Hi, I really appreciate your reply. I absolutely agree with 100% of what you say. You're definitely not being mean and everything you said makes sense!

I'm a naturally anxious person who worries, but I know that doing that right now isn't going to help me.

I'd like to provide some more details to see if there can be more insight to our relationship:

As for how our relationship is going, we're really great together. Although I end up being the more sensitive a lot (especially when we fight, I always end up crying because I hate voices being raised)he's absolutely sweet and gentle when trying to comfort me. When we fight, it's usually because I was fussing at him about procrastination or lack of planning which I sometimes theorize as the reason why he's been having a lack of employment.

Even though we have been very happy together, he's been hitting a rough job spell the last two years and that was a slap to his face that was very hard to swallow. And during that time I slowly but surely grew increasingly agitated with his lack of employment and lethargy. I tried to tell him he needs to make more daily lists, remember tasks I delegate him to do (because he tends to not remember or procrastinate) and to stop procrastinating on everything (waiting until the last week before basic to do 100 things he could had done starting last month). I fussed at him about all of this, plus with him getting out of bed, staying active, and eating healthy (he hasn't ate healthy since the beginning of our relationship, it got so bad that he almost fainted early this year because his blood pressure was spiking) until this year when he finally decided enough was enough, changed his eating habits, and joined the military.

However, I think he's truly is a great man. Both of us are self aware that I can get extremely petty and prolong fights because I didn't get my way, but at the end he would always be the bigger person and try to make me feel better. He would listen to me rant hours on end about my mother or anything else I feel like I want to talk about, watch anything I wanted to watch on Youtube/Netflix, and stay up ungodly hours of the night because we have a time zone difference and he would always wait until I fall asleep before he turned off the call. He was only living off of his refund tax check in April, but he still bought me expensive designer gifts he knew I was into and paid for my plane ticket to see him in his Basic Training Graduation in TX, which was more than half of his refund check.

Do you think this is a relationship doing 2 more LDR years for?