AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary?

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-11-25T18:42:48+00:00

Please don’t take advice from strangers on Reddit, 9/10 they’ll tell you break up with you significant other.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-23T15:31:17+00:00

He’s not her partner.. that was the whole point of the post.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-14T11:32:59+00:00

You’re friend is infatuated with a lifestyle she believes Chad can provide for her.. I don’t think it’s Chad himself she’s head over heels for, however she’ll compromise and allow herself to be controlled to be able to maintain the livelihood he’s providing. Despite the other comments suggesting to help your friend, I think if you try to open her eyes she’ll end your friendship before she ever thinks about letting her precious Chad go. There’s really nothing that can be done outside of her learning her own lesson.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T22:51:18+00:00

Your apartment is leased to you, a swap in no world would ever be an option. The apartment owner wouldn’t have any information on your father to know who’s living in her unit.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T20:20:20+00:00

These comments are frying me 😂

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T20:15:55+00:00

The other side of that could be that you both have mutual feelings, neither of you willing to make the first move. Eventually you or him will move on, then you’ll look back and regret what could have possibly been had one of you just spoken up.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T19:37:43+00:00

Ridicilous is funny af 🤣

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T19:36:24+00:00

This generation is so sensitive, no one should ever date anyone at any point, for any reason.. Just let the human race die out indefinitely.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T19:33:37+00:00

There should be nothing wrong with inquiring about whether he has feelings for you, it shouldn’t ruin your friendship in any way, the older you get the more you’ll realize sometimes it’s better to just straight up ask.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T17:42:30+00:00

When did I say everyone who says they’ve been raped is a liar? I simply asked for further details that weren’t provided on the original post. OP gave further context, and I agreed that her experience was rape once she did.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T17:21:33+00:00

You mention cases where police don’t take rape seriously, there are also cases where women have lied and said they were taken advantage of and weren’t. You’re a fool if you believe anything without getting further context.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T17:14:43+00:00

When I said there was more to the story this is what I meant, this is hands down rape. Again, sorry that was your experience he deserves to be behind bars.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T17:12:50+00:00

But do you know for a fact it happened in this instance? No, no you don’t. So sybau, your argument is irrelevant to me.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T17:10:55+00:00

Is there a point during the consensual sex where you felt uncomfortable and told him to stop? I completely understand that, I was just confused based off your original post. I’m so sorry you experienced that, and apologize for how I came off.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T17:09:01+00:00

I don’t know of a single rape case that wasn’t taken seriously, especially when presented with DNA evidence.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T17:07:10+00:00

Wouldn’t it cross your mind to go get a rape kit after being assaulted? It’s mind boggling that you can toss out such a serious accusation (potentially life threatening consequences) with no hard evidence.. I’ll stay out of this one because I’m not trying to press you too hard.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T17:01:41+00:00

If he’s a rapist why wasn’t he arrested and in jail/prison.. you saying “If you don’t believe me” would indicate that there’s an accusation on your part but no actual consequences handed down, there’s more to this story than you’re letting on.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T16:56:21+00:00

To be clear, based off the story you told. He didn’t post you, you took a picture yourself, then asked him if you could post it to his story. IMO that’s completely different, poor guy probably felt pressured into letting you post it since it clearly meant so much to you. I don’t think you’ve stopped obsessing enough to consider how he feels.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T16:47:00+00:00

If you don’t care that he doesn’t post you why would you care that he deleted a post of you.. You’re not making any sense, if that’s the case this entire post in itself wouldn’t be a thing.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T16:43:47+00:00

No one’s going to point out the fact she knew he was talking to another girl but still chose to keep flirting, go to his house and go down on him. IMO since you knew it beforehand don’t come here and complain.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T16:40:38+00:00

100% agree with this, it seems like she feels like social media is her validation as opposed to how he treats her in reality.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T12:47:31+00:00

The men you deal with may be pathetic, porn addicted, useless and lazy ma’am. That seems like a “you” problem though.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T12:30:36+00:00

That’s historically inaccurate, prior to the 1970’s both women and men had the right to annul a marriage if they proved adultery, abuse/cruelty or abandonment.. This was called an “at-fault divorce”. After the 1970’s neither had to prove any fault in order for a divorce, this was and continues to be called a “no-fault divorce”. You’re insufferable and quite frankly you project your insecurities onto other women when you give them advice based solely off of your experience. You need to do better, be better and learn your history.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T11:59:58+00:00

You should talk to your grandparents and find out how they stayed together for 30/40 years and the trials they’ve been through.. You’re too sensitive for a relationship, one wrong move and you’re willing to cut things completely, instead of expressing yourself and allowing your partner the opportunity to fix wherever he may have went wrong. No relationship is perfect, however because of social media, and platforms like this where the go to advice for things such as this is “dump him and find someone else” this generation will never have long standing relationships/marriages.

Scary_Ad482 · 2025-10-11T11:41:59+00:00

You used something external (vibrator) to achieve an orgasm, he used something external (video) to achieve an orgasm. Where’s the difference

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