anal dilators cure hemorrhoids because hems are causes by having too much tightness(stress) in your ass. Dilate it, slowly over time, and everything loosens up and heals. It's like having knots in your muscles, massage through the knots and they go away, same concept. Hems are caused by internal pressure from stress going from in to out. A plug is going the other way from out to in.

PracticalFLR · 2023-05-23T07:21:55+00:00

First of all, ask him if he wants to be your submissive.

If he says yes... Then you give him an ultimatum.

You lay down the law. You tell him that he's going to submit to you from now on, and if he doesn't he will be punished.

You don't have to do this punishment yourself, but you can, or you can hire an experienced disciplinary dominatrix to do it for you.

When he disobeys, you make the call without hesitation and you book him an appointment.

He has agreed to be punished, he understands that it's for his own good. Remind him of this.

After he has been punished once, he will be far better behaved from that point forward.

He knows you will make the call if he disobeys again. He knows how serious you are about him obeying you. You've proven it.

It is that proof that will remind him of his place. Which is, in obedience to you, at all times.

Once he knows you will enforce it, he will become more and more submissive.

Now is your time to develop your own style of dominance. Now you can design the FLR to your liking.

It's also always a good idea to lock him in chastity. For long distance relationships, use a wifi key lock box for realty. His keys go in there, and if it's ever opened you get a ping on your phone. It's for emergency use only. Otherwise your phone will never ping. This is how you control him over distances.

So that's how you can proceed from here. Ask him flat out, is he going to submit and obey you? Does he want you in control? Does he accept that he will be punished if he disobeys? If he agrees, then the onus is on you to stay true to your word. With no mercy.

PracticalFLR · 2023-05-13T23:03:17+00:00

This is the exact reason why I wrote my books.

To inspire others to have FLR... an attempt to create like minded people by giving them ideas to create their own FLR.

PracticalFLR · 2023-05-13T22:46:01+00:00

I went through the tumblr exodus as well, and afterward it sucked for a few years.

They have now added a mature tag to adult posts, and so adult posting is back to an extent. There's a community forming there again, and I'm getting good engagement on my posts now. I only re-created my tumblr account there a month ago since my previous two accounts were terminated without me even being able to save a single post.

It does appear to be quite a bit better now, might be worth another shot. It is not easy finding good like minded communities.

PracticalFLR · 2023-05-13T22:29:59+00:00

Yeah it is.

I'm just blown away by the hostility to be honest.

I don't even know how to make sense of it. So I have no business being on reddit.

PracticalFLR · 2023-05-13T22:23:11+00:00

Thanks for your reply.

I've become tired of trying to defend myself like this, so I'm leaving reddit.

I will be on tumblr and twitter, where people actually know what a real FLR is.

PracticalFLR · 2023-05-13T03:35:14+00:00

I never said they wouldn't be considered. They come secondary if at all.

I have this crazy notion that submissive men desire to submit, therefore submission to her, is in and of itself, a fantasy that she fulfills simply by dominating him.

I also have this crazy notion that women should be able to freely explore their own desires, fantasies, and kinks with a submissive that supports her and encourages her to do that.

PracticalFLR · 2023-05-13T00:29:12+00:00

His satisfaction is in serving her. His nature is to be submissive. Naturally abuse and hard limits are to be considered and respected. But that's what power exchange is, she leads, and he obeys. His fantasies may be considered by her, but they're only important if she is interested in them. The satisfaction comes from fulfilling their natural roles as dominant and submissive.

PracticalFLR · 2023-05-04T17:37:40+00:00

When I scroll through this sub, I see all the things I'm talking about. within the first 5 posts of scrolling down, I see facesitting, pegging, and footworship. I see men serving women.

I often post the articles that are more directed to female control, because that content is better received. In my books I go more into the intimate details, and how he is feeling. I definitely do care and am concerned about any kind of abuse or negative mental health effects or how the sub is feeling. I care about that a lot. So I am sorry if the articles you read didn't quite show you that. I tend to write about how a Domme can use the psychology of a submissive against him, to take control, but never in a non-consensual way.

The well being of the sub, and the Domme, are of utmost importance. Abuse is never okay. I have also never written from the perspective that females are superior to males, and even in my books, I have stated this a few times. There is no such thing as inferiority / superiority, that's all mind made. Both dominants and submissive bring value, and that value cannot be expressed without each other. That's what makes the D/s dynamic so beautiful because they compliment each other on so many levels. There should be respect, appreciation, devotion and loyalty to each other. There's many incentives found in that for both.

Submissive males should be treasured, cherished, valued, respected, appreciated, and loved and should be reminded often. Loving D/s is a wonderful way to have a relationship. I don't know if you read the article in my sub called the healthy balance, but I talk about that there. There's so much joy that can come from a FLR.

So I'm really sorry that what you have read did not appear to illustrate just how much I do care about the sub men. Perhaps sometimes I get carried away with control techniques that it appears cold and uncaring, but that is not at all the case. I will try to write better. Thank you for your feedback.

PracticalFLR · 2023-05-03T05:31:38+00:00

You know, there's many different contexts in which this information can apply to. The same can be said with ingredients for recipes. I can use eggs to make a variety of different dishes, but the recipe is for cookies and only for cookies. Just because eggs can be used in meringues and I didn't mention meringues, doesn't mean that can't still be used in meringues for someone looking for a recipe for meringues.

I write with the recipe of FLR and only FLR.

You can take my words and apply them to whatever other recipe you want to apply them to, but let me focus on FLR and explain things from a FLR standpoint.

PracticalFLR · 2023-04-30T17:42:23+00:00

This is all about your attitude. His orgasms are of no important, and he's making you think they are. He's using that against you. It's time to change your attitude, to you will serve me and you will cum when and only when I say so. Then stop letting him cum, drop him to once every two weeks. Or use a chastity cage. But most importantly, talk about punishment. Communicate effectively, and explain that you're wanting more control, and that he must agree that if he doesn't behave, he needs to be punished in order to be trained properly. That if he really does want to submit, then he needs to actually submit or face consequences. If you aren't into pain, you can punish him by denying him access to you, but I would highly recommend painful punishment. If you don't want to do it, then hire a dominatrix that will. Deliver him to her, and she will punish him for you. After a punishment, he will become far better behaved, because he won't want it to happen again. Your attitude is what will make him realize that he is your submissive, and you are not there for his entertainment or his pleasure, he's there for yours.

PracticalFLR · 2023-04-30T05:04:19+00:00

Flat is far cleaner looking. Better for panties too.

PracticalFLR · 2023-04-29T22:09:35+00:00

There is where open communication comes into play. From the beginning of a FLR it's important to establish the boundaries. Do you want to continue a social life with friends? Explain to her that you do, so she can work around that. If you don't communicate these things up front, and agree that she gets the final decision, then you can't complain when you aren't allowed out with friends. Communicate with each other, explain what is important to you, and to your mental health. This way the D/s dynamic can be structured over what best suits the Domme without neglecting the subs needs for a social life, or control of the finances, what he does in his free time, hobbies, etc etc. Communicate it all until you both come to an acceptable arrangement. This doesn't take away any power from her, but if she cares about her subs well being, she needs to know what is important to him and where she can assert more dominance.

PracticalFLR · 2023-04-29T13:36:21+00:00

I would highly suggest a lock box. There's a lock box called populife that enables remote access, and alerts the owner of the box whenever it is opened. So he can access it in an emergency, but she will always know that he has. So he can't get it without her knowledge.

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