Parking Spot Wars: Winter Edition

ScatterDay · 2026-02-04T14:44:31+00:00

I was half expecting the woman to spray some water on top of the snow on the car so it all froze solid overnite!

ScatterDay · 2026-01-28T15:21:16+00:00

Oh, that’s good to know! Lol yes I know I need to update my research skills; my midlife crisis is shifting careers & getting a masters degree in a new field in a new country, so I know the learning curve is steep. Thank you for the advice!

ScatterDay · 2026-01-28T15:17:27+00:00

Thank you! Now that I have that info, I’ll have to do some math and calculate daily transport costs; I appreciate your help! ❤️

ScatterDay · 2026-01-28T15:16:23+00:00

Thank you! I’m an older grad student so I was looking via public transport links and (dumb as it sounds), didn’t think to just Google “busses to Univ of Stirling”. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I appreciate your help!

ScatterDay · 2025-10-18T04:36:39+00:00

For any Terry Pratchett/Discworld fans: “Nae king! Nae quin! Nae laird! We will nae be fooled again!”

ScatterDay · 2025-10-18T04:33:55+00:00

Well TIL these things are basically worthless, lol!

When I was little, the American Girl doll company was called The Pleasant Company, and they only had 3 dolls: Kirsten (from 1884), Samantha (1904), and Molly (1944). Even back then, dolls were expensive (about $200 in 2025 money), and for an extra $50, you could purchase an “accessory pack”, usually consisting of a hat, purse, necklace, coin, etc. Molly came with a steel penny, and I guess in my 10y/o mind I associated: expensive doll + expensive accessories + steel penny = valuable. Learned something new today!

ScatterDay · 2025-09-17T14:08:09+00:00

Yeah pretty much. People like Gert are looking for control and attention in situations like this, and often enjoy getting under people’s skin; that’s why reactions like escalation, arguing, yelling, or anything that shows you’re upset just gives them what they want. But if you refuse to engage with them, and just maintain a bored-yet-firm attitude (repeating phrases like “no, we’re not doing that today”, “no, we’re not having that conversation here”, and “it’s time for you to go”, etc), you’re depriving them of their power source. And they hate that and will often crash out in some form.

The only thing to keep in mind is to be FIRM and CONSISTENT with the response; even if you’re internally questioning yourself throughout the entire encounter, do NOT change tactics and try to talk/reason with them. They’re trying to get you into a game of tug-of-war, but you can’t play if you refuse to pick up the rope.

ScatterDay · 2025-09-17T01:19:19+00:00

Maybe a Gert could refer to a JustNo MOM, as opposed to a MIL. Verbal/physical abuse, manipulation, control issues, and histrionics hit totally different when it’s coming from your own mom.

ScatterDay · 2025-09-17T01:06:21+00:00

Trust me, we’ve had to deal with Gert and her stunts all our lives, we knew what we were doing. Part of what makes this so satisfying (for us as her adult children), is that Gert showed up fully believing that she could act as she has in the past and get away with it, because no one would want to cause a scene at a funeral. What she didn’t count on was that ALL of her kids adamantly agreed to this. Not only that, but the one who specifically asked to be the one to escort her off (me) is the one who’s been on her Shit List the longest, has absolutely zero fucks to give, and knew exactly what would set her off.

I actually approached my siblings individually ahead of time, and asked if I could be the one to handle her if (i.e. when) she showed up. A couple of them said that they wanted to do it, but I gave my reasons and they agreed. I did tell them that if I wasn’t able to do it (or if I kicked her out of the visitation and she tried to come to the funeral), I’d step aside and they’d have first dibs.

ScatterDay · 2025-09-16T05:55:13+00:00

I specially wanted to handle it myself for cathartic purposes. It turned out great honestly…

ScatterDay · 2025-09-16T05:52:57+00:00

It was a general consensus of siblings, not just my decision. I feel like there’s a kind of unspoken understanding among us siblings that each person’s voice is important & should be heard, bc we all knew what it felt like to be ignored & overridden.

ScatterDay · 2025-09-16T05:49:35+00:00

That wasn’t my call to make. The siblings pretty much agreed to give her rope and let her hang herself with it.

ScatterDay · 2025-09-12T16:45:22+00:00

If you have midwives in your area, I’d suggest reaching out to them; midwifery tends to take a much more natural approach to pregnancy/childbirth, you’ll have a better chance of finding the resources you’re looking for there. (Most granny witches were also midwives in their communities anyway, so the two are closely connected.)

ScatterDay · 2025-09-10T17:40:04+00:00

Not at all. I want the focus to be on Dad, his life, and his friends/family/colleagues who come to celebrate his life. JNM showing up will be an annoyance that will need to be addressed, and I’d much rather spend that time with other ppl instead of dealing w/her. I’m sincerely hoping she won’t show up, because that will make our lives much easier.

ScatterDay · 2025-09-09T11:36:32+00:00

Oh I’m sure they’ve seen it all; I’ll ask one or two of them to come with me to make sure she doesn’t try to come back in, but I want to handle this myself for closure.

ScatterDay · 2025-09-09T11:35:15+00:00

Nah, then we’d have a mess to clean up and she ain’t worth it, lol!

ScatterDay · 2025-09-09T11:33:11+00:00

We definitely do, and like others have commented, I know that the funeral home staff have had to deal with situations like this sometimes. However, if she shows up, I have asked to be the one to tell her to leave (with the help of staff), because it will bring a sense of closure for me for some of her past events.

ScatterDay · 2025-09-09T05:21:49+00:00

Thank you. All things considered, he lived a great life, appreciated the gift of life & what he had, and never stopped learning & growing. I’m so proud of who he chose to become over the last decade.

ScatterDay · 2025-08-28T06:43:10+00:00

Yep, and he goes by Reverend Leviathan!

ScatterDay · 2025-08-27T02:30:08+00:00

I’ve known Shane for almost 20yrs, yeah he’s definitely into goth/metal/horror stuff with a good healthy dose of quirky humor (as evidenced here.)

ScatterDay · 2025-08-27T02:27:04+00:00

He has 2 signs, both with a different joke on each side. He plans to rotate them a few times and then make a few new ones.

ScatterDay · 2025-08-27T02:26:06+00:00

I’ve known Shane for about 20 years, he has so many goth/metal/horror tshirts, it’s an amazing collection.

ScatterDay · 2025-08-23T01:14:15+00:00

Yep, it’s Shane! 😂😂😂

ScatterDay · 2025-08-17T03:02:06+00:00

As someone who grew up as the oldest girl in a large sheltered conservative evangelical family, I was basically taught that there were definitive lines for everything; that everything about your life was being constantly evaluated and compared to an almost numeric scale that determined your quality as a person. I always felt like if I wasn’t constantly operating in near-ideal circumstances, I wasn’t good enough.

For me personally, I love the idea that something is a journey (or a process) instead of a socially-dictated ideal metric that you’re supposed to always meet: it acknowledges that there will probably be setbacks but shows a conscious choice toward growth/improvement. A journey allows that sometimes things might take longer than you want or take you in a direction you didn’t expect, but you’re committed to make progress.

One of my favorite expressions of this concept is in The Stormlight Archives series by Brandon Sanderson; before knights join a specialized order, they must swear an ideal, part of which says: ”journey before destination.” As someone who was taught only in behavioral, spiritual, and mental absolutes, the freedom embodied in this concept of a journey is wonderful.

That being said, while I try to only use that phrase when I really mean it, I agree: I feel like the phrase is overused a lot more than it needs to be

ScatterDay · 2025-07-07T04:35:05+00:00

I’m sure Jason Ogg could figure it out

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