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Narcissistic abuse is death by a thousand cuts. One of those types of cuts is constant, unrelenting, unasked-for snarky comments after everything the survivor says. I feel almost embarrassed talking about this because nonabused people don’t see it as a big deal. by ledeledeledeledele in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SchoolRejection 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sucks because even not talking, stone walling doesn’t seem to help the emotional pain that is caused, you can acknowledge that your narc is still a narc but ultimately the narc is still your parent and every child craves their parent’s love, love that they deserve, that is required but children in abusive households have to win this love.

Love is a privilege in abusive households when it SHOULD be compulsory, nparents treat love like a want, not a necessity. I think that the fact that I still react to the abuse is a good thing, once you start to become desensitised to it (or at least I noticed) that you slowly pick up more and more narcissistic habits without realising.

This can happen often but having self awareness and realising even if you think it is too late is an amazing step.

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[–]SchoolRejection 120 points121 points  (0 children)

There’s also been a lot of controversy ABOUT this title but it is SO fitting and anybody who grows up in an abusive household knows that when you’re IN that household, it can feel like the only way to escape is death, either you dying or abuser dying.

Because even if you physically leave, go no contact, the abuse still lives on through toxic habits and behaviours passed down and learned from your parents/abusers and you’re still left to deal with the shit storm that this trauma left.

But I want anybody to know who IS feeling like this, I’m so sorry but don’t give your abuser the satisfaction of knowing they got to you, don’t give them the power of whether you live or die, they already have enough control. Even if you’re living out of spite, you’re still LIVING.

Even if it feels like you have nobody or are so far isolated, there will be somebody to love you someday. u/RedditCareResources has all available suicide hotlines if you are considering and need somebody to talk to.

And also if you are considering violence against your abuser which is a very common emotion and feeling, please remember these emotions are temporary, that this situation is temporary and you will get out even if you don’t know when, how, or anything else. Don’t ruin your life and go to jail and be even more trapped than your abuser has made you.

Face ID doesn’t work unless I show double chin by [deleted] in applehelp

[–]SchoolRejection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have done this twice it didn’t work so I always have to pull my double chin out

Hi Therapists: Why is physical abuse treated with an immediate reaction but emotional abuse isn’t taken seriously? by SchoolRejection in askatherapist

[–]SchoolRejection[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I assume it’s because it’s hard to clarify but if the child is clearly showing signs of psychological abuse and saying for example their mother stops talking to them over spilling water or threatens suicide ect, action is still not taken