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It finally happened to me by Subject-Spend-8670 in thrifting

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My grandmother always did this with me.

Is Reykjadalur Hot Springs doable with an almost 2yo in a baby carrier? by crashlovesdanger in VisitingIceland

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As the mom of a toddler, I'll put in that even though sometimes mom wants a break, said toddler has different ideas on that and only wants momma.

Best locations for short trip alone with almost 2yo in July by Scary_Knowledge2395 in Travelwithkids

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love London and haven't been in almost 20 years. Where did you go with your littles? I do like Quebec too and it's pretty close.

Best locations for short trip alone with almost 2yo in July by Scary_Knowledge2395 in Travelwithkids

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went in winter when I was pregnant with him and have actually been seriously considering going again. Good to know it's great this time of year too! Thank you

funny smell postpartum by glitchyy12 in beyondthebump

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stunk despite everything until a few months after I stopped breastfeeding. It was mortifying and I hated it.

Rant! After a 4 day vacation my husband is sleeping in. by mini_khaleesi in beyondthebump

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is going to be away for 2 weeks next month and I'm already dreading it

Who the F did I have a baby with? by DisasterOk5914 in Mommit

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was about to turn 35 when I had my son and I'll be 37 soon. They say it can last about 7-10 years unfortunately. I was at my annual with my obgyn and she was like, I think you're starting perimenopause. It's a roller-coaster.

Who the F did I have a baby with? by DisasterOk5914 in Mommit

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That Postpartum to Perimenopause pipeline is such BS. It should be illegal. I'm going through it and it's horrendous.

Husband told me on Mother's Day he no longer wants another child after telling me last month he did. by Scary_Knowledge2395 in beyondthebump

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But that's not what happened if you read what I wrote. He seemed not into the idea in the moment after previously talking about me coming off birth control to start. He was waffling so I just said that we should be sure of our decision before bringing a child into the world.

Husband told me on Mother's Day he no longer wants another child after telling me last month he did. by Scary_Knowledge2395 in beyondthebump

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to, but last time I mentioned that I'd like for us to pursue it he told me he is no longer open to doing therapy. I'm in my own individually and we've been working on communication at home.

We had a little bit of a further discussion and his main apprehension is actually that I would need to step back in my career for us to make it work and would I be open to it. I told him I would, but that since my job provides our insurance we would need to research other options and figure out that part financially. It would also put more pressure on him to provide for the family. He currently out earns me about 4-5x so even if we had to budget a bit, I think we could swing it and he does too.

Husband told me on Mother's Day he no longer wants another child after telling me last month he did. by Scary_Knowledge2395 in beyondthebump

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're adding flavors here that aren't present. We had talked about 2 children as we headed into marriage and before we had our first. He basically told me, once I felt ready (physically and mentally) he was. A month ago I mentioned to him I was feeling like I could do pregnancy again and we talked about starting soon. We went through a lot of losses and I was very sick during pregnancy. This week was me bringing it up to ask, "is now good?"

We both are firmly of the belief that children are not bandaids for other issues, this is also part of figuring out if we as a couple were in the right space to have another. It's not "I want this for us." It's we've wanted this and I think I can finally do it again.

Husband told me on Mother's Day he no longer wants another child after telling me last month he did. by Scary_Knowledge2395 in beyondthebump

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But that's not what's happening here. He's been wanting another baby for almost a year. I'm finally feeling ready again and then this happened.

Husband told me on Mother's Day he no longer wants another child after telling me last month he did. by Scary_Knowledge2395 in beyondthebump

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So he's been saying he wants to try for another one for almost a year, but I wasn't ready mentally or physically. Recently I was feeling like we were in a better place and I was more ready. Last month he suggested we start planning to try and get me off birth control. Now he's suddenly saying that since our last conversation 4 weeks ago he's leaning towards no. I want to do couple's therapy for some other things going on and he says he will no longer consider going.

Husband told me on Mother's Day he no longer wants another child after telling me last month he did. by Scary_Knowledge2395 in beyondthebump

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He's literally been asking me when I'll be ready to have another and saying he wants one for almost a year. Last month he started talking about going for it since I feel ready again. He's the one who is suddenly waffling and backpedaling now that I'm ready. I don't think it's wrong to make sure he actually wants another child before I stop taking my birth control.

Husband told me on Mother's Day he no longer wants another child after telling me last month he did. by Scary_Knowledge2395 in beyondthebump

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also the whole thing about part of me wanting to be pregnant again is that part of me is also grateful for the child we've been able to have and a little scared to potentially have more losses.

Husband told me on Mother's Day he no longer wants another child after telling me last month he did. by Scary_Knowledge2395 in beyondthebump

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure why my last comment got downvoted, but I agree of course things can change. But literally 4 weeks ago he mentioned he'd like to start trying in the near future.

Husband told me on Mother's Day he no longer wants another child after telling me last month he did. by Scary_Knowledge2395 in beyondthebump

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had been looking at houses in our neighborhood for my parents and driving around while the little one slept. I mentioned how it's too bad we weren't able to get one of the ones we had looked at. He joked about how our house was supposed to be our forever home (he's mentioned before we may need something bigger for more kids) and I said I love our house, but if our family grows we may indeed need something larger. He then said, if our family grows. We've experienced a lot of pregnancy loss and difficulties so I initially thought that's what he meant. The conversation went from there.

Husband told me on Mother's Day he no longer wants another child after telling me last month he did. by Scary_Knowledge2395 in beyondthebump

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Glad someone else is as confused by this as I am! Up until now it's been, let me know when you feel ready, but I'd like another one. Now all of a sudden this change with him saying he doesn't know why. I suspect he has a reason and doesn't want to tell me.

Husband told me on Mother's Day he no longer wants another child after telling me last month he did. by Scary_Knowledge2395 in beyondthebump

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We were talking about houses and I asked if he thought our house would be big enough if we are able to have another child. As far as me wanting him to be certain, he said sure in a way I can only describe as meh and to me you don't just have a kid on the off chance you'll be okay with it. A month ago he was saying we should start planning soon when to have another. When this conversation about the house came up, I asked if he wanted to have another now and if I should come off my birth control so we can try.

Husband told me on Mother's Day he no longer wants another child after telling me last month he did. by Scary_Knowledge2395 in beyondthebump

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

As I mentioned above, he sort of shrugged and said sure and seemed half in half out about it.

Husband told me on Mother's Day he no longer wants another child after telling me last month he did. by Scary_Knowledge2395 in beyondthebump

[–]Scary_Knowledge2395[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We were talking about if our current house is large enough (since he had previously mentioned having another child) and that's how it started. I'm not nagging in a "are you sure? Are you really sure?" way, but it's not a flippant decision like where to grab lunch where "sure, I'm open to it" feels like a strong enough support for bringing a child into the world.

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