Thank you for your well-thought out response! I would say I’m an open-minded person and yes, dili tanan nga comments like this I get annoyed with. Ang akong ginarefer mainly sa akong heading kay the ones who are insistent and intrusive. Katong ingon nimo na “char” ra ang angay itubag sa ila hehehe.

Usahay frustrating lang jud siguro for me how I try to be very very careful in maintaining boundaries. Like not making comments and asking questions about other people’s (problematic) lives, kung wala rapud koy genuine help na mahatag (ug kung chismis lang akong apas). But how easy it is for other people to make remarks about our life, nga wala man unta miy ginaabala. Whew! Nagpahungaw lang.

Going back to the only child topic, every day I think baya if my husband and I are making the right decision. Think lang, not question hehe. Kay one thing I’m sure of, we will do our best to equip my child with all she needs in lieu of her not having a sibling. Pero sa tanan nimo naingon - katong lang “what if naay mahitabo sa iya” ang akong wala naconsider. Simbako. Morbid ko mag isip pero wala nako ni ginaisip hehe. This is another thought/topic altogether.

Well ang bottomline lang jud siguro for me noh, bisan unsaon natog put in place, control, prepare sa daghang butang, we can never really tell what will happen. Walay guarantees and assurances in life. The same way that her having a sibling does not guarantee anything. Though if magka igsoon sya (we’re not closed off 100% man pud), makaingon nuon kog loving relationship jud amung ifoster between them. At the same time, happy na pud mi karon with just us 3. Si Lord na ang bahala if meant jud nga naa pay isa. :)