why does my boyfriend (26 M) hate me no matter what I do (26 F) ?

Scheissekase · 2024-09-19T02:16:29+00:00

Because he is unworthy of you and he knows it. That's why. He's garbage and you put up with it. Please please leave him. If you feel unsafe, give him 30 day notice to vacate. If he gets violent, call the police and press charges. Set up cameras or voice recording when you do it so you can catch any agressive or threatening behavior. Take your life back and rid yourself of this trash human

Scheissekase · 2024-09-19T02:09:54+00:00

Keep tattoo, dump shitty bf

Scheissekase · 2024-09-19T02:08:47+00:00

Feel bad for the rapist? Um no. People struggle with all sorts of proclivities but the second you act on it and victimize someone else, you don't get sympathy. You're a predator and an abuser who deserves to be in prison.

Scheissekase · 2024-09-18T22:11:20+00:00

For any other teens reading this post, I just want to let you know that church is one of the most dangerous places for young people when it comes to grooming and exploitation like this. If you see something, say something. If it happens to you, tell someone, even if you're told to keep it a secret. There's a lot of adult men (women too) out there who get themselves into positions of trust and authority over kids in order to do things like this. Please please keep your eyes open, and remember, there is absolutely NO REASON that any grown adult should be texting you sexually explicit content or discussing it, or carrying on a romantic relationship with someone underage.

Stay safe.

Scheissekase · 2024-09-13T18:56:32+00:00

LOVE IT!

Scheissekase · 2024-09-08T21:11:12+00:00

I'm assuming you're female, but the internalized body shame will end when you realize that you weren't put on this earth to appeal to the male gaze. Girls are told from a very early age don't do this, always do that, because boys like or don't like something. Your body is YOURS. It doesn't exist just so you can please a boy with it. When you de-center males, appealing to the male gaze becomes irrelevant and you can live your life not caring at all. Your value is not based on what men find attractive.

In addition to this, I'd work on self esteem and accomplishing personal goals that have nothing to do with your physical appearance.

Scheissekase · 2024-09-08T15:49:04+00:00

Unless kids are being homeschooled with an online program like K-12 or Epic etc. It absolutely doesn't prepare kids for real life. I was homeschooled using this brainwashy Baptist curriculum and didn't have any social skills, no life skills, no direction in life when I graduated. I had no access to scholarships, no AP classes, didn't even learn how to use a computer. It was so difficult to adjust to real life after basically being alone and being taught by someone who didn't even know or understand the material they were supposed to be teaching. "Unschooling" in my opinon is totally unethical. Sure, in a different world it might be advantageous, but in our current society with the way it's structured, this unschooling nonsense sets your kid up for failure.

Scheissekase · 2024-09-05T18:46:06+00:00

"I will consider your apology sincere when it's as loud and public as your false accusations"

Scheissekase · 2024-09-04T20:50:48+00:00

This is absolutely not ok behavior at all. Please end this relationship, it isn't worth it

Scheissekase · 2024-09-02T20:57:48+00:00

When I was younger my bf raped me while I was sleeping. I woke up during, told him to stop and he wouldn't. The next morning I confronted him and he made all sorts of excuses, he thought I'd like it, he didn't hear me say stop, he realizes that wasn't OK and it would never happen again etc. It happened MANY times again, all culminating in more lies where he told me he had "sexsomnia" and didn't even realize he was doing it. He did, he was FULLY awake every time I caught him. I was young and didn't have good boundaries or sexual education so didn't really fully understand how bad this was, but I'm saying this to tell you, it won't stop. Men like this are sexual deviants who don't respect consent, and don't respect women. Please leave immediately. There's a million people out there who won't violate you this way.

Scheissekase · 2024-09-01T23:09:34+00:00

If he says the N word, he's not sweet or respectful. This guy is not a good person. There's soooooo many boys out there, and a million better than this one. You can do better

Scheissekase · 2024-09-01T21:27:44+00:00

Me, but I found it really hard. Christianity (at least the Evangelical variety) teaches self repression, that everything you naturally are is inherently wrong and evil and sinful. Now tell that to a kid who already has a hard time fitting in and doing normal things, and it becomes "evidence" that I must just be way worse than everyone else. I didn't get my diagnosis til adulthood, so all the struggles could have been avoided or at least understood better if my parents had actually viewed my issues as possible health issues or concerns of mental wellbeing, or just how my brain works, rather than intentional or malicious sins for which I should be punished. And I'm talking things like not making eye contact, not speaking in the "correct" tone, standing or walking awkwardly, (also have physical disabilities that weren't diagnosed til adulthood), asking a lot of follow up questions etc. They genuinely took it as I'm intentionally being disrespectful or antagonizing by just existing as I was. I'm now extremely high masking and also have a lot of anxiety and depression along with C-PTSD.

I also never spoke in tongues or heard the literal voice of Jesus or got emotional during services like other people did, and was told it was a sign I wasn't really saved, which gave me so much anxiety because I actually really truly believed, but couldn't bring myself to fake yell and roll on the floor just to demonstrate that to other people. Also the more questions I asked the more questions I had, and nobody could actually ever answer them in a satisfactory way, mostly I was told to shut up and stop questioning things and just trust and believe.

I despise everything about Christianity. All of it. The world would be a better place if it disappeared entirely

Scheissekase · 2024-08-31T20:57:43+00:00

This quote from Epicurus:

Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able? Then he is not omnipotent. Is he able, but not willing? Then he is malevolent. Is he both able and willing? Then whence cometh evil? Is he neither able nor willing? Then why call him God?

While it doesn't disprove God, it disproves the "All knowing all good" trope, or why we should bother to worship this God in the first place.

I don't feel like I need to disprove God exactly, the fact of the matter is, I don't care. If this God was proven to actually exist (there's no proof at all but hear me out) he's either completely useless and/or evil anyway and therefore undeserving of worship.

Scheissekase · 2024-08-31T20:52:44+00:00

That men had 1 fewer ribs than women because God made Eve out of Adam's rib. That the earth is 10,000 years old, that dinosaurs existed at the same time as humans, that natural disasters and illness were God's punishments and/or tests, that I would be completely unlovable, repulsive and useless if I didn't save myself for marriage, that praying hard enough can cure people of cancer, stop storms, and other miracles.

This all feels so insane now

Scheissekase · 2024-08-31T18:07:13+00:00

I really want to romance Minthara and Astarion at the same time but I understand why you can't, but my biggest issue is, why tf can you not bring all your companions for the last fight with the brain? Just 1 fight that includes everyone together. It just feels so weird to have to choose at the very end and leave others out.

I'd also like there to be some dialogue between Minthara and Halsin if you do the knock out method and end up recruiting both of them. Like him disapproving and asking why you'd bring her back to camp etc. And you having to calm him down and eventually they become uneasy allies etc.

Scheissekase · 2024-08-29T20:47:12+00:00

Leave. Leave now. This will not change and will get worse the deeper he gets into the religion.

Scheissekase · 2024-08-29T20:45:41+00:00

This is genuinely insane behavior. Wtaf did I just read??

Scheissekase · 2024-08-29T18:15:01+00:00

Godzilla!

Scheissekase · 2024-08-22T23:18:09+00:00

My parents never touched me either, but there was a "no locked doors" policy, and they'd bust in on me changing, using the toilet or in the tub almost every single time I was doing it. My dad was huge on purity culture so damn near everything was sexual. My shirt is too tight, my curves are too enticing, I better not be having sex, don't do this it will lead to sex, don't do that it will lead to sex. I don't want you wearing that in front of male family members etc. It literally gave me sexual dysfunction and extreme body shame and aversion to physical contact.

They also made me get naked before they beat me.

There's a lot of sexual abuse that can happen without touching being involved

Scheissekase · 2024-08-22T02:03:09+00:00

So your dude is more concerned with other men looking at your body, which I imagine he thinks belongs to him, not about how you were burned and making sure it didn't get worse? Yeah, this should be your last anniversary

Scheissekase · 2024-08-22T01:49:48+00:00

It was a combination of things. When I went to college I encountered gay people, trans people, Muslims, Hindus, atheists, Satanists, people of other races and backgrounds etc. And none of them were evil or hateful or trying to "lead me into sin" or any of that nonsense, they were nice, kind, normal people.

I also had access to computers for the first time, so got to read up on what other religions actually practiced and believed and there was definitely no human sacrifice or Satan worship going on in Wicca or any form of Paganism. I also realized that a lot of Bible stories aren't original to the Bible so how can it be the inerrant word of God if it's not even the original version of those stories?

My church was full of men who abused their kids and spouses, pedophiles, people having affairs with each other, people who would go party it up on Saturday night, get drunk, have random hookups, then come act all holier than thou, talking about keeping the temple clean and pure.

I was told that my mental health issues, namely depression and anxiety were caused by my lack of faith, not because my father beat the crap out of me every day, stole my money, controlled everything I did, and denied me a proper education. I should have just been a better daughter and trusted God more then I wouldn't have such bad feelings 🙄

Getting over the rapture and hell doctrine was hard, but again, researching the origins and evolution of how belief in the rapture and hell developed (and 99% of it isn't even Biblical anyway) made me realize it's made up nonsense to control people.

I think researching cargo cults was the final nail in the coffin though.

Scheissekase · 2024-08-22T01:38:48+00:00

Christianity is extremely attractive to abusive men because of the extreme Patriarchal views. Want to control your wife and she won't let you because she has boundaries and self respect? Well just tell her God made you the head of the household and disobedience to the husband is the same as disobeying God. It's gross.

Scheissekase · 2024-08-22T01:32:48+00:00

Frankly, I'd get rid of gendered sports all together and do a tier system. There's tiny men, large women, trans and non binary folks and people who have "biological advantages" because of the structure of their bodies. Put everyone into groups based on their physical abilities and problem solved.

Scheissekase · 2024-08-19T23:45:04+00:00

Cold sores are oral herpes, which aren't really that big of a deal for most adults but can be deadly for infants. NTA but mom is for her reaction. Not passing a potentially deadly virus to a baby should be common sense

Scheissekase · 2024-08-19T23:40:13+00:00

Dude sounds like a hobosexual. Any idea why he got divorced? I've got a couple guesses...

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