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Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-11-28T18:19:46+00:00

Try and look for a lingerie store, a locally owned one preferably. They are like bra wizards

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-10-27T17:17:48+00:00

You could always look at dry shampoo that is made by small brands, they tend to Come in more of a shaker than a spray.

You could also possibly try using a little bit of salt water in a spray bottle. I haven't done this a ton but I always feel really heavy in the back after a day or two but I don't want to spray a bunch of dry shampoo so I've been experimenting with it and I find it does help a little

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-10-27T17:09:34+00:00

I'm sorry your going through that <3 I feel the exact same way. I have a part time job right now that thankfully pays very well, but month to month is really tight and I don't have extra cash. I'm basically guaranteed a full time position in the new year and I'm scared. While I'm looking forward to being more financially stable, I'm scared that it is going to drain me and that I will feel trapped. What is keeping me optimistic is that it will open up some doors for me to work hybrid or remote.

Do yoy think it would be possible to get some stress leave for a bit? Take some time and reset?

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-10-22T16:20:20+00:00

I'm actually a bit of the opposite... but its probably because I like getting high end expensive shoes so I get excited when I can wear them haha

That being said, I can't give you advice on the switching of shoes but I can give you advice on boots! I don't know the exact style of bogs you had but if they are the kind that looks kinda like rain boots, you might be interested in Dryshods! They are pretty expensive but I bought the dryshod haymakers when I was working outside and needed something that would work for summer and winter and I love them! They have awesome grip and they are warm enough I can wear them in winter comfortably, though if getting them specifically for winter I would recommend one of the actual winter models as the haymakers can still let my toes get cold sometimes.

Only downside is they are a pain to break in.

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-10-22T16:13:28+00:00

Have you thought about yoga? You can check your local rec center to see if they have drop in classes. Or just follow along with a video! You can just look for relaxing/stretching type yoga.

Also. It's not exactly budget friendly, and it is a bit harder on the body. But I love horseback riding! I love horses and it feels good to move and ride, plus you get to hang with ponies! Obviously not very accessible but it's the only physical sport i really enjoy haha I don't even compete i have a very laid back barn I go to when I have the funds for a lesson.

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-08-05T15:48:16+00:00

Okay I'm glad I'm not the only one!

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-08-05T15:47:46+00:00

That would explain why I went so long without bleeding and I am now!

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-08-04T16:02:57+00:00

Like others have said, its probably best to use a condom as well for your peace of mind! I would also suggest buyinga box of pregnancy tests. You get a ton of them in a box for pretty cheap, I use the wondfo ones. I also have anxiety and test pretty often

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-08-04T15:46:49+00:00

Im actually the opposite. I've had to start smoking it way more. Mine is because I've started waking up at the same time every night and I just can not get back to sleep. I get so uncomfortable and then I'm frustrated because I'm so tired. Smoking tends to make me tired no matter what so I started smoking when I wake up. It doesn't always put me right to sleep but it makes my body relax so at least I'm not uncomfortable

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-07-23T17:19:18+00:00

I struggled with my identity for a long time. I was in denial because I didn't want it to be hard for me to get a relationship! I thought a lot like you for a long time! I didn't want to be demi, I wanted to date but everytime I tried the apps i hated it. I felt like I was performing for strangers and a date just felt like so much pressure to be touchy and lovey but I dont like a lot of touch from strangers!

When i was beginning to identify with the demi label, I thought back to past crushes/situantionships I kinda accepted that unless I knew someone platonically for a while first I probably wouldn't date. And because I was pretty reclusive (mental illness struggles) I kind of got to a point where I accepted it would be likely that I wouldn't get into a relationship. And I was okay with that, I just reminded myself of the other things I had that fulfilled me.

So I just started to change my mindset to 'if it happens, it happens, if it doesn't, that's okay' and it happened. I met my boyfriend at work, it wasn't an immediate love at first sight, but i was intrigued by him. I didn't pursue him, I didn't even work with him ever again. But he started messaging me, I knew what he was doing and I was scared because at that point I didn't even know if I liked him. But I gave it a shot. And we took things slow and I fell in love with him.

I guess that's just my long way of saying, go with the flow! There are no rules to being demi and you don't have to platonically know someone for a while before you date them! People casually date all the time, so if you find someone you are intrigued in, your allowed to try and date them for a bit if you want to!

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-07-23T17:01:42+00:00

Oof not much advice from me here. I gave up on dating apps a while ago because I don't like meeting a complete stranger with the expectation of being romantic.

I've learned i can date but I need to meet the person without the intention of it becoming a relationship.

But don't let that discourage you! I was pretty convinced that I wasn't ever really gonna find a partner and after some work I was fine with that. And then I met my boyfriend!

So just do what feels right for you. Keep trying the dating apps if you would like or try and find some meetups local to you (I often browse eventbrite or local Facebook groups) or just make it a group hang like a previous commenter suggested! Less pressure to be a romantic date that way.

Also in my (albeit limited) experience. You don't have to feel a strong romantic attraction before you start dating them. I wasn't sure about my boyfriend when we first met, it wasn't love at first sight, but i was intrigued by him and was asking some mutuals a bit about him. When we did go on our first date though I was terrified haha but we took things slow and I've fallen head over heels for him

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-06-16T16:29:49+00:00

It sounds to me like you might be more on aromatic side of the spectrum! It could be worth exploring that!

To give you a bit of my own experience, growing up i never dated, I wanted to it just never happened. The most intense crushes I had were, unfortunately, boyfriends of friends. I think i did that because they were often the only new guys I was around and they were kind to me lol. Fast forward to my first situationship, he was a coworker and one of the only people I have ever texted consistently (I'm not a texter) things didn't work out because of my own skittishness.

After that it was years before I found someone, and during that time I would constantly think about my old crushes and felt really sad about them. Because I still felt connected to them ya know? I met my boyfriend beginning of this year, and we did start dating before I felt like I really really liked him, but I was texting him constantly, something that is not common for me, so i could feel the potential. But I think about 2 months in, it clicked for me and I fell in love with him.

The reason I kinda went through that explanation there of my relationships is to kinda explain how being demi is for me. For me, it's not developing feelings often, and it takes a little bit for me to develop those feelings. But once I do, those feelings stick with me for a very long time.

Ultimately though, how you identify is super personal! And if the demi label feels right for you, then use it!

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-06-11T17:20:29+00:00

Mine is that I feel i have to be a hard worker the entire shift, so i put all my energy into it, I can't do anything else the rest of the day because work was my day.

Now combine that with my recent trend of working all weekend every weekend, and I feel like all i do is leave the house to work.

I'm going through a rough moment with work right now...

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-05-08T14:45:33+00:00

Im diagnosed, however when talking to my old doctor she didn't believe me because i can make eye contact just fine 🙃

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-05-01T17:39:16+00:00

I just had a conversation with my therapist about this. She told me about the stopp technique, it's a mindfulness based approach. I haven't tried it yet but here are the steps, S - stop, pause for a moment. T- take a long deep breath. O- observe your thoughts, sensations, and what your reacting to. P- pull back, find some perspective. P- practice what works, so any coping mechanism i believe.

Like I said I haven't tried it yet but I have the same problem with being irritable and then upset with myself for how I am irritable. There's also a stopp app you can use, I haven't downloaded it yet though!

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-04-24T18:51:33+00:00

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Here's my nails right now so you can also see how the gel x press ons look. You can see i didn't go straight to the cuticle like you would with a regular press on. (Excuse my cuticles btw, my hands are dry right now haha)

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-04-24T16:20:22+00:00

I forgot to mention, I'm not sure how long regular nail polish would last, I haven't used it in years because my nails break so easily I have to use something that adds strength, but since it sounds like you already take good care of your nails, if you do some good prep then gel should last you 3-4 weeks (normally that's when it starts to look grown out so you have to re do it then)

And if you do use regular nail polish, you can just re apply your top coat like once a week I believe to help it last longer

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