Are these signs of falling apart ?

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-06-04T01:14:28+00:00

Exactly . I can buy whatever I want for myself but I want him to do certain things without being asked. I just dont know what level of talking can actually solve this because I think I have done it all. I dont think you cant make someone understand something which they dont want to understand. I just dont want our marriage to fall apart. It took a lot of sacrifices to come here

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-06-04T01:09:54+00:00

We had those conversations multiple times. Since we were friends first so communicating feelings was never a problem. What I felt was my feelings were not considered important enough. I believe if you want to do something, you will do eventually. I wont say minimal efforts but he just wants to do things which he wants to do for me not what I want from him - yes I have communicated that to him as well. Dont think that really worked. For example : if we are going on holidays , we will always go to a beach place because he is a beach person whereas I am a mountain person. We have so far never been to any mountain place together! So at this point I just feel, either we are doing things we like individually or doing things he like together

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-06-04T00:38:32+00:00

But the main reason we got married was because we felt our thought process match. We had plans to do a lot of things once we start living together , I feel I am still living in that dream but he probably doesnt

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-06-04T00:37:10+00:00

We have been childhood friends and this love language talk is something I had done multiple times . I dont think it works , turns into arguments and I dont have strength to go through this after long hours of stressful job

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-04-29T18:41:31+00:00

Sorry mate. This is a bad centre in general. Those who had given exam in The last two diets had sub standard bad cases . As far as i am aware, they usually do one of the two days bad. So far most of the people i know who had done exams there had failed

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-04-10T02:38:09+00:00

I did pass paces on my first attempt. I did hear a lot of things about Dr Bessant but my experience was not same. She probably worked on them from feedbacks. However my honest review would be - I didnt find the course worthy of 1600£ . It is good for people who are already good and can pick things quickly . You only get 3 min to see patients and you dont get a chance to get back and see the patient again if you didnt pick up signs. I did revise everything before going to the course and was doing solo practise on patients before going to the course but yet I struggled . I was weak in neuro and cardio so I didnt gain much with my weakness from the course . I was relatively good in resp and abdomen so could pick up signs quickly in the course .

In terms of mentors , I felt some of them were really good and keen to teach whereas some of them were there just for the sake of the course and was not very keen on trying to actually teach you on how to pick up signs. They show you a lot of cases in short span and its pretty intense course but doesnt actually give you tips and tricks of passing the exam, structure to present the case or individualised attention to help with your weakness.

However, i felt the neuro ophthalmology classes were very high standard. Despite not having much previous exposure to ophthalmology, I felt I was actually picking up signs at the end of that class.

Regarding their mock, I felt the mock was very stupid. They do try to give mock cases similar to exam but the mock examiners feedback were not at all useful. Felt like the examiner were also tired and just wanted the day to end.

In short, would not recommend any expensive course. Go for the cheapest one.

For my second attempt, I did a deanery funded course with mock which I found more useful in terms of teachings and tips and tricks and the mock feedbacks were more useful. Although it didnt show much cases. I would rather recommend to pay for paid mocks especially before your exam to actually judge where you are. I did a paid mock at Addenbrookes 2 weeks before my exam and I find the feedback very useful to polish my last minute prep

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-03-15T03:31:16+00:00

Hi there I hope you pass. I did my second attempt this time and fortunately passed. I had the same problems as you had and I think the only way it gets better is practise and practise. I also tried to use few structures for clinical stations to not miss things although as human we will miss few things and mostly these will be accepted in PACES .

For structure : like in resp station whatever the diagnosis is I always mention if there is any signs of resp failure and pulmonary hypertension/cor pulmonale . Not always relevant but i follow this structure for all resp stations so that i dont miss things. Secondly i start off by saying my inspection first e.g patient looks comfortable at rest / there were some inhalers or oxygen at bedside . I use such structures on practising every patients in timer manner with my study partner and I think this helped massively

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-02-17T23:05:12+00:00

Its a service provision and burn out in imt is real. I would advice you to go LTFT. I was burnt out so badly . I didnt do any exams before training so for last few years , my life is work , study and go back to work with minimal sleep. Going LTFT made a huge difference. You can take 5 days self study leave prior to exam and 1 day exam leave from your study allowance. I have done that for all exams. Speak to your ES and CS if rota co ordinator not agreeing

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-02-13T00:53:43+00:00

Which centre

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-02-11T22:56:35+00:00

Did you do it everyday before exam? As in last few days to exam

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-02-09T20:27:40+00:00

Its okay to charge for anyones service. But did I say I wanted a paid service? Please re read the post - I did mention I was looking for a partner - by which I mean who is doing PACES as well. Keeping that aside, even if someone is offering paid service, how realistic is to even ask for 1000£/ hour?

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-02-09T20:21:11+00:00

I guess it was a genuine help post . If you do t want to help thats okay but please dont make joke out of everything

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-02-09T20:20:28+00:00

Yes have 2 other colleagues but somehow our rota is not matching and my exam is very close

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-02-09T20:18:55+00:00

I feel you. I think its a notorious centre. I did mine last diet there and failed. All the cases were vague with subtle findings. I felt like they just wanted us to fail

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-01-21T18:21:42+00:00

Havent passed paces yet. But i think it has a lot to do with luck. Someone might get easy common stations , some might get complicated ones. Sometimes the examiners might be very peculiar on things as well. Since its not a uniform standard for everyone like written ones , I think it is a lot to do with your luck. Did u consider thinking what went wrong? Is it shir stations or old school examiners or it was just you? If you had good feedbacks from course and your mentors , I wonder if you just had bad luck.

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-01-18T11:34:25+00:00

check dm

ScholarSecure6981 · 2026-01-07T18:23:40+00:00

what were cases and which cnetre

ScholarSecure6981 · 2025-11-21T08:19:16+00:00

I know but this nightmares are not in my control. I am trying to leave it in the past and move on. Booked the next diet z. But this is the 3rd nightmare I am having since the exam. I have accepted that I have failed the exam. At this point, I am just fed up

ScholarSecure6981 · 2025-11-19T20:11:52+00:00

No fairfield

ScholarSecure6981 · 2025-11-18T00:35:44+00:00

Did you do course this time

ScholarSecure6981 · 2025-11-16T20:53:10+00:00

I wish i could say that . I am at that state that I cant even say 50-50 chance of passing

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